Is there ever an appropriate time to say good girl or be called a good girl?

[mandyfire98]

So earlier on here, I replied to a guy with a normal response and his reply to me was "good girl" I simply replied "weird" and he lost his mind lol. I told him that used at an inappropriate time it makes me feel like he's treating me like a dog.

He proceeded to go unhinged and curse at me and eventually blocked me 🤣🤣

So I thought, is this something that is now being commonly thrown around at inappropriate times?

Do you find every situation appropriate for it or only certain situations? Or never appropriate?

Never an appropriate time

Always appropriate

Only at a certain time (comment)

[Babygirl_S]

It has happened to me a lot when I talk to white boys. I also interact with everyone’s favourite INDIAN guys who even say thinks like “take my d**k you wh*re” to a virgin like me just because I said I wasn’t interested and the guy was fugly. I’d take the former over the mentally unstable latter in a heartbeat. People think I like white men because they look better than Indian men but look at the behaviour also. Indian guys are ACTUALLY jerks. They want a white skinned virgin with a pretty face and big boobs who can work like a slave, earn a lot of money while most of them ACTUALLY have 4/10 faces and 2/10 bodies, low incomes, history of sex with at least one prostitute as they can’t get a hot girl for free, small ugly houses, poor hygiene, disrespectful and interfering parents, small packages and a basically toxic personality.

If I were a white girl, I wouldn’t even talk to any Indian guy. Currently, I am helpless. I don’t understand when white girls marry them because they need to know that they can find someone 100 times better within their own community. I don’t even understand why East Asian girls leave their own boys because those boys are truly kind and loyal as well unlike Indian guys. I would certainly not reject East Asian guys like East Asian girls do just for the physical appearance of white boys. Even East Asian guys are better partners and they respect their women. They aren’t even ugly but the media portrays them as feminine. I don’t know why? I would even prefer a masculine Korean guy over a masculine Indian guy. If you’re not with an Indian man, trust me you’re not missing out. Indian women may not be the best but we’re much lower on the repulsive scale because we don’t expect more than we deserve. Indian guys may seem attractive to white women because they simp for them a lot but trust me you can do better !

[mandyfire98]

This guy wasn't from where I'm from but I don't know if he was Indian or not.

I have definitely had my run ins with some Indian guys online and they definitely were very very very overly sexual for sure. Also talked down to other women I noticed like they believed women were beneath them. I just figured it was an unfortunate cultural difference.

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends... if the girl is 6 years old, then why not? any time is good to say a kid that is good

but to an adult person, a woman... for me it feels patronizing or reducing me to a plaything... definitely don't like...

can be fun with my man in a very specific scenario... :D

[NathanDavis]

personally, I just never do that... not even with my pets, lmao

the only time I've done that is, within a certain context and if I know she is going to like it when I say it... which, I am sure you can imagine what that is, lol

other than that, no... because it can sound weird, it can sound condescending or whatever, lol, and even if I didn't mean it like that, it can be seen like that by the other person

so, that just doesn't cross my mind... I might have joked about it, but again... they would know I would be joking, lol, I just don't remember joking with that before

[mandyfire98]

I can imagine what that time is and I definitely agree during that time and only that time you can definitely say that to me.

[NathanDavis]

and even then, gotta make it about the right timing

[mandyfire98]

Absolutely correct

[DrPepper12]

It's paternalizing at best and infantilizing at worse. If you're in a submissive relationship in the bedroom it seems appropriate! I've never even used that phrase was my own daughter. It sounds and feels weird. Even good boy sounds like a dog getting a treat.

[BoopBoopBeep]

When you get pulled over and the female officer says she'll let you off with a warning...

When the IRS agent says "well everything looks in order on this audit... let's just wrap this up for you here..."

When your bunkie is like "I have extra peanut butter from the commissary..."

I can't see any of those going south, so guess it's always a good idea.

/s

[mandyfire98]

Definitely all appropriate 🤣

[petitedollbabee]

Only in the bedroom if you’re into that, I am. Outside of the bedroom? Nah, it comes across as belittling.

[mandyfire98]

Fully agree

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Since I see this phrase used for pets, as you said, I don't see any possibility to use it for a person lol. Except for ironical purposes, in a friendly way, but then only with someone who could catch the irony I would use

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

As for a sexual context, I don't find any excitement in this register, since it makes me think about pets, that just can't work at all

[WhiteSteve]

Only in…. intimate situations, lmao, and with someone who knows it’s coming, and likely introduced it herself. Even in that scenario, I feel like there’s a weird and not weird way to do it, that I can’t necessarily describe, but you’d know it when you encountered it.

If it’s done creepily or condescendingly in some everyday interaction, that’s weird 99.999% of the time, barring some very specific playful banter it would be relevant to.

[superchan2011]

Some people on this damn site are just too weird. Like they'll either flip out on you over stupid shit like what you experienced or they'll start a conversation with you only to stop talking much or give short answers when you try to continue the conversation

[Agape93]

I do it sometimes when I'm trying to be nice. Like if say, you went and got your covid booster and got in a good workout, good girl.

[mandyfire98]

You're allowed to say it to me because I know your personality and we've built a rapport.

This was from a random guy who was definitely trying to do it in a sexual way.

[Agape93]

Oh yeah definitely no on that front

[Tarifa]

It can be appropriate in a given context, either within a relationship or in a playful, teasing way.

The reaction just shows how insecure and immature he is. He did you a favour by blocking you.

[smashleyy]

Those words seem out of place if im not on my knees😂

[Nikki1989]

There is nothing more cringe-inducing, than corny porn talk.

[Notherndude84]

He thinks he’s a dominant sexy man, in real life he’d piss his pants if he tried to talk to a woman like you.

[mandyfire98]

You might be right 🤣 he definitely didn't enjoy being called out lol

[Still-alive]

right he probably thought he was being 'alpha' lol

[Notherndude84]

Maybe he thinks he’s a Sigma male, he’s a lone wolf who creeps out women in public haha 🤣

[mandyfire98]

You're not wrong lol

[Notherndude84]

He’s a fucktard, kick him in the balls and say good boy. A boy is all he’s ever going to be.

[mandyfire98]

He already did me the favor of blocking me first

[Notherndude84]

Even better!

I will just imagine you doing that haha 🤣

[Coden7]

I’d never say that. Thinking about it in reverse with a woman telling me “Good Boy”. I’d be one upsettie spaghetti

[mandyfire98]

Upsettie spaghetti is how an Italian diagnosis depression.

[Coden7]

LMAO 🤣

[Still-alive]

usually during naughty time is when i'd say that lol.

but wow that dudes reaction. insecure much? lol

[mandyfire98]

He was definitely unhinged.

[Still-alive]

people often forget we are still kinda strangers on here so they should remember that saying 'would i say this to a stranger on a public bus?' and act accordingly

[mandyfire98]

It was just out of the blue lol. Totally random response of his.

[Notherndude84]

He probably watched a Jordan Peterson interview and thinks he’s a man’s man.

[mandyfire98]

🤣🤣

[msmissydc]

@notherndude84 🤣🤣

[WhitneySnow]

That is almost never appropriate unless you’re in a sexual relationship and that turns the girl on to hear it in the bedroom (or makes her feel comforted). Otherwise, no.

[Jennz6]

@WhitneySnow 💕
I like to hear it

[Wallythewalrus2]

That's a really good question! Especially for a guy that has three daughters. I think I have said that a time or two. When it comes to my wife, not gonna happen.

[Gwendoline]

During relations maybe. Or if you do something we'll or good for your partner. I will sometimes say good boy to my husband.

[ProbablyClueless]

I think it can be appropriate to describe certain personality traits. Like I might say something like "Such and So is a total good girl."

It might also be hot in sexual situations if the vibe is right. Some women LOVE to be called good girls in bed.

[MicahRaine]

Yeah I've seen that a lot too, and honestly I hate it.

"Good girl" like okay homeboy should we start telling you "good boy" whenever you drink your 7/11 coffee?

[Slim57]

Haha. No way. My girl says the exact same thing, I don't think I've ever called her good girl but she warned me I better not cuz she's not a fuckin dog lol

[mandyfire98]

Listen, I'm not gonna sit here and lie to you and pretend that there's not a certain time that if I hear it that it's not sexy lol. But outside of that very exact time I'm talking about... It definitely makes me feel like a dog.

[Squatting_Slav]

💀yeah that is really odd... There definitely is an appropriate time and olace to say it

i would only ever use during a specific certain time... if you know what I mean and when I do know she will like it and want to be called it

[Elliegirl]

It’s fine in a sexual context or if he does it in a playful way, like as a flirt.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It can be depending on how you interact with others. I have friends who shoot at each other back and forth. I don't think I'd care if they said it.

[msmissydc]

During naughty time its ok. From anyone else and every other situation a hard "NO!" Not appropriate.

[Grond21]

It's highly selective where and when you can use it. Only with certain people in specific relationships and under certain conditions. It is absolutely not a default

[jack1924]

It's really inappropriate for him to call you that.

[mandyfire98]

Especially considering he doesn't know me

[jack1924]

That’s even worse

[AviatorTom]

I say "Good girl" to my dog all the time, whenever she does something good.

[Friendlybro79]

Maybe if you're a dog or a really young child near baby age.

[MikeTheBartender]

Uhhhh I Say It in the bedroom often... But not in public

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, it’s a bit condescending. But usually intended to be flirty in a dom/sub sort of way. For me, I’ve always thought you were a very good girl 😉

[Wiredone]

I've said it once or twice only as a joke. That guy apparently has a short fuse and a couple screws loose to go off for no reason

[Raeanne]

I just had this happen to me recently, I matched with this Indian guy and when he asked to exchange numbers I did and he replied “Good Girl “. I explained to him why this is condescending he did not get it. So the answer is no especially to someone you don’t know

[MrCharlie13]

A) If you are into BDSM and your girl is your sub, or B) You actually want to treat the girl like a dog and demean her

[Ironco]

My go to is...

"That's naughty"

Or

"Naughty girl"

In the right situation

[SixFootSexy]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/zK2PyG-UZhw

Yeah, in the bedroom and with Arthur's voice. <3

[Anonymous]

I say in certain situations. Like if she’s giving me a bj then she swallows. “Good girl.”

[Garud]

If you feel that this has hurt your ego then you have given the appropriate answer calmly and you are right I think

[Anonymous]

My girl likes it in the bedroom but that's the only time I would call a woman "good girl"

[harrison102]

There are some strange people in this world, they’re everywhere.

[justabuddy]

I'd be lying if I said I didn't do this as a joke. Lol

[justabuddy]

The going unhinged part is not tho. He should have just apologized.

[Libermin]

Usually only in the bedroom and if my partner is a Submissive. Otherwise it's just out of place

[pacifix]

Seems like something you'd say flirtatiously... I wouldn't say it to someone I don't know well lol

[Jennz6]

@mandyfire98 💕

I'm always a good girl 💯

[mandyfire98]

Why do I have trouble believing that?

[Jennz6]

@mandyfire98 I’m not sure, what have you heard?

[mandyfire98]

Hahaha

[Kayleigh2005]

Haha, right

[Jennz6]

@Kayleigh2005 ask Abbycado about Mandy

[Kayleigh2005]

Ok !

[DerekC321]

I think there's never a good time when it comes across as condescending or such

[MorningMiranda]

I voted C. I agree with @Elliegirl especially if it's during sex.

[Candy924]

@mandyfire98 I like being called that during sex a lot 💕

[Petslutofbff]

Absolutely in the right circumstances those words can be divine to hear

[dangeroushonest]

It’s kink baby girl Papi Daddy dom sun sexy talk stuff.

[Kelly6]

@mandyfire98 mostly during sexual

[Abbycado]

@Agape93 has said that to me, and worse XD

[Agape93]

Never worse ;) just different kinds of affectionate

[Abbycado]

Lmao XD

[mandyfire98]

I understand. I think she lovingly threatened to either chop me up or peel my skin off. Lovingly of course... I think.

[Abbycado]

@mandyfire98 Same. I was to be hacked into little pieces XD

[mandyfire98]

That was it.

[Abbycado]

Twinning, sorta.

[Jennz6]

@Abbycado 💕
I’m told that a lot here on G@G but irl too

[CubaPirate]

Absolutely 💯 %

[beefcakebradybatson]

After a b. j. !!!

[Wise4myage]

Maybe in bed, lol

[LunarEclipse433]

Appropriate if you are having fun sexy time

[Reijen]

Gotta feel out the conversation.

[TWO_EYES_119]

Yes in bed

[Kayleigh2005]

I like it 🤣

[eagle1951]

always