Why do the minority of men feel the need to same rape victims, women who have been sexually abused ect?

[Vivenne]

I have seen first hand how men act towards hearing a woman or girl has been sexually abused. Its not pretty honestly and it worries me that these same men that react in such situations are supposed to be fathers, uncles, godfathers, grandfathers etc. I understand this post may be seen as problematic but that is not my intention. If you do find this problematic then i feel you are part of the minority i mentioned.

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I meant shame women!!

[Anonymous]

It's part of the backlash to the feminist tactic in recent years of trying to put all the responsibilities in sex on men, and none of women. According to feminists, if a woman is uncomfortable with something during sex, but doesn't make her feelings known to the man, it's the man's fault because the onus is on him to make sure she is okay with it. She has zero responsibility to even just say "no".

Take for example what happened to comedian Aziz Ansari in 2018. His career was destroyed by an anonymous woman who had a one night stand with him, was uncomfortable with some of the things that happened, but Ansari had no idea she felt that way until much later when the woman anonymously went public with it and literally destroyed his career. We still don't even know who that woman was.

And that is legal... a woman can accuse a man of rape and has the legal right to remain anonymous, but the accused man has no such right. Many men have had their careers, reputations and lives destroyed by being "found guilty" in the court of public opinion when they were accused of rape by an anonymous accuser. When I was a teenager (I think I was 14) a girl my age in our neighborhood accused another girl's father of raping her. By the time she admitted it never happened, the poor guy had lost his job and his family. He later committed suicide, no doubt because of what his life had become as a result of the false accusation.

The short answer to your question is that there is far too little attention given to men's welfare in the rape dialog today, and men are increasingly pissed off about that. It's a very one sided thing, and that needs to change.

[sawno]

Common in cultures that belief being raped was your fault. They shame her for sex regardless since in their minds she must have done something to deserve that. Luckily in the west its not a dominant thought but we do need to be careful we don't import that to much.

[Anonymous]

Different culture I guess. In Muslim countries and culture they see women unescorted by a male relative as fair game for rape or gang rape, even deserving it. Like in Rotherham or Rochdale men along with their fathers, brothers, cousins, uncles, sons and even grandfathers all getting together after mosque to go gang rape a young white Christian girl.

[Vivenne]

it scares me honestly. I would never want anyone to go through it too. And as many different cultures praise it in such, I know many other cultures do not. So why is it that men in these cultures that do not praise or support rape, sexual abuse and/ or sexual violence feel the need to do it knowing its wrong? Do they not see the issue? The effect is quite literally large on younger or older women.

[Opinion Owner]

They raised that way. In Britain these gang rapists were supported completely by their mothers, sisters and daughters as though they did nothing wrong.

[Agape93]

Sadism, coming from a sadist. They don't like women so they seek to hurt and humiliate them.

[Agape93]

Thank god most men aren't like this and don't abide that bullshit. When I was breaking down, my best friend is why I'm still alive. He's why I can function. He's why I even bother.

[Anonymous]

You're much too young to get this. You do not see all your gender is capable of yet. Most of these "victims" are about as much victims as Jeffrey Dahmer was a victim. Believe me I wish that wasn't the case. It would be easier to feel sorry for them if they did not create many of their problems. And I get that this response probably makes you angry. But as I said. You simply do not get it. Sorry!

[Nikki1989]

It is a form of victim-blaming and misogynistic attitudes.

[Vivenne]

Is that something men in todays society have collectively agreed on? Do they not see the problems with such thinking?

[Nikki1989]

Some men are so insecure that they see shaming rape victims as a way to assert power and control over women.

[Anonymous]

INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY

nothing wrong with this fundamental belief

[Anonymous]

Some people are scumbags. But overall people hate men who rape women so much that they will ruin a man's life without having a shred of evidence showing that he's quilty.

[CVNT5]

honestly, i feel so horny rn 🤤💕💦 i wanna make love to a beautiful lady💕💕💕😘