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I have been sexually assaulted by multiple women. Funny how they refuse to acknowledge that it can be perpetuated by a woman against a man. In my state there has been a rash of female public school teachers getting sexually involved with underage male students, and yet they literally get a slap on the wrist. When women bitch that men don't take it seriously, maybe women should start taking it seriously too. Just because it doesn't happen against a woman doesn't mean its illegitimate. I'll take sexual assault against women as seriously as they take it against men. AKA not at all.
When women take sexual assault they commit against men seriously, I'll take their accusations seriously.. You wouldn't believe how many women think it is acceptable to grope a mans ass.
Yep so have I but I don't feel scarred by it. I think the issue is men feel embarrassed and know they won't be taken seriously. Legally for example rape is defined as a man forcing a woman, there is technically no law asaik to stop women raping men. I may be wrong but that's what I have heard.
This is a very sore subject for me. My beautiful brother was taken from my family through abuse from a priest. We where and still are a very close family he was 8 years old when the first case happened. Then again at 12 at a retreat centre.
We where not aware of what happened to him until he was 40 years of age struggling with alcoholism, he then confided in my mother. I will never forget the anger and shock. This killed my only brother I miss him so much and struggle with my Christianity because people of "god" did this!
It is a very serious issue that we need to change the stupid bias that males cannot be abused!!!
We live in a society that reduces men to their sexual urges. People assume incorrectly that men are always up for it so they must have wanted it, at least in the case for men victimized by women. Men are significantly less likely then women to report sexual harassment or rape (and women aren’t likely to either). So what can we do about it? Speak up when you hear people belittling someone’s victimization, support victims groups that have branches dedicated to male victims, and most importantly support anyone who comes to you about an assault.
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I think we still think a man can't be a victim because we think men can fight off an attacker. We forget that men can be attacked by bigger men, and especially when intoxicated, can be attacked by a woman. We don't give men much opportunity to express things that have happened to them in a way that his would preserve his dignity. He's likely to be called less of a man. One GAG user even told me if a man gets attacked that means he's a fag or sissy.
That doesn't create an environment where a man can feel safe talking about and dealing with his trauma.
What do you think are the best ways to raise awareness? What do you think are the best ways to support a man who has been victimized?
because too many (both men and women) don't believe men can be victims. it is another characteristic of toxic masculinity that a man can't be raped or be a victim.
it's due to notions like: we're two strong and women are two weak for men to be victims OR all men want the sex they get from women
Any problem of men is widely ignored. Unless it affects women. For instance the issue that schools are catering to girls and boys often get ignored alienated etc. This has resulted in the huge gap between males and females with a college degree but what do you hear about in the media? Where are all the good (aka rich) men?
Why are men not stepping up and marrying these 35-40 year old women with good careers but no man? You see tons of these kinds of stories but never do you see anybody say. The reason why there's less eligible (again aka rich) men is because women took their jobs.
Women are seen as valuable by society because they can have children. Even though today we have so many people not that many women are actually needed, a little less people would be good for the planet. But it's in our instincts, that's just how it is. But men are only seen as valuable if they can provide a lot. The majority of men is seen as worthless. Even though many people would deny that, it's true. So men's issues are just ignored, laughed at, whatever.
Like if you see somewhere 50 people dead. You can be sure it's men because if there were any women it would say in the headline.
There was this story in the movie the red pill.
There was this terrorist group in Somalia and they hated education because people with brains ask annoying questions. They would go to schools with guns and round up all the kids. They would tie up the boys and burn them alive and they would tell the girls to go home never go to school again and live by the quran.
But nobody cared as long as they were killing boys so one day instead of letting the girls go, they kidnapped them. And wouldn't you know it? It sparked a international outrage The Obamas started a campaign to rescue the girls it was all over the media and social media.
They still killed the boys but nobody cared about that part they kidnapped girls OMG just for wanting to go to school and learn!! This is so sexist!!! But is it though? Did they let the boys learn? Who's really sexist? Is it the terrorists or is it the people who didn't care or didn't report about kids being burned alive as long as they were boys?
That's the world we live in, don't expect anybody to care about you. So take care of yourself and go after what you want/need.
Sexual abuse, no matter who produces it, is a serious and disgusting act reserved for the true sociopath. Their infliction on the victim can last a lifetime. As we have seen with the metoo movement these acts remain embedded for decades but what if no one listened to these women, how much worse would the trauma be?
I'm a male of almost 60, 50 years ago any boy who was the victim of this would not speak up. Unlike the female who could cry and have many sympathetic ears available along with vast support from police and vigilante's the male remained silent. The male feared if he spoke up he would be accused of engaging in this voluntarily and would now be labeled as a homosexual, something that 50 years ago was a condemned act and why gays hid in so called closets.
Next even if he did speak up the police would not follow up as the courts didn't was something so disgusting to be heard about our society. Finally the boy has in his mind something far worse than a female, he not only lost his virginity but he feels ashamed and feels he lost his manhood, something he'll never get back. Nobody listened.
If such a movement as metoo for men began today I believe that society would still feel like saying, suck it up, your a man, that happened long ago, get over it which, demonstrating a complete lack of empathy. We're men, we're supposed to be able to handle anything.
How do I know these things? 50 years ago I was given away to the state by my mother, I was then placed in a foster home of a single man and what happened to me over the next 18 months was nothing but daily sexual abuse. I tried to tell my social worker, no help, I tried to tell the police, they didn't care. As a result I would walk 20 miles through waist high snow, sit in front of the jail for 2-3 days until they took me in just to get away from this abuse
When asked why I would sit there I explained what this man was doing to me & the other boys. By law after 3 days later they'd return me to him and never say a word except to tell me not to say a word. 28 times in 18 months is how many times I went there. Sometimes I wouldn't go but after 45 days I would be physically picked up and placed outside. How bad does something have to be for a child to not only voluntarily go to jail but to fight others from making him leave?
As a result of this kind of ignorant blind eye turning more than 80% of male children back then were freely sexually molested, this means that 80% of our men over 40 experienced this.
Men are the ones mostly ignoring other men's problems. Besides from the stupid feminazis, women will tell you if you are alright and to seek help. Men however, from what I gathered, think men can't get raped or they should have fought back or some stupid reason like that. If a man raped another man. Also, i don't know why they'd think less of the rape than they would if he was a woman. I'd literally flip my shit if a male friend or family member of mine got raped. Unless you're a male child, i see there is a lot of disregard for male rapes. Its some taboo subject in many cases. I think men stigmatize themselves to much, so when the time comes when brotherhood is needed the most, most men just push it under the rug.
I was assaulted by my babysitter when I was in 3rd grade. I told my parents the week after, and they buried it under the rug I suspect because of not wanting to deal with the shame. It has never come up in conversation with them again since. I told a couple friends in high school and they just offered fist bumps and wanted details on how hot she was.
To this day I wouldn't say I'm emotionally scared or wrecked by that experience, but it opened my eyes to the reality of how people GENERALLY respond to such events. So I move on with life and pretend it never happened because there is no purpose in reopening an old wound.
Because it shows that they were weak at one point, so they don't want to speak up. And a lot of ignorant people don't think sexual assault can happen to guys when it does. More than you'd think. And I, being a victim of sexual assault and such, find it quite sad when they too go ignored for speaking up or get called liars.
I think it's society that has taught men that they need to be strong and hide their emotions because guys are "supposed to be strong and be the protection for girls" which I find complete bullshit. Like guys are human, they need support to, and to show their emotions and sometimes they even need to cry.
Anyway, I forgot where I was going with that but yeah.
People behave that way because on average males are phisically stronger. That average makes people believe the faulty generalization than men are always stronger. Besides people tend to believe that in an abuse the abuser (male or female) will always be the phisically stronger, which might usually happen, but not necessary always. So if people believes all this, people tend to believe that because men tend to be stronger they only can be abusers and can't be abused. People should know not every men is that strong or that there are psychological ways to force people and abuse even if they are phisically stronger.
To finish, another problem might be the irreal idea that all men always are horny and want sex, which is a lie. Maybe a emotional, social and sexual education of quality could help future generations to avoid this kind of abuse in both men and women and learn to respect every individual, and specially not to mock or treat differently due to gender.
Because Lets be honest. Nobody gives a shit about men who get assaulted and harassed unless they are under 10 and even then a lot of people will just say they got lucky.
You know the whole thing with Asia Argento and Jimmy Bennett?
If Jimmy didn't have hard photo evidence and text messages to collaborate his claim AND wasn't considered a minor at the time, do you HONESTLY think anybody would believe him? I seriously doubt it, i imagine many of these #metoo hacks would have brushed him off, in fact a lot of #metoo types STILL don't believe him.
To many of these self righteous feminists, men are expendable at best, and flat out worthless at worst.
Why is the sexual victimization of men ignored? Because no one cares.
Men don't seem to speak up as often as women do, therefore there's not much coverage on it and it's still kinda a taboo subject. Can't blame them for not speaking up either due to the awful stories I've heard of people thinking a man can't be sexually assaulted and calling them weak. The double standards when it comes to this are both ridiculous and saddening.
People still see men as strong and assume that they should be able to fight back and because of that, men aren’t taken as seriously when they speak up and many don’t speak up at all out of fear of being ridiculed. I remember when the whole Terry Crews incident happened and I remember reading so many comments basically dismissing what he went through because “he’s a big, strong man and should’ve been able to fight back” and that he should “man up” because it wasn’t a big deal.
When I first told someone I was raped by my sisters friend they asked for a high five, I was 8 years old. When I was 11 I was raped for the first time by my step father and when I told my mum she beat me, rape went on for 4 years every time she left me alone with my step father, I used to cry begging her not to leave me with him, I ended up running away and haven't been back since and haven't seen any of them for nearly 20 years. To this day I can't stand men coming too close to me because I start freaking out and curl up in a corner.
Because everyone that’s supposed to garner attention for that and support for its victims are too busy trying to hype up how common the sexual victimization of women is. But, to be fair, the only people who I hear pull the “Well a guy should enjoy it and feel lucky to have been sexually assaulted by a woman,” are other guys.
Because in this world only women matter.. take a look at what happens to these female teachers that sexually assault boys... most of the time a slap on the wrist.. some even get to keep teaching... Male teachers that do the same thing... straight to prison for 25+ years...
It's because no one cares how men feel generally. The stronger sex isn't supposed to allow things like this to happen to them or to affect them. We all know it does happen, It's just that men aren't as important to the future of the planet overall as women. We don't produce children from our bodies. We aren't physically weaker or expected to need as much help. That's just the way the world is, not even human society.
I've been sexually assaulted as well. I choose not to let it turn me into a victim. I don't want to be coddled and treated like a child. I never want to be a victim and kept in a safe space. I'll stand up taller than those who seek to hold me down.
I don't know, just something that comes naturally to me. Supposedly, it has something to do with the massive amounts of testosterone we men have. Who knows.
I suppose one reason is shame. Lots of men maybe won't talk about it, becuz it makes them look weak. And what happens if they do talk about it? Ridicule? You're a guy. Be a man. I've been a victim of physical sexual harassment in the workplace. Took a lot of guts to complain to the boss.
Beacuse our society is sexist. But not in the way feminist say. The opposite one.
If you're a women, society cares about you. If you're man, then nobody gives a shit.
Look arround. Dating sites, severe lack of females. Here, there was some poll. Which sex do you preffer to be firends with. Females win.
If you're guy, you're not supposed to have feelings.
Feminist propaganda.
If they had to admit that issues like sexual assault aren't gender issues then their entire ideology falls apart.
If they had to admit that the Male and Female brain copes with these issues differently and need different approaches to treatment then their entire ideology falls apart.
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