What are signs that our friendship is ending?

[HappyWoman34]

We’ve both been through a lot and been United through all the drama and foolishness we experienced in our friend group, from other friends. We both got harassed by one each for years. Now we’re meeting new friends. Recently, my best friend has said that we’re hanging out too much, by hanging out a few times a week and talking daily, that she finds it overwhelming and just wants to talk on weekends from now on. We’re not catching up as much or talking as much. Is that a sign that we’re becoming either casual friends, or not friends anymore?

Updates

+1 y

We’re both autistic. She’s an introvert and I’m an extrovert. Both extremes in that regard.

[Oliverlogan263]

There are a few signs that a friendship may be coming to an end:

• Reduced communication - If you're talking and hanging out significantly less, that's never a good sign for a close friendship. It shows a disconnect is forming.

• One person pulling away - It seems your friend is the one initiating distance by requesting less frequent contact. This suggests she may be losing interest in the friendship.

• Different priorities - It's possible your friend's new friends or interests are taking precedence over maintaining your friendship at the same level. People grow apart sometimes.

• Less emotional closeness - Close friendships require openness, vulnerability and a "safe space" feeling. If that closeness is fading, the foundation of the friendship weakens.

• Unresolved conflict - If there are any underlying tensions, arguments or issues between you that have not been properly addressed and resolved, resentments can build over time.

• Feeling taken for granted - Do you feel your friend values your friendship less now? Or that she only contacts you out of obligation rather than genuine desire for closeness? That's another red flag.

However, it's also possible your friend is simply going through a busy period in life right now and could use a bit of distance to manage other demands on her time and energy. The key is open, honest communication. Talk to her about how you're feeling. Seek to understand her perspective. If both of you value the friendship, you may be able to navigate this rough patch and rebuild closeness. But be open to the possibility that people do grow apart sometimes, for better or worse.

[RoseySarah]

Just takes her extra energy being an introvert let her take time away.

Think you never being with people drains you well the opposite is for her even with a friend she gets tired fast.

Be a friend from afar till she gets better at it