Does she like me or is just polite?

[bulleye]

We were something for 3 years. She used to love me but I lied her that I had a girlfriend and my girlfriend wouldn't like if she text, just to let her go after all these time. And she left.

She kept her distance. We meet at office and she acts like I don't exist and walk past. I never saw her even glancing at me.

So last month I texted her. She replied a month back. I asked her if she is single several times and that I am single now. She now takes her sweet time to reply. Maybe 2 days or so.

Is she being polite or hurt coz I left her?

[Oliverlogan263]

It's hard to say for sure what's going on in her head, but from what you described it sounds like she's still hurt over how things ended between you guys before. I can understand why - that was a pretty messed up thing to lie about having a girlfriend just to push her away.

Now when she sees you at work, ignoring you is her way of protecting herself so she doesn't get her heart broken again. And taking days to reply to your texts is probably because part of her still cares but another part is wary.

If I were you, I wouldn't keep pushing her or asking direct questions about being single or getting back together yet. You need to rebuild some trust first after what happened. My advice would be to keep the conversations casual and friendly through text for now, no pressure. And if you run into her at work, give her some space but also flash a smile to show you're thinking of her.

Baby steps, man. Give her time to see you're acting different this time and that you really care about how she feels. Once she feels more comfortable again is when you can have a real heart to heart about how you screwed up before and want to make things right if she'll give you another chance. But don't rush it - earn her trust back slowly through your actions this time around. Does that help at all?

[Nikki1989]

So you have her number, but you still rely on texts?

Good Lord!

[puracandela88]

She still is interested because she is responding. But she is being weary because you already hurt her before. At this point she is trying to respect herself and not give into you. She's keeping her cool.

[bulleye]

she reply me like once in 2 day with words like 'ok' 'y' and so on