If women dress like this are they looking for attention?

Question

There is a lady at my job. That likes to dress like this. She loves showing a lot of cleavage. Is it wrong for me to stare at it

Investigator · Accepted Answer

The short answer is "no". The long answer is "it depends on her level of interest in you--if you can even gauge it accurately--but since you guys work together, it is highly discouraged; you shouldn't jeopardize your income, for the chance to get your d*ck wet."

This is basically a social venus fly trap: women are allowed to prance around, practically naked, and men are forbidden from noticing. A woman dresses like this because she knows that her body is alluring, but she also knows that you being observant of this fact can get you in trouble, so she is playing fast and lose with dress etiquette, trying to see how far she can push the envelope before you "take the bait". You're also probably not allowed to report her to HR for "creating a hostile work atmosphere" simply on the basis of her clothing choice (I'd be surprised if they allow that and don't can you for even making such a suggestion), because that would imply that you are trying to force your ideas of "propriety and modesty" on her and remove her bodily autonomy to do as she pleases.

It's truly a degenerate, cretinous way for society to function: torturing people with their own natural, bodily desires.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

Seems to me, a lot of women's tops are made like that I don't know that it's about getting attention as opposed to just liking the look.
What I don't understand is, they get pissed off at men staring at their tits and then they go around wearing stuff like this KNOWING men are GONNA stare at their tits! We've been DOING IT FOR CENTURIES!! WHY is that SUDDENLY a surprise to you? We notice, we talk about them with other guys, and, quite often, when you're not looking, WE ARE!! WHY pretend that we aren't? It's kinda like, "The Emperor's New Clothes". You expect us NOT to notice that your tits are at least half naked.
Secondly, the way I see this, you're baring the entire top half of your chest and then, you're gonna complain about being cold! GEE! I can't imagine WHY? From my experience, tits normally ARE cold!! Then, you're gonna expose them to even colder weather? I'd prefer to see them completely naked but, if you're cold, COVER THEM UP!! I don't HAVE to keep my nipples covered but, I usually do! How many guys do you see walking around in scoop-neck tops showing off their chest?
(I know, you're a guy, I just chose to respond to women in general.)

Seinna · Accepted Answer

The problem is, if you have big breasts they look bad when you cover them up and clothes actually look better when you show more cleavage. I wear such clothes too and keep in mind, most people don't look down a woman's shirt like that so the view is not that impressive. Unfortunately larger breasts often look "vulgar" no matter what we do with them and it's not a choice.

As for whether I wore it for attention - I wore it, as I said, to look good and fashionable in my clothes. Because it looks good on busty women, better than covering up. Also, it's difficult to find shirts that cover up large breasts and lose shirts make busty women look fat, because it creates the illusion that the midsection is as big as the chest.

If wanting to look good means seeking attention, then maybe? But every woman wants to feel good. As for men looking... I really didn't care. I would if it was rude staring but for the most part men I worked with were pretty professional. But either way, I don't care if they stare. It's normal for men to look and women and vice versa.

SnowyOwl · Accepted Answer

They will say 'no'... but I say yes, in short at least. There is literally no need to dress like that. Girls know guys will look when they dress like this (and they like that, even if its people they're not actually interested in)... Knowing that, its a choice those women make, and I find it really problematic for people who do this if they are already in a relationship, like why are you ok with the fact that others will look at you in that way... literally no need. It's a problematic mentality to want to suppress human nature. Cuz it's only natural that it drags attention
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elizamichale1 · Answer

She can wear whatever she wants unless the workplace requires certain attire to be followed n all...

N since she is comfortable showing off she should be comfortable for turning heads n stares... not that i m encouraging u or anyone to stare but since i like to dress like that myself so i feel its natural for men to try to take a peek... n i m ok with tht... it only gets weird when someone starts to stare constantly n be a creep about it... in short i dont feel tht with my dressing style i should be the one to complain... n same goes with tht lady

ManOnFire · Answer

I can't see how a woman dressing so blatantly like that on her job is not trying to get attention. And then the irony is that as soon as you or some other guy stares and she sees it, or even goes as far as to boldly make a flirtatious statement about it, she will get angry and feel "harassed" and then complain about it. Things like this should not be fair or okay for women to do.

On top of that, I can't even understand how a job would say it's okay for her to do that.

Lliam · Answer

She's proud of those ripe melons.
Maybe she likes looking pretty. Maybe she likes being admired. Maybe she's looking for certain male attention. Or maybe she just wants to cheer guys up. What's wrong with that?

I've worked with girls who've worn attractive clothes and displayed cleavage. They brought joy to the workplace. They were like sunshine on a cloudy day or like beautiful flowers in a dull, gray cityscape.

They were nice girls. Some were single, but some had husbands or boyfriends. Only a prig or lecher would be disturbed by a beautiful woman.

And if she is single, there is nothing wrong with seeking male attention. I've dated women from work. I've even met girlfriends that way. We just kept it professional when at work.

jojouzumaki · Answer

First and foremost it’s not appropriate clothing at work. It’s an absolute call for attention.  There’s no blame on you if you stare. But then, you need to be mindful because she might complain.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Answer will be unpopular to some but 100% yes.

The question isn't if she wants the attention, but does she want YOUR attention.

As an example, Prince Charming with the god bod, bank account and servants can look all he wants and it's "cute, endearing and encouraged "

Quasimodo looks and it's creepy, misogynistic and will get reported or charges pressed in him.

While extreme this is true interest nearly all cases. If course the most obvious argument is " not for them@!@ but me!!@@" which is coping bs false logic.

ohsheeT · Answer

You would have to think if a woman dresses like that it's because it makes her feel sexy and she does want the attention

Now there's going to be maybe two out of 10 that will give you s*** for staring because they want more than attention they want to cause drama and chaos

I mean with anything in the world you just have to be respectful about it you don't have to look drool and then run into a light pole

I mean you can take a quick peek and then maybe have an eye contact and a smile

But I mean if you're having no eye contact and just boob contact and you run into a light pool or a stop sign or you miss the curb and you trip involved well I guess you just stared at it a little bit too long. Lol

lowkanymous · Answer

ima be honest, i dress revealing because i get the most attention. call me an attention whore all you want, but it's nice to get compliments. i also just don't own a lot of cute modest clothes, most of my going out clothes would be like tank tops and skirts. also i think it depends on the area and people you grow up with, i have 3 older sisters so i grew up wearing their old clothes which a lot of the time weren't appropriate for my age.

Anonymous · Answer

Not every person dresses up how they dress for the same reason. But for the most part in general most people dress how they feel they look their best.

I for example don’t dress with all the clothes I actually like because they don’t favor my body form and I don’t look good in the dresses that I would prefer. So I opt for other styles that make ME feel like I look good. Not necessarily to get attention but for myself to feel good how I look and not it gets attention well as long as it’s not bad attention it adds to the feel good of oneself

jard82521 · Answer

Its normal to stare a bit, just make it lowkey and dont do it too often and too hard, otherwise you'll look like a total creep. Also, while some women do dress that way for attention, a lof of them dont, they simply do it to feel pretty and boost their confidence.

ChillNsweet32 · Answer

Are they looking for attention?
Some do, some don't

Is it wrong for you to look?
No because you like tits, if a woman doesn't want people to look at them, don't wear low cut shirts or anything too revealing. For the most part I dress pretty modest and I'm aware that certain outfits can be revealing therefore I don't wear revealing clothes. Simple

DrPepper12 · Answer

First, she's is likely dressing FOR HERSELF in a manner that she enjoys and gives agency to her identity.

Second, yes, you can quickly glance. You may not:

bore

gape

gawk

glare

inspect

peep

leer

scrutinize

Acknowledge them quickly and move on. If she says "My eyes are up here" you're doing it wrong.

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Staring is rude in general. I know, anything out of the ordinary could catch your attention, but still try not to STARE at anyone. Could make them uncomfortable.

Clara4567 · Answer

Why when a woman shows clevage everyone think that is it because she want attention? Maybe she likes the way she looks, so she decide to show it, not everything is a call for attention and expecially not everything we do is to receive male attention.

Why this concept is so hard to understand?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Well, for a start, that is very tame cleavage compared to what I wear and what many others wear. And yes, it is fine to look. It is dumb to expect people not to look.

Caroline91 · Answer

Let's just say, at the very least, it is unprofessional.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I know guys who are in great shape but they don't feel the need to dress in open button collared shirts or skinny jeans accentuate his "bulge" down there. Sure there are guys who act like male bimbos a mimbo, but dress with modesty.

AviatorTom · Answer

She is looking for attention, not necessarily more than that, and your looking is perfectly normal.

Finchie40 · Answer

She is definitely looking for attention , so look if you want to , just don’t be to creepy about it and stare for a long period of time because it could make her feel uncomfortable, depending on her personality. It’s better to play it safe than sorry

Miristheiss · Answer

Of course.

Her values and character is in the gutter too. What classy woman dresses like that? None. Tacky, promiscuous, hook up women dress like that, the kind that need endless validation from male attention.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No doubt that is for attention.. A lot of women like to be slick, and act like they just like dressing the way they do.. We all do things for some type of attention or to try and not get attention..

Rashmixoxo · Answer

No matter how much we deny, if we are dressed like that, we ARE looking for attention.

DannyWang · Answer

Us men are primal animals genetically engineered to find a suitable mate.

So yes, there's nothing wrong when a woman dresses in a way that draws attention to her gorgeous balloons

Why else would she have such a huge cleavage. She loves the attention she gets.

soe11 · Answer

Yes and No, deepening on her intention. If it is for an attention, still nothing wrong. We shout respect her anyway. It's absolutely normal according to me.

RavVid · Answer

She will be offended if you don't have occasional good look. If you want productive work relations with her try and see a little further down now and again.

Anonymous · Answer

1. No she is wearing what is most comfortable, not trying to get special attention

2. Staring is rude so, at least attempt to be mature & not stare. If you can’t control yourself, keep staring at a minimum.

liabalia · Answer

I wear shirts like this all the time. I’m not looking for attention but I do feel sexy in them. Does that mean I want to be preyed on? No

molonski2 · Answer

If its out there , just stare at it mate , she put it out there for a reason , never look into her eyes , stare straight at those puppies.

Anonymous · Answer

Are you one of the guys who post those nasty questions about women because they never give you any attention?
“Is it wrong for me to stare at it?”
The fact that you need to ask this question is why

andreasderjuengere · Answer

When you took this picture... how did she react? :)

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Of course she is.. you can look at it just make sure she doesn't notice you looking..

Shamalien · Answer

They want power…and foolish men give theirs away. Stare them in the eyes, hold your power, do not let yourself be seduced by these witches.

Subtle_Luminescence · Answer

Duh, yes. They are. Even if they deny it, they are looking for attention.

Jennz6 · Answer

When I show my cleavage, I don’t want guys to stare at me, I just want to show that I have more than most women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes they are 'looking for attention', there was one who dressed like that in my local government employment office, until there was multiple complaints to the office manager about here state of dress.

genericname85 · Answer

Yes but only by men they think are hot. If you're not a guy they think are hot, they'll call you a creep.

osoli · Answer

Depends on the woman! Might be doing it for attention or she just likes how she looks in those ioutfits you can usually tell by the way she acts.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

They might be. Or maybe they're just trying to air out the girls.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

In reading the women’s comments, go with what they expressed. Their insight mirrors that which I would have shared.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

the less u wear the more u show them u don't care Be yourself everywhere

ThebestIndian · Answer

Women who are dressed like this and still cover when they bend is beacuse 1) they want poor not to notice it & They still dress like this because 2) They are afraid rich would not notice it.

Anonymous · Answer

She's not looking for attention, she's acting out her exhibitionism and also looking for an upgrade to her current situation.

paledreams · Answer

As Woody says in one of the Austin Powers movies, "I've seen bigger" - drawl 😅😅😅👀

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and it's called the Jezebel spirit. Be careful.

stratford · Answer

It's a power play she is using for influence

Massageman · Answer

If you have to ask it, I think you already know the answer.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Staring is impolite, but you can’t not notice, and she shouldn’t have to hide to protect your feelings

kaucky1 · Answer

Mostly if but the weiners got minds of their own and they do anything for attention too gnaw selves off eager just to get between titties

morganherrel · Answer

in my opinion they should know the consequences

yelir · Answer

Unless a woman in her right mind says she wants to have sex with you, she's not asking for it. She's just wanna look and feel confident.

Tomisworthless · Answer

She just wants to feel good about herself and that means drawing attention (sexual),

disappoint3d · Answer

A trick question perhaps. I wish women would stare at me.

noohair · Answer

If she want to be seen as nothing but a pair of boobs, you can't fix that.

LaSaturno · Answer

As a female I can clearly say that, she is absolutely looking for attention.

MatureMan40 · Answer

No one knows their mind untill they explain...

Smegskull · Answer

Why would the way they dress change how desperate for attention women are?

Cheerfull009 · Answer

No, enjoy it, if I am in your place , I would have touched her boobs

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes, nice legs can get more attention than cleavage. But it all depends on what you prefer.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

It's always for attention 🙄 well for me!

Apple1996 · Answer

Um no that's literally just a normal shirt

Mac-One · Answer

Yes, she is looking for attention.

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