I'm very emotional, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Since I was a little girl, no matter what, when a little person comes at me, my eyes fill with tears and I start to cry, and this happens without my control, it happens all the time, and the people around me, my family, my friends, start to get angry because I always get it, not all the time, but when someone starts to walk towards me even a little bit. When he raises his voice, my eyes fill with tears and I cry. How can I solve this or why does this happen?

[Anonymous]

So, we always have control over ourselves (even when it feels like we are out of control, unless there is some associated brain damage or condition, which is rare and hoped to be picked up by doctors at an early age if applicable);

That said, we don't always have complete control over our emotions (which does make it very hard to feel incontrol or remain calm when stressed to be in control). That you already undertand this is becoming a challenge for you (as you say here) and that is good (to be challenged and recognise the difficulty)!

I personally would recommend some controlled "exposure therapy" for this; Find someone who you can confide in, you trust, or otherwise understands how you are and is willing to help (if you can't its much harder, but relatively the same actions).

Arrange for you both to go somewhere safe, where you will encounter people you can be relatively certain are decent people who won't be inclined towards bad behaviour; A true Christian Church community is (one which cares for others under a kind and loving god). There are likely other forms of fellowship which may be broadly similar, but I cite Christianity because it is commonly practiced and usually contains people who are genuinely out to help others (but, like anything, ask around and make sure they are genuine).

In that environment, your trusted companion can help you in several ways:

1) Explaining (if necessary) to the person you're encountering, should they feel upset or concerned about making you cry.
2) Being there to support you emotionally, helping you feel safe to try (and encounter people liable to make you cry)
3) Pre-approaching someone, and explaining kindly about her/his friend whos very shy and asking them if they would be okay just to meet you, explaining you may cry and its okay (there by helping ease exposure)

If you can't or don't have someone fitting the bill; Do the same but you will need to be able to explain yourself to them.

I'll give you my BEST tip; I've always been afraid of everyone, its something inate in my nature. I learned that, whilst I can't stop that feeling, I can mask it such that it is replaced by a method to cope and continue. What I do, is when I am in a situation im feeling scared, I imagine myself falling out of a tall building (helps if I'm actually in one) which scares me SO much; I feel freed by that fear, because its a practical and rational fear and I feel "okay" to be scared (vs before I would be frightened that I was so scared and feel I was wrong, sick or weird). So then, I coupled that with a sense of "being professional", I would speak authoritively about what I knew of certain and focus on things I was well studied about. In doing so I felt in control, even though I was imagining falling and feeling out of control. May it work for you too

Forgive me, but I would also comment on possibly why you might find your like this:

Unresolved emotional trauma, most likely. I would guess (and its only a guess) you had some incident happen to you when you where very young which caused you to be frightened by some stranger or possibly you leaned subconsiously crying was a defence against unwanted approach (and thus learned it as a defence behaviour). Sometimes if you can understand how it started it gives you a better ability to deal with / control it.

Hope this helps.

[Firestar01]

If it is a detriment to your life, visit a psychologist and ask for some help. Each individual needs tailored training/treatment and you ain't getting any of that in this app.

[gorydetails]

It is under your control. You have to practice stoicism.

[Emanon25]

Don’t get upset from them when they get angry

[Anonymous]

You get emotional when you see dwarves and midgets? That's weird! So you must cry at every Peter Dinklage movie.

[Anonymous]

Learn some self-control. If you want to know how, get counseling.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like it's your personality.

[noohair]

You might be dealing with hidden trauma.