Why are Latinas so confusing?

[Anonymous]

I’ve dated women from various backgrounds, but I find Latinas the most confusing.

For instance, I was attending a luncheon and a woman named Jasmine came to sit next to me. We seemed to be vibing so I asked for her Instagram and she said she forgot her username so I asked her for her number. She put it in my phone and told me to call her. When I did, someone else answered so I hung up. Then she said she messed up one digit and corrected it. I called again and my number popped up on her screen. She told me she’d text me later and never did. I happened to see her the next day and she ignored me.

Then at church, I met one, Eliana, that was visiting from out of town. We had lunch after church and she chased me down to get my number. We started texting and she sent flirtatious messages, I’d flirt back. Then she started getting distant and finally out of the blue she friend zones me. A week later, she blocks me, so I can’t text her anymore.

Even one of my friends tried to set me up with one he went to college with named Diana. We texted for about a week until he told me that I made a bad joke that offended her. He said that I need to figure it out on my own. So I reached out to her and see if things were okay. She said yes and made excuses about being busy. Then I decided to apologize and she said “just friends” and never spoke to me again.

I don’t experience this flakiness with other cultures. When I have issues with White women, they usually tell me what’s wrong and even if they’re mad for a while, they almost always come back around and want to be friends or at least cordial. White women are so forgiving. Lol Black women on the other hand are blunt too, but there’s usually no reconciliation in any form. While that sucks, at least I have closure. With Latinas, it’s always like I’ve gotta read their mind and figure it out or they’ll say one thing, but mean another. I don’t get it.

[RavVid]

I forget the name of the movie but the wife calls a family meeting and gives a power point presentation on why they are all little shits from the husband down. That's your modern professional feminist woman.

A traditional woman gets what she wants by manipulation. There is a this'll get you laid or a month drought implication. Generally they don't like outward confrontation.

You are still dancing to their tune, just depends on what music style you prefer.

I'd say
1. Jasmine didn't want to be seen sitting alone, especially if this luncheon was a mixer. She gave you a bum number but good for you you didn't fall for that girl trick and checked. By the next day your job was over. Girl world is brutal.

2. Eliana seems to have quite liked you but when she started going distant she had met somebody she liked more but wasn't sure of it. She FZ'ed you as a safety margin than blocked. Girl world is brutal.

3. Diana was saying it is all OK to avoid confrontation but then told you your penis is never seeing the inside of her vagina and didn't see any point wasting time on chit chat.. Girl world is brutal.

I have never met any Latina's but it sounds like they are traditional women and do require you to read their mind whereas you can negotiate to a degree with the modern professional feminist woman.

Which you favor depends on if you do or don't like Power Point presentations. It is still brutal either way.

[Unit1]

Sounds like typical weird women things when they're not interested. Don't overthink it.

[Anonymous]

Nothing you mentioned is specifically related to race, these women just happen to be Latina. Any woman, any race, can be disingenuous or avoidant. If anything it looks like you’re the one with the red flaggy behavior here, not in every instance but it sounds like you rifle through women and still single. Outside of your own reservations there’s a reason for that.

[bobalife]

This isn't about race... you may just need to work on your interpersonal skills or the girl just wasn't interested/taken.

[Taniisokay]

Try black African women, not black African American women.

[art84]

Those women clearly aren't interested in you.