Reaffirming our friendship ?

[Anonymous]

Hello,

so i have this friend at work (i met 5 months ago), who seemed nice at first we exchanged our whatsapp and we talk sometimes. but recently he became distant, he doesn't text nor talk as much. i have to admit that sometimes we had some misunderstandings but we always talk it out and solve everything. But whenever he gets the opportunity he keeps saying we are friends, or he says that he is a good friend reaffirming that. I don't understand why, i mean i never said that we are on bad terms or that i like him.

A little insight on my personality, i like to make jokes and give out compliments (i do this with everyone)

Do you guys think that he wants to end this friendship? i feel bad because at work there aren't many people to talk to, if he stopped talking to me i will be a loner...

[ShiftingMonke]

Without knowing why he's become distant, I'd trust him when he reaffirms your continued friendship. It could be that he's fully aware of how close you two have grown and knows that you don't have any coworkers that you consider friends, so while he may be going through some things personally, he doesn't want you to get worried that it will affect your friendship. It's actually a good thing that he's aware of your needs and mental health to take time and reassure you that everything is okay between the two of you; it's a very mature thing to do.

[WaterIsland]

I’d give him some space. It doesn’t sound like the end of your friendship. Things could just be busy or crazy in his life right now and he needs some time. But it’s impossible to say for certain.


Take this time to focus on finding more friends tho. One friend being a bit distant or ending the friendship shouldn’t cause that much heartache for you or make you feel like a loner.


Everyone goes through cycles of friends. It’s like an ocean with waves. Things go up and down. That’s life tho.