Is she becoming more interested?

I met this girl and her sister at work. Her name is Ana. At first, she was bitchy. I approached her with a simple question to get a conversation going with her. I asked her how she was going to do a specific task, and she looked up and asked, "Why do you want to know? Why?" The expression on her face was mean. Her sister laughed. I stared her in the eyes for a second and told her I was just curious about how she was going to perform the task and walked away.

I then ignored her, only talking to her when necessary. On one occasion I needed to ask her to do a specific task, so I called her over. She walked over with an attitude, so I ignored her. I walked past her, and I told her sister what needed to be done. Something about that moment caused her behavior to shift. She dropped her attitude.

We had small the occasional small talk here and there while her sister was around. I even got her to laugh. After that moment, she became more relaxed around me.

Then I caught her looking at me. I was checking out another girl. I caught her looking at me three times. She looked away every time. So, I walked up to her and began talking to her. I noticed her sister tell her he needed to use the bathroom and encouraged her to follow her. I figure it was a cover to get her away from me, but she told her sister to go ahead on her own and stayed to talk one on one.

The next day I caught her looking at me again. I even got the sense she was hoping I would approach her, but I ignored her.

At the end of that shift, I caught with her after work and talked to her. There was a moment I looked into her eyes and held her gaze. I was surprised she let her gaze at her for so long. I broke eye. As we continued talking, I asked myself if the moment was a fluke, so I intentionally looked into her eyes again. I held it a little longer, trying to gauge her behavior.

Oliverlogan263

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Eh it does seem like Ana might be starting to warm up to you a little bit. Her behavior is definitely shifting from being standoffish at first to now she's dropping the attitude and even initiating some eye contact during your conversations.

That initial moment where you challenged her by holding her stare really set the tone. Seems like she respects that you didn't back down or let her rudeness phase you. And catching her checking you out multiple times is a good sign - ain't no way girls look that much if they ain't feeling a guy at least a little bit.

Holding eye contact again and seeing how long she'll let it go on is a smart way to test the waters further. The fact she didn't look away right away shows she's comfortable with you now. I'd say you're on the right track, my man. Keep the conversations light and fun while also asserting yourself when needed. Seems like she's warming up to seeing that softer yet still confident side of you.

Keep it casual and subtle like you been doing. Don't come on too strong all at once. But I'd say you're winning her over bit by bit for sure. Nice work, bro!

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Her behavior has shifted significantly. The other day I looked over at her while she was talking to her sister. She kept looking in my direction and then giggling about something with her sister. Just yesterday I ran into her at the store, and she smiled at me. It was surprising, considering she is always so serious and dry.

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Oliverlogan263

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Dude, she is totally into you! The way she keeps sneaking looks over at you and giggling with her sister is such a obvious sign. Girls don't act like that for no reason. They're probably talking about YOU! And her smiling and being friendly when you saw her at the store is another really good sign. Sounds like she's out of her bitchy phase and has turned more into a giggly, smiley phase when she's around you. Nice work man!

It's cool how much her behavior has changed recently. She must be feeling you for sure now. I'd say keep chatting her up every chance you get at work. Drop some friendly compliments too, like tell her she looks nice that day or something. Oh, and next time you see her somewhere in public, maybe try asking her number for real. Or ask if she wants to hang out after your shifts. If she's more smiley and giggly with you now, she'll probably say yes! You gotta shoot your shot dude. Things are going well - don't wanna wait too long or she might lose interest. Keep it smooth though, play it cool like always. Let me know how it goes!

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There's nothing. Last Saturday she told me I was the only co-worker she felt comfortable around and today she avoided all form of eyes contact.

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Oliverlogan263

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Ah man, that's a bummer. Girls can be so confusing sometimes! It sounds like she may be hot and cold on you. On the one hand, telling you you're the only coworker she feels comfortable with seems like a good sign she trusts and likes you. But then avoiding eye contact is weird. A few possibilities for the change:

- She could be shy and gets nervous when she starts to actually like a guy. Avoiding eye contact would be a way to play it cool.

- Maybe she told her friends about liking you and they gave her crap about it, so now she's backpedaling.

- Possibly something else is bothering her outside of work and has her mood flippy.

- Or she could just be messing with your head for fun.

I'd give it some time before making any moves. Maybe try talking to her sister again low-key to see if you can get any intel on what's up. Girls are mysterious! Don't get too down yet - she may come back around. Just play it cool for now and see what's what. Don't let her hot/coldness throw you off your game. You've got this!

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I think the friend (not sister) like me. Wilma shy and quiet. Ana did all the talking for her at first, but she's now beginning to open up. Wilma looks for more reasons to bump into me, she more physical, and I noticed how eager she was when I expressed the possibility of inviting them out. Ana at times pulls her away.

But they way I can just gaze into Ana eyes and admire her beauty while me talk...

What's confusing is how I like different aspect about them both. They're both beautiful women.

But Ana told me Wilma is all she has. If my intuition is right and they both like me. I don't want to create a rift between them.

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Oliverlogan263

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Ah man, this is tricky. It sounds like both Ana and Wilma could potentially be feeling you, but of course they're super close friends too.

I can see why you're drawn to both of them - they each have their own appeal. But messing around with close friends is always a risky move that could damage their relationship. Not worth that drama yo.

Some thoughts:

- Be cautious flirting with Wilma one-on-one since she's shy and Ana seems protective. Don't want her thinking you're trying to sneak behind her back.

- Invite them both out together in a group setting at first. Keep things light and fun so they both see you just want to be pals.

- See if you can feel out subtly which one seems more into you 1-on-1 over the other. Slow game is key here.

- Make sure any moves are always respectful of their friendship. Don't put them in a position where they have to choose. Bros before hoes and all that.

Honestly man, might be best to just keep an open vibe with both and see what develops naturally without forcing anything risky. Feel it out - their bond comes first here. With patience you never know what could happen!

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DishLady

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She was probably hurt by someone before. She's not really reacting to you. She has trouble trusting others.

Don't play around with her if you're not interested. It will just hurt her more. All this eye/ignoring stuff you're doing is going to end up turning into some kind of game that will hurt her feelings and reduce her trust in people even more. Just be direct with her if you're interested in her. Ask questions that are direct and require a direct answer.