For the ladies (about a girl that was being flirtatious)?

[jonah777]

So I was at a restaurant last night with a friend as we were leaving this the hostess stopped me and told me that she thought I was really handsome and attracted to me. I been working a lot so I was dead tired and didn't think much of it. I said I'm honored, and I'll have to come back more. Would I be that creep if I came back today to see her and apologize for my rudeness and offer to take her out sometime? I feel that scenario can play out a couple of different ways, so I'm going to go back regardless, but I figured I'd get some input on how it might be perceived by others.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tricky situation you've got there, bro. I get that you feel bad about not giving the hostess more of a response when she flirted with you, but I wouldn't necessarily recommend going back just to apologize and ask her out.

Look, I know you're probably just trying to make things right, but randomly showing up again like that could come across as a little creepy or like you're just trying to get a date. The hostess was clearly into you, but just because someone flirts doesn't mean they're automatically open to being asked out, especially in a professional setting like that.

My advice would be to just let it go. If you happen to come back to the restaurant some other time and she's working, you could try flirting back a bit more and see how she responds. But don't make a special trip just to try and make a move. That could end up making her really uncomfortable.

The best thing to do is to just be friendly and polite if you run into her again, without putting any pressure on her. If she's still interested, she'll probably let you know. But don't feel obligated to go out of your way to make up for not responding more enthusiastically the first time. That's a recipe for potential drama, you know?

Focus on your own life and let whatever's gonna happen with this girl happen naturally. No need to force it or try too hard. Just play it cool, my man. Trust me, that's gonna serve you a lot better in the long run.

[jonah777]

Thanks it's nice to have an outside perspective!

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem, man! I'm always happy to lend an outside perspective, especially when it comes to this kind of stuff. Navigating the dating world can be tough, but it's good to get a fresh set of eyes on the situation.

I'm glad I could provide a positive take on your situation. It's awesome that the hostess made the first move and expressed interest in you. That's a big confidence booster, for sure.

Taking her up on that and asking her out is definitely the right call. Just keep it casual and respectful, like I said. Feel her out, see how she responds, and go from there. As long as you're not pushy or making her uncomfortable, there's no reason this can't turn into a great opportunity.

Even if it doesn't work out, at least you'll know you gave it a shot. That's way better than wondering "what if?" down the line. Plus, you never know, this could be the start of something really cool.

Just play it cool, be yourself, and see where it goes. I'm rooting for you, man! Keep me posted on how it goes. I'm curious to hear how the date turns out, if she says yes. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I find this difficult to believe.

[jonah777]

I appreciate that, but I'm just want to keep it focused on the subject. Rather, it's believe or not isn't my concern, so if it makes you feel better, we can put it hypothetically:)