This guy who been a little mean to me lately today saw that I wasn’t feeling myself asked me if there is anything he could help with?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand him bc he was being rude and annoying and mean but today he asks me if there is anything he can help me with I’m like thinking I doubt you even care

[Anonymous]

Ok please explain what you mean by rude, annoying. Because these days a lot of women say that about a lot of men. Especially when it comes to him being honest w her or something. Women tend to get their feelings hurt when he may just be being honest. It’s like when a lot of women say they’ve been sexually assaulted. Yes some have really been sexually assaulted, but I’ve heard a girl say it was sexual assault because a man patted her on the shoulder. So to me a lot of what women say is subjective.

[Asker]

No just not too long ago he jokingly which I doubt it was a joke wanted me to go to team 3 I’m on his team and he kept asking me if I’m going now passed few weeks he be asking me what f I can get him zaxbys he will pay back type of thing and like what I just described on post where he asked if he can do anything to help like you just wanted me to go to team 3 like what’s you’re problem why pretend you care when I doubt u do

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe I’m reading it all wrong but this doesn’t sound like being mean. Men talk to each other different than men talk to women. Men are usually upfront about things to other men. Women don’t like that so much, their feelings get hurt. I’m the same at work. Men joke w each other all the time, talk bs, prank each other, etc. You’re just not used to that as a female. Most women aren’t. That’s why men can never really be honest w women cause they get their feelings hurt.

[Asker]

Yea ok but he wanted me to go to different team how am I supposed to feel about him now and his kindness when he literally wanted me out of his team like whattrr

[Opinion Owner]

What was his explanation for wanting you to go to another team?

[Asker]

Give him grey hair and stress him out somehow

[Asker]

Than his gonna tell me it’s a joke but at the same time it’s not I don’t understand this guy if I give him stress than why keep coming back to me

[Opinion Owner]

So in all honesty do you stress people out. For instance I work in medical. A few men, mainly women. But the women sure can stress you out over everything. The men are usually just cool, do their thing, never ask for help. Etc. women on the other hand always need help. Getting their emotions hurt, etc. Not all but a lot.

[Asker]

Okay so what you trying to say here? And if that’s the case why he keep coming back for a friendship

[Asker]

No I can only think of calling him out on things he may have gotten annoyed but I was just being a friend

[Opinion Owner]

Because men talk shit to each other all the time. That’s the issue w bringing women into a male dominated workplace. I’m not saying your job is or was dominated by men, but women don’t get that type of banter between men. Nothing you’re saying indicates to me that he hates you or something.

[Asker]

Saying I should go to team 3 yeas

[Opinion Owner]

That does not mean he’s being mean to you. You think so just cause you’re not used to be talked to that way. This is what I mean by women thinking a lot of things men say is mean. It’s not. Ow if he said something like you should go to team three you’re an idiot you don’t know what you’re doing. Ok I’d say yes.

[Asker]

Than why would he say that in first place

[Opinion Owner]

Why would he say what in the first place?

[Asker]

Move to team 3

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe because he feels you might fit in better there. I don’t know. Could be a lot of reasons. Even if he was being mean you’re a grown woman, stop letting it hurt your feelings.

[Asker]

So you didn’t prove you’re point he wasn’t being
Nice at all

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know if he was or not. Women get to die feelings hurt really easy. So what to you whatever he says might seem like it’s mean. To me it may just be how men talk. Get out of your feelings. Not everyone is going to like you.

[Asker]

Okay, I don’t care if he likes me or not the question is if he doesn’t like me then why does he keep coming back to me try and be like a friend like I said the other day he was like oh is there anything I can help you with yet, he’s being an ass trying Make me go to team three, so trying to push me to team three yet on the other hand he’s trying to be your friend to me he used to make up his mind because he really is weird

[Asker]

To finalise your statement let’s say he doesn’t like me then why does he pretend or trying to be a friend to me saying oh is there anything I can help you with because he saw that I was having a bad day yeah he’s acting like like he wants me out of team three and he said it. Yeah he’s acting now like he wants to be my friend. This guy needs to make up his mind like he doesn’t even know what he wants. That’s what I’m trying to ask like What’s wrong with him?

[Asker]

Then, after all this, he’s gonna pretend like nothing happened and asked me to buy him Zaxby’s at lunch because he forgot his wallet like who does he think I am for him?

[Opinion Owner]

Because he’s probably just acting the way men do. I joke a lot w my female coworkers. Men pick on each other all the time. Women don’t understand that. You take everything personal, to heart. Chances are he does like you. But telling you to go to another team
doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. If he’s someone in charge or knows a lot more than you maybe he sees something you don’t as far as why it would be better for you to go to team 3. You’re thinking too much into this.

[Avicenna]

Maybe he has a heart after all!

[Asker]

We all do of course who doesn’t have a “heart”