Every 68 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted. And every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. Meanwhile, only 25 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. https://www.rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem
One in five women in the United States experienced completed or attempted rape during their lifetime.
Nationwide, 81% of women and 43% of men reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime
The prevalence of false reporting for sexual assault crimes is low — between two percent and 10 percent.
An article publish in Psychology Todays states "Neil Malamuth of UCLA and his colleagues proposed in the late 90s an influential framework for explaining sexual violence. Their "confluence model" of sexual aggression pulled together several empirically identified risk factors into two distinct paths toward sexual violence: Hostile Masculinity, which involves an attitude of distrust and anger toward women as well as adversarial views about relationships; and Impersonal Sexual Orientation, which involves a preference for frequent, casual sexual relationships and a view of sex as a game to be won rather than a source of emotional intimacy." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201902/when-men-attack-why-and-which-men-sexually-assault-women
Why is sexual assault so prevalent, and why are men so much more likely to commit sex crimes?
The only thing i disagree with here, The final statement. Rape and sexual assault is like any other crime committed. You must prove the person guilty. People must be presumed innocent until proved guilty. Every single crime is like that.. Source.. I have reported crimes. When i was younger, 20 i believe, A book of my checks got delivered to a wrong address, Within days my bank account was negative multiple thousands of dollars. I had to prove that it was not me, and i had to prove that it was someone else. In this case, i was the victim of ID theft, but until i proved my case i was treated like the accused. I would rather have to have some prove guilt, than prove innocence. Only in fascist societies does anyone have to prove they're innocent.
And for as much as i know about sexual assault and rape, cause i was the victim of that as a child, Long story one i do not wish to relive or recount. I dont know why they do it, No clue. I do know its about power and control. A weak person needing to feel powerful over someone weaker than them selves, Or not even weaker, just less able to defend them selves. Its disgusting. Not only men do it. But men are far more likely to see prison time for it than women, because from a woman its seen as less severe, and traumatizing. I can tell you from experience though, that is not the truth. There was a supreme court case that sickened me, happened in my home state.. A 11 year old boy was raped by his baby sitter, and was forced to pay his rapist child support from the child that resulted, They refused to press charges on her, they refused to take the child from her, And they forced him pay child support from when the child was born, starting when he turned 18. Which means by the time he was 18 and able to pay, he already owed 35k dollars. This was a precedent setting case, which means in all 50 states now, if a man was raped by a woman, and a child results, he is forced to pay child support to his rapist. And those numbers you quote, something you need to know about Rainn and most other places like that which are run by feminists, They almost never include male victims in their statistics, because at the federal level, the definition of rape does not include men, There is no part of it that says "Made to penetrate" so, unless he is raped by a man, The best it can be called is forced sex, or sexual assault. I hear women all the time say things like "Well if he was hard its not rape" As if we can control that. Using that logic one could state "Well she got wet so its not rape" But that simply is not true, and sickening to contemplate.
And finally i understand what you're saying here and what you're trying to do. I applaud it even. It makes me sick how much it happens.. But the stats are skewed by the fact that men are WAY less likely to report it than women, and its for the same reason that women are not likely to report. We won't be believed, We will be ridiculed, We will be destroyed by it, or worse, we will be the ones going to prison when we report it.
Can I give you a hug for this post? Know what? I'm going through my computer screen right now and giving you a big old bear hug for showing the full statistics. I'm tired of male victims being left out of this conversation, plenty of us were victims too. Just not as many as the ladies. Both of us have been through it, my sister too. I'm sick and tired of repeat offenders being allowed to keep breathing. Especially child predators! Give them the death penalty. I dont want to hear any BS excuses they are scum and they are no good for anyone.
It happened to me when I was 7 by an adult woman and it was numerous times. I'm tired of the BS about women raping boys isn't a big deal, that it's not the same. NO it messed with me a lot and gave me serious issues where I then had to touch myself a half dozen or more times a day just to get through school. When puberty hit it just amplified the problem. I was raised Christian and I remained celibate but no one knows how much that all messed with me and trying to control myself and be a "good boy" and all. It probably ruined my love life a lot!
It's hard for me to gauge women as a result a lot of times and it's left a slight fear for me around women sometimes along with other traumas by my own mother. I haven't met many women willing to be patient enough with me to open up on the subject. Maybe this is why I hate casual sex because I feel dehumanized in the act. That's why I need a strong emotional bond to ONE WOMAN and I dont want lots of sex partners. I need a woman who can allow me to open up and express myself first. I haven't really had that yet and now I think somedays I'm gonna die alone because of it.
I am so sorry that you had t go through that. You are not alone. My husband was raped and abused as ellwhen he was a young child. It's horrendous and should be talked about way more than it is.
@t-8900 I am so sorry that happened to you, it's awful and it's even making me a bit emotional right now. I feel fortunate that I never experienced anything like that as a child (or adult), but much of the reason is that my parents kept a reallty close eye on me, they didn't trust anyone around me, strangers or family, they had their own experiences as children that made them distrustful of adults. Years later, a relative of mine confided in me about being molested by one of our great relatives by marriage and swore me to secrecy even though this predator is dead, they didn't tell me till after this person was dead. I have honor this person's wish of secrecy but I cannot mourn for this dead predator now that I know. It doesn't even matter whether the victim was male or female or whether the predator was male or female, what happened was horrible but I am happy to say this person who experienced the abuse did find love, happiness and a normal life. I really hope you find way to move past this and move on with that one special women that will find someday.
ty both I did write this all in my mytakes about my childhood. Inspiration came from @DizzyDesii lot of you ladies have been lifting my spirits up. I've been going through life feeling like I'm the damaged goods that no woman would ever want to be with. But I'm trying to be more positive because of the positivity I am receiving from you all. It makes me feel better. It might sound silly because we're all like strangers but I've had little feminine energy in my life and I desperately need that right now. You words just help me stay the course. Thank you so much.
The only reason the statistics are so biased is because most men don't ever come forward because sex isn't as traumatic to them. When a woman lusts over a man, takes him somewhere secluded and and strips him to have sex most men just go along with it, they nullify the assault by consenting to it. The few who do come forward are the ones who are actually hurt in the process where the woman not only initiated sex she also got violent.
For women the situation is very different as women's body is more prone to injury and trauma during sex they cannot afford to just play along and so they become rape victims.
Now I'm not trying to make light of any sexual assualt situation but I wanted to point out that these are statistics that do not take into account all the variables hence they are biased in order to paint an ugly picture
Exactly. Which is why I'm saying men get assulted more often than recorded they just consent to it after the fact which nullifies the assault but it doesn't change that it started as an assault
The power dynamics is the ultimate goal. Even beyond sexual drive, the overwhelming power over the individual is the drive. This is why majority of sexual abuse happens from trusted family and friends of the family. That ultimately abuse the trust given for higher power.
At the same time marginalized groups are the next in line. Wayward people with no strong standing in any community get targeted. Limited power getting overwhelmed in a shadowed environment.
I also want to point out my opinion is intentionally gender neutral. Males do get raped because of the power dynamics from trusted families, from being in marginalized groups and become powerless. If this is your only understanding of power dynamics it's a misguided life.
This is all too common for a few hundred centuries and we have a lot of new ways to understanding sexual abuse for a better future.
While I take sexual assault crimes seriously I just have to ask, why is it every question you post 100% one side when it comes to gender wars?
I’ve posted controversial questions but I do try to hear out the other side. I sure as hell don’t generalized all women as conniving and conceited. I do have a serious issue with radical feminists but that of course isn’t all women.
If you were truly a victim of true criminal sexual assault in your life than I am sorry about what happened. I hope the POS was persecuted.
But there is huge amorphous and constantly changing guidelines on what is and what is not sexual assault or even inappropriate behavior. If men and women are truly going to coexist better than we need uniform rules on what is and what is not okay.
Men are much more capable of committing both physical and sexual violence given our strength and anatomy. That does not however that we will automatically do something like this. The vast majority of us don’t. I seriously couldn’t do something like that if my life depended on it. I don’t think I could even get it up in that situation. I’ve had women in the past tell me I was rough enough in bed (because women like you make me paranoid).
While women are not as capable of physically harming men they are more than capable at harming men in other ways. The #metoo movement saw large swathes of unsubstantiated and weaponized claims that resulted in destroyed reputations and lost jobs for untold numbers of men. Maybe some of the allegation were true, others were exaggerated while some were outright lies.
I could try digging deep to find statistics on the damage metoo did. However I doubt I will come across any studies. Reason being our society, journalists and media are mostly partial the left. They either don’t put the time in doing the research or if they do and it goes against their narrative they bury it.
The issue I have with your post is there is an underlying indictment on men in general. This is a much more complicated subject that just a few research studies from a few left leaning publications.
And again if something really did happen to you I am sorry. That does not mean I am blowing that off. If it was indeed sexual assault, battery or rape I hope you reported it.
because men are much more prone to lack control of impulsiveness and also to succumb to such impulsive behavior... and it's not just sexual crimes, all kinds of crimes, violent or not... many men are just testosterone fueled beasts that lack self-control
" There is evidence that testosterone levels are higher in individuals with aggressive behavior, such as prisoners who have committed violent crimes. Several field studies have also shown that testosterone levels increase during the aggressive phases of sports games "
but, is not just the testosterone "excess" is the brain that lacks the proper mechanisms to regulate and manage impulsiveness and urges
Not a hard question to answer. Men are assholes, they think they have some sort of right to sex, they have been encouraged by a fat hairdo that said it's ok to grab women by the pussy, and, yes, a tiny bit biology. And I'm a male, and these assholes make me sick. My friend is an attorney that represents a lot of abuse victims and she's my fucking hero for doing her part to let the world know that it's not ok.
Its not very prevalent in normal social groups. Many young women i know dress conservatively and dont go alone with strange men. My girlfriend will dress extra conservatively when im not around and only dress sexier (still not slutty) unless im with her. Generally doesn't go anywhere without me or my family or her family. Nobody has been assaulting her.
Its generally women dressed like sluts hanging out at bars or leading men on to sex, even inviting a drunk man into her bed and getting naked and then upset he doesn't enthusiasticly except a 'no' at the final moment. Smh.
Statistically children and teens are more likely to be sexually abused more than any other age group. Consent can be rescinded, a minor can not consent and neither can someone who is too intoxicated.
1) Because women dress like sluts 2) Women get drunk and act like sluts 3) They tease guys when drunk. 4) Women tend not to be able to make their minds up whether she wants sex or not 5) No sometimes means yes because women role play and have rough fantasy sex today. 6) Some charges are bogus by women to get revenge on a man. 7) Men are aggressive and sight driven 8) Woman invites guy to her room and suggests sex and guy is in her and he cums as she changes her mind. Since women don't have a penis , it is impossible to stop cumming in a second. 9) The woman has to much to drink or smokes a joint then has buyer remorse and decides she shouldn't of had sex last night with this guy and says it was rape.
All the above is true whether women want to admit it or not.
I was 16 years old and needed a job. I did not report it because I was afraid, but I wish that I had because maybe I could have prevented so much more damage. www.oregonlive.com/.../...t_hood_community_co.html
I was subpoenaed to testify against him inform of a grand jury when I was only 16 years old
Men are hardwired to act. Our brains are action-oriented. This is why girls almost always develop speech and language abilities faster & at a greater level than do boys. Equally, boys show a greater ability in sports (kicking/throwing/catching a ball, etc) than do girls.
Thus, take a mentally unhealthy person, make him a man, so his first instinct of reaction will be to do something rather than freeze, think, or feel, and you'll get spur of the moment attacks. Make him psychopathic and you'll get a lot worse than that.
go back and reread what you put "The prevalence of false reporting for sexual assault crimes is low" that right there is key to this whole thing. men don't report it as much because of society's stigma on men being sexually assaulted by women since men are "supposed to enjoy it" otherwise he'll be thought of as gay. whereas women can cry false rape and nothing will happen to her. when real sexual assault victims especially women report it the justice system lashes down hard on men but being in this fucked up country the gender biased court system only briefly and lightly scolds a female perpetrator and receives a much lighter sentence if any for the same crime a man would commit which is a known fact. i'm not saying sexually assaulting or raping anyone is ok or fine i never said that nor do i condone that in anyway shape or form but those numbers you're seeing are way way off basis
The #MeToo movement pretty much showed that statistics are wrong when it comes to this and false accusations are more common that previously thought. I have seen people get falsely accused before IRL too. (women were the false accusers every time) and I have been harassed repeatedly where I worked 10 years ago in front of co workers and the supervisor by a woman and nothing was ever done because it usually isn't taken seriously when a woman is the harasser. This was in a school setting too.
First of all it's about access to sex, most women get access to sex without anyone actually objecting or file assult charge to the legal system. It's harder to rape a guy because we are bigger and stronger and our gender. And our package won't be sexually willing most of the time we are against it so it's quite futile for a woman to use violence. They use manipulation instead and that doesn't lead to crime charges.
Those statistics are depressing. Good research on your part though. Hard question to answer. It could be because men are far more violent than women, and violent crime is the domain of men. And along with murder, armed robbery, and aggravated assault, rape is just another expression of that violent nature. Next to murder, rape is actually one of the sickest things you can do to a person.
If one samples a random man and a random woman, the man will have higher trait aggression 60% of the time. This average difference is due to the higher testosterone content in men. However, the variation of trait aggression (as well as many other psychological attributes) among men is wider than it is among women, so if one looks at the top 1% most aggressive people they will almost all be men.
"One in five women in the United States experienced completed or attempted rape during their lifetime." - Yeah, because the new definition of rape is... He said hello and he wasn't rich or great looking. None of the dozens of women in my family has ever been raped or anything like it/
I don't think you'll find a good answer for that here, but there have been volumes of books on the subject. The simplistic quickie answer is that the men who do this feel they're entitled to and use the slightest suggestion of provocation as a justifiable excuse. Why they feel entitled is beyond me.
Why? Guys are more sexual by nature, we can technically have 10.000 children, a woman about 15 at most. We are also stronger and taller, which makes the crime easier to commit. We are all still just animals that happen to use some more advanced tools.
I think it's because the nature of sex is submission and domination. An attempt to dominate someone against their will will result in a crime. Submitting to someone against their will doesn't really sound like a crime.
Here's the thing: Your statistics are flawed and meaningless garbage. Men simply do not report sex crimes against them. 'Distrust towards the opposite sex and a view of sex as a game' sound more like women than men.
The sources I sited are though reputable sources. We all know that a large amount of abuse goes unreported unfortunately, though that doesn't man that the majority of sexual abuse are at the hand of men.
WHAT ARE you talking about. In her post: "Nationwide, 81% of women and 43% of men reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime"
this isn't a one sided issue. Clearly she's sharing that its a problem for EVERYONE.
Ok, I'll give you a reputable source that says most crimes are committed by black men, and then that will give you a license to be a racist and a bigot. How does that sound?
@bean2k21 I mean I was raped by a woman as a child. But I think even if we had accurate statistics and estimations my guess would still be men outnumbering women as rapists 4-1 probably. Most women are NOT that assertive in sex like that and most are nurturing by nature. If you look at our history men would rape and pillage during wartime, not women. Look it's not saying men are better or worst then women.
We simply have a difference in our biology and some men refuse to conform to the rules of society. And they have no morals. They are stronger and bigger and women will typically end up putting up little resistance to a rapist so they'll take advantage of that situation.
Its the same thing with children. Children are preyed upon because they can't fight back. Perhaps this is one of those scenarios in which "betas" should have been weeded out and discarded because they are the sex fiends that can't get it the normal way and prey on women and children. I was a former Catholic. Was it nuns or priests doing all that sh*t? No only were little boys and girls being raped by the clergy but the nuns were too and sometimes killed to keep silent.
How the heck is psychology today a credible source for you? You just posted a compilation of a lot of dumb and BS data I would say. Do you have actually studies to prove your point?
I’ll have to check that first to believe how much of it is actually correct in those sources but do you not care about the victims of false rape accusations?
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