Have we already crossed the friendship line?

Question

So I know a lot of people will drunkenly kiss their friends but one night I got really drunk and my close friend and I made out four times. She’s kissed other friends in the past but we made out four times that night and I initiated each time and she kissed me back. A bystander said we were going at it while kissing and kissed for a while. It left me feeling confused and we both have been downplaying it but it could’ve been overcompensating. Can we still view this as platonic or have we already crossed the line?

Realistic07 · Accepted Answer

There are so many opinions that could be made from this one story. so for the sake of honing it down and giving a real answer I have to ask a few real questions.

1: What do you want from this?
2: Do you want a relationship with your friend?
3: Do you want to maintain only a friendship? 4: Do you want to leave things as they are?
5: Do you want to not be friends with them anymore?
Ultimately the question is, what do you want of this moment that you shared with your friend?

When you’re able to give at least that answer, then a path can be created for an answer to be given to your initial question. Until then, here’s some advice Love is a complicated and fleeting thing.

Although love comes It also goes and when it does, it goes quite quickly. The heart ultimately wants what it wants no matter what. It’s the mind that needs to make a decision and a choice. Not all decisions have happy endings and not all choices lead to good results, but regardless, we must stride for the things that we want in this world less it be no more than a want.

In addition, I highly suggest that you talk to your friend about how you feel. Ask them how they feel, and try to come to some sort of consensus of thought between the two of you about where you’re both going to go with this. Is it just a little bit of fun here and there Or is it more? This is the heart of your question And that question always deserves to be brought to the source.
So ask your friend how they feel about you after that night and be specific If you do ask. There’s no point in fumbling about the issue, and there’s no point in sugarcoating realities & feelings. I can tell you one thing, whether you answer the questions or not asking a bunch of strangers how your friend feels about you when most likely none of us are going to be credibly psychic Is probably not the way to go.

That said the questions I presented you are the heart of your dilemma. Until you can come to answers on those questions, and or come to a point Where are you are willing to put it on the line by just simply have that conversation with your friend. The choice will ultimately and always be yours, and as a human being, you have a responsibility to realize that the ramifications may be bad, good, Or somewhere in between both.

That said in this world, nothing worth doing is without the potential of risk, the heart will always want what it wants. We will never seek happiness in a land of wants without the strength to reach out for what it is that we want.

So I highly suggest ask yourself in Ernest and in maybe even a slight amount of bravery what is it that you want, What are you willing to do to get it, and is it really worth having and the way that you would want to have it?

Ultimately and truly I wish you luck the heart will always be the truest battleground that we know conflicted in so many ways, and always seeking to find It’s missing part.

Whatever your journey brings you I hope you find peace with it. Good luck 👍

V_Injector · Accepted Answer

You're friends that at least one of you should offer to lick the other's pussy if she's horny and can't find a man. My friend (male-female sort of thing), we fuck once in a while because we're just helping each other out. We do that for our friends.

Compare that to the dating world where they put each other through trials and tribulations to prove themselves as worth fucking. What in the fuck are they even doing?

So I realized I assumed your friend is a girl... that was a foul of my logic and it gave me a boner thinking about girl on girl action. I love girl on girl stuff, it makes me rock hard. But I realize it might be a situation like I described with my female friend... just thought I should mention that.

The bottom line is, are you both emotionally independent enough to let it go if something comes up like a new boy or girlfriend? They don't need that "scratch the itch" type of help once they find a good itch scratcher. Can you just let it go? <--that is the question that's the bottom line of that sort of thing.

Also, think about if the other person could just let it go. Because it sounds like you're just "scratching an itch" if you know what I'm saying. Leaving the door open to other options, but you two are not trying to use each other, dominate, or obtain them and/or their stuff as property... like the traditional relationships do.

Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

I would definitely talk to that person and hash it out with them. Hey, we kissed and now just see where you things lie with that person hey.

I understand exactly what you mean I’ve definitely crossed the line with my friends/crush and now I don’t know where we stand but they’re kind of busy so I don’t even know

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

Just keep things platonic in the future and you should be able to maintain the friendship. Since you both are agreeing not to make things awkward and are already downplaying it, I think you should just continue doing that and you still have a chance of being friends.

The_Confusion · Answer

As much as I'd like to smack my hetero cоck in the janitors' faces here, I'd also like to insert some logic here, which still does the aforementioned indirectly.

To say that, which line are you talking about? What exactly is there to cross?

Neither of you two are trying to make babies. Or are you?

Also, I was told that all women are bi. And thanks for the MHO. ﾠ

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It needs  two persons to establish any relation , so when you feel in relation to someone and he feels in relation to you, when it is  EXPLICITLY discussed  between the two of you then... This is a relation you're looking at. What you both do with this information is something else though, it will also involve you both talk about it as well lol. Enjoy talking with your friends !

Arkire · Answer

Wow, a lot of creepy answers here.

My opinion, if you want to do more then you probably have, at least in your mind. Really depends on them a lot too.

I think it can still be platonic. Don't feel so hung up on labeling things unless you want to. If they're not making a big deal, then you don't need to. If you want to, then sit down and chat with them about it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Listen if you and her were as drunk as you say you was acting like you don't remember it should be easy to move on from it cause you don't even remember it. If nobody told you then you wouldn't even know. So just act like it never happened and stop drinking cause you or her can't hold you liquor doing things you can't even remember

razelove · Answer

At your age it sounds like she may be gay or bi, and you want to experiment. Do whatever feels right for you. Only you have the answers to the questions of what you like, how far is within your boundaries, etc.

Finchie40 · Answer

It sounds like you did by kissing her like you did , drunk or not , so it’s up to you and her to figure out what you 2 want to do next with each other? Talk to her and see what she says about everything

dragoblack · Answer

I would say, have a talk with her, try a sober kiss to see how you both actually feel, rgen proceed with whether or not you both want to start a relationship. Being intoxicated causes different reactions for some, so sober ractions may be different.

Nikki1989 · Answer

There are no lines to cross between good friends.

Makeushiver · Answer

You have intellectualized it w/o ever saying whether you enjoyed it or not. It's not going to be a rational decision. It's going to be your libido that decides

Caroline91 · Answer

It depends on what the two of you decide to make of it. You might need to talk about it.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

You've crossed the line too far, you're not friends anymore, there's a bond between you and it's a disgusting bond.

paledreams · Answer

Are you pale or tanned woman,? You could just ignore it lol 😂😆

seth900 · Answer

I think you should stop ig you want to save your friendship and consider turning away from your lustful ways. Its not leadying anywhere.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes you can, but why not talk to her about it. It sounds like you both wanted it and were turned on but it might have just been the booze.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Define it however you want just don't ignore what happened and discuss it.

9in_Serpent · Answer

Sounds hot! Lol platonic friendship is boring anyway

Anonymous · Answer

You were drunk and she could’ve easily told you to leave her alone, but she didn’t. you both are 50/50 in this and can walk away. But you guys are still friends for a reason

WhatsYourZodiac · Answer

Do you mean , heave I ever crossed the line and kissed a woman?

Djaay · Answer

Here's the proof ; that gay is ( learned ) , not genetically or through DNA.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

It sounds like some scissoring is in your future.

Irene97 · Answer

Sounds like you might curious. Just needed alcohol to help you find out. Maybe talk to your friend.

justabuddy · Answer

It's possible, going to be awkward for a while tho.

TallAnon · Answer

Sounds like you two need to have a chat

LiamJHayden · Answer

Only you can answer that.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

CAN I WATCH NEXT TIME

Anonymous · Answer

Is she already out as lesbian?  And you're not?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes you did, I wish I could have seeb that

seyfturk · Answer

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