Guys’ a girl will stay with you for stability but it doesn’t mean she will stay with you passionately?

[Finchie40]

The second a girl feels the passion and spark is gone in her relationship with you , she will more than likely cheat on you , but keep you around for stability. If your sex life is fading in your relationship and she gives you nothing but excuses , kick her ass to the curb where she belongs cuz she is more than likely receiving that passion elsewhere , do not fall for these sneaky tricks that girls’ play. A loving caring girl will keep you satisfied in bed , not the other way around.

[idonotlikeyou]

You're 46, yet you're acting like a 5-year-old kid. There are countless reasons why a sexual relationship in a partnership can fade, ranging from medical to psychological ones. Without knowing these causes, without understanding what she's going through, a woman in a relationship with a demanding man will give excuses because she has no other answers. And a man who only demands satisfaction in bed isn't trusted enough for her to tell him that something's wrong.

So if something like this is happening, you brought it on yourself. If you were a man, not just some guy, you would know that trust is built over time, and you can shove your demands and expectations up your ass. Nature gave us a brain and a tongue for communication, not for expecting sexual gratification.

[Finchie40]

If she is giving valid reasons as to why she isn’t in the mood that’s one thing , but if she is just making lame excuses just so she doesn’t have to be close to you then that’s a red flag , that she more than likely is being up to no good , I been the other guy that these cheating girls’ run to to behind her husband or boyfriends’ back that told me they were single. I been in relationships with girls’ that did this shit to me as well, i don’t date guys’ but I know guys’ can do this shit as well. So it just goes to show how selfish most people can be , and why most guys’ and girls’ these days do not want to get into a relationship because they are afraid of shit like this happening to them. So I am just giving advice to men if they are dealing with this type of girl , that’s all , I’m not saying every girl is a cheater , I am just stating some girls’ can be if they are pulling shit like this and blind siding their partner. I have witnessed and experienced plenty of times to the point it’s pathetic on how selfish people can be

[idonotlikeyou]

"but if she is just making lame excuses just so she doesn’t have to be close to you." And who judges that? You? With your total lack of emotional maturity? You’re made up of nothing but demands and expectations. You’ve forgotten that to receive, you have to give. To build something, you need to put in effort. And to understand, you have to communicate.

[Crimsyjo]

I get why you think that but there is actually a lot of times women can go off sex. Just as men can. That has nothing to do with cheating.

During and after child birth. Raising little kids that make u feel completely unsexy. Medical conditions or medicines. Stress. Poverty. Having a partner at work all day who doesn't seem to give u any attention or romance. Men need to take some accountability for the spark dying. And yh goes both ways. Just saying sometimes a woman goes off sex fully... with any man! When unhappy.

[Finchie40]

Yes that can happen and that’s fine is she is giving valid reasons as to why she is no longer in the mood , but she should also go see her doctor and go get that shit fixed for the sake of her relationship, But girls’ that don’t give valid reasons and just make lame excuses , is when a guy should walk away and tell her to Go Fuck Herself. I have encountered these u faithful girls’ a bunch of times that were secretly cheating on her husband and boyfriend with me , so I am just letting guys’ know not to fall for this shit

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah I get it. I encounter dishonest men all the time or low quality. No man seems to want a relationship. Just sex. So I could go warning all the gals this (I prob have when on a rant and upset) but really your not helping. Because there are girls, like me, who are looking for real and genuine. Who wouldn't cheat. Who does want a healthy sex life and to care about my guy. But your words will make all guys be suspicious and bitter and then treat all women like shit. Which in turn adds to women view all men are bad!
This is why none of us can let our guard down and just give up on anything other than casual sex! Lying to ourselves that at least we can't get hurt that way.

[BetaBucks]

Crimsy, didn't you once say that you sleep with your FBs while dating new men? Don't you think this creates a scenario where guys are suspicious and bitter, or only view you for sex? When a girl used to do that to me, I would 100% cross her off the LTR list. And never trust a word that comes out of her mouth. This leads to a lifestyle of casual sex for these kinds of women. I mean, why would a guy want to commit to a woman that is having casual sex with other men? That seems counterintuitive.

I say this to you because I think you're a good person (outside of this one foible) and think you should know. Usually I'd keep my mouth shut and let the girl fail, but you deserve better.

[Juxtapose]

@BetaBucks yeah, fucking people while dating is scummy to most guys.

[Crimsyjo]

@BetaBucks Noo noo I don't fuck my FBs whilst dating if by dating you mean seeing a guy regular.
I am on dating site looking for love and in meantime having fun with FBs.
BUT if I go on a date with a guy AND like him and think there is potential then at that point I will not see my FBs (it really ain't that regular anyways.) And then if things got more with the guy then I'd tell my FBs I'm seeing someone and no longer available.

Sex with them is just a gap filler whilst single. I have in the past cut them off straight away in the dating game only to find the date guy was another time waste. So I'm more cautious about cutting my connections. Cos I don't want hook ups with strangers really. So when I do that I have to start over.
I did have a boyfriend from Feb to may. I didn't see my FBs at all. Tho I talked online to my longest one that I still see. As a friend. And my boyfriend knew about it. He said it was OK as long as the guy didn't say anything inappropriate. Or he would go beat him up. But out of respect as the relationship progressed after a month I did totally stop talking to him. And only started again when things with my boyfriend were not good.

I do think even having FBs is maybe a problem. Esp as they are young guys. And I keep thinking giving them up. But there are NO good guys that I can find out there so it feels like I'd be giving up for what? And it's not that good guys avoid me cos they have no idea just from my dating profile or speaking to me.

[Ladsin2]

I don't much care for that. Loyalty, fidelity, childrearing, and respect are what I need from my woman. Not love. Men and women don't love the same. Men have the undying love for their women and children. Women's undying love is only for her children.

[NathanDavis]

my experiences have been vastly different from yours... it seems

[Gwendoline]

I'm not that way but I know a few women who "monkey branched". They stayed with a guy who they didn't love even hated because he was paying the rent, bills and whatever else but were cheating with other guys trying to find one willing to committ to them. My brother recently got done that way.

[BetaBucks]

Yep, I see it all the time. My mom, aunt and sister all did it.

[Gwendoline]

@BetaBucks sorry to hear

[katiesmuff]

Let me guess some girlfriend or wife cheated on you and it was all her fault!

[BetaBucks]

Do you generally think that it's the victim's fault when they get cheated on?

[Finchie40]

If someone cheated on you , would it be your fault?

[katiesmuff]

@BetaBucks I have witnessed it go either way!

[Anonymous]

Lol 😂 a guy is supposed to wait till marriage

[Finchie40]

Oh , he would be wise not to lol

[Opinion Owner]

Guess he’s for the streets

[beefcakebradybatson]

OK, but most men aren't handsome and/or flush enough to take that advice.

[Dongie]

So true.

[Ariesman81]

Thanks for the PSA