My friend constantly calls me a “skinny bitch” but she says she's just joking.. what should I do?

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We’ve been friends for a couple of years now and

she never used to be like this but now that she’s comfortable around me she’s saying comments like.. “I’ve seen more meat on a chicken leg” or “why do you go to the gym for skinny bitch?” She’s not skinny but I wouldn’t say fat.. I feel like saying “well look who’s talking fat bitch” but feel like she would snap Unfortunately I wasn’t blessed with the biggest ass and she has got a big one and she’s always saying “ah least I have a big butt that all the guys like, there’s nothing to you” She said she’s joking but I feel like it’s a dig at me

And when I was wearing a crop top she said “why are you showing your belly for?”

Feel like it’s just insult after insult and I don't know what to say back

the girl in the white top is my friend who constantly makes comments about my weight (we both go gym together)

EllieFayre · Accepted Answer

Well I have a guy friend and he's been teasing our friend who is a girl and fat that sometimes I feel like he's insulting her too much. I know that our friend smile like nothing happened but I do really know that she's hurt inside because of those insults or tease she get coming from him. You are beautiful and right now I'm envy of you because of your body. Just be yourself and don't mind her. I always say to my friend that she's beautiful inside and out. No matter what kind of body type she is, she's still beautiful. 💖

cosmicc · Accepted Answer

If she was never like this perhaps something happened to her or something she realized that made her feel very insecure of her weight and jealous of you. You should talk to her about it without being confrontational and defensive. Both of you are beautiful and if you want a big butt do some booty work outs lol

Girl-98 · Accepted Answer

If she feels the need to tell you she’s joking after every “joke”, chances are she isn’t.

Tbh I’d consider investing in new friends, cause you shouldn’t have to deal with being put down like that. You’re fine the way you are and you shouldn’t be made to feel otherwise.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Friends can mess with each other and tease each other out of fun, guys do it all the time. It's most likely meant in playfulness and not meanness.

Does it bother you? If so just tell her you know she is just playing but that is something that you are a little self conscience or insecure about and that you'd like her to not do it anymore and I'm sure she'll say I'm sorry and she'll stop.

Caaarl · Accepted Answer

I don't know why you would have a friend who is constantly being passive aggressive with you. Confront her and say I don't appreciate the things you say about me. It's obviously not a joke she's just bitter or has a grudge against certain types of women.

Justacatlady · Answer

That's not nice of her. You should tell her that even though you are friends, that doesn't give her the right to be an ass. If she is unhappy with herself then she can work on her. She doesn't need to comment on how you look. Which is great BTW! You look good don't let her negativity bring you down.

Queen94 · Answer

Jealousy, you have a banging body.

Me and my bestie have a banter relation ship and ocassionly will say "your so skinny I hate you" nd she will chuck a insult back and mention my boobs etc. So it's not always negative. Maybe say something to her!

deric_97 · Answer

You look beautiful but why are you still hanging out with her? She knows you know she'll snap that's why she kept on harrassing you. How bout you call it quits? She ain't your friend. Leave her, let her know what a fucking bitch she's being to a beautiful girl like you. I was in a abusive friendship too, my friend called me out as a bitch in my very own, already small group chat. I just left them that night. Now I'm with two other friends. They sincere. Trust me, you can always find better.

JJ81212 · Answer

I believe she is just feeling envy for you, since you seem to be in a better shape than her, maybe she says that to pump her own self esteem while feeding on yours... Try to give her a hard time as well, let her see that you can defend yourself, meanness left unchecked leads to very unhealthy relationships

Anonymous · Answer

You have a beautiful body! She is jealous of it, so that's why she's saying those things. You should talk to her, saying you don't want her to call you that. Tell her you like your body (you do right?) and her comments are not going to make you eat more / gain weight. She will probably see then that what she's doing is useless and she will know she has failed to let you feel bad about yourself.

Catholicgirl22 · Answer

Take it as a compliment. If she called you a fat bitch how would you feel?

hahahmm · Answer

She probably thinks it doesn’t bother you.

Just say, ‘I don’t like being called skinny. You need to tone that sh*t down’

If she keeps doing it then just stop talking to her as much. Ignore her a lot. Wait till she comes to you & says sorry.

Anonymous · Answer

She is just mean to you because she is jealous and you are prettier than she is. If her bitching is bothering you tell her straight or ditch her.
You are a beautiful woman and she has issues with her self and taking it out on you, don't tolerate that from anyone

uniqueandme · Answer

You are a good weight she might be jealous. If you want a bigger but there are workouts you can do, but I think you look good.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Start calling her "jealous bitch" because that is what she is.

foodmood189 · Answer

I think she is probably very jealous of you and that’s why she always says those things to you, personally I would wanna take those as digs but that’s just me.

Anonymous · Answer

She is really jealous and obviously trying to knock you down so she feels better. I'd be looking for a real friend and cut her out honestly.

async · Answer

She sounds insecure and is projecting this onto you to make herself feel better. Tell her ti STFU or stop being her friend, because she doesn't sound like a good one.

dandiecandie · Answer

she's jealous cause she's chubby. Now you know what to do

steelbunny · Answer

Girl, she is soooo jealous!! She WISHES she looked as you, dont sweat it. But tell her to stop those kind of comments, even if they are "joking"

Bismarck12 · Answer

Sounds like she's jealous. Do y'all tease each other by calling names like that pretty often or is it just when she's on about weight?

potatoismee · Answer

She's really jealous but doesn't want to "lose" the friendship cuz how else will she indirectly hate on you

Anonymous · Answer

I used to get called that all the time. Pay no attention to it unless you need to, it’s just envy.

PondyPand · Answer

What about telling her and asking not to joke so much?

jdrrichmond · Answer

You have a much nicer body. She is probably insecure. You're both pretty though. I don't think either one of you should worry about it.

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