Thinking about turning myself in to the police for cyber harassing a man. how to I cope?

[Anonymous]

Thinking about turning myself in to the police for cyber harassing a man I went on a date with a year ago.. how to cope?

He caused me a lot of emotional pain and I know that it’s my responsibility to heal myself… but I have been struggling to find peace with how things ended and how he did me.. on top of finding out that he is downlow.

he's a liar, manipulative person and he said all these words and trusting things just to try and sleep with me.. then he disrespected and made me feel less than on our date” I was hurt because I thought he cared

a later I still struggle… I've done therapy and other things but the depression and anger took hold. I found it hard to let go and I cried every day. My mental health suffered and I became angry because I know I didn’t deserve it

I’ve become obsessed with trying to expose him. I hate him…. But it’s gotten the best of me and now I feel like I’ve spiraled… I may lose my job… reputation… everything

[Anonymous]

You should not go to the police about this, they can't and don't want to help you. Therapy doesn't work for some people so take a break from that if it hasn't been helping at all.

In the meantime the first and firmest step you need to take is distance yourself from the guy. Block him on all socials, block and delete his number, everything. You never need to be able to contact him again and he never needs to be able to contact you again either. If you need to then cut off ALL of your social media for a while.

Ask those around you you're close to to literally interrupt you and change the topic if you start talking about this guy around them. This will help you avoid thinking about it if you can't speak about it. Have things you can do to distract yourself when you are alone, like a video game (offline), craft or hobby, something physical like exercise or cleaning, or of course work. Also whenever possible do not be alone with your thoughts right now, have people you can call who you like hanging out with and doing things you enjoy or can be engaged in. This should also help with depression.

Remember that you had a whole life before this guy, and you still have a whole life after. You have plenty of things going for you independent of him. Things that are not worth losing over him. If you need to to build motivation to start, use this idea that living your best life without him is like revenge against him for what he did. It's proof he can't manipulate you anymore, and you get the last laugh because he is not even there anymore and you are still living and you will be okay and get better.

[exitseven]

okay- this guy is living rent free in your head and you are letting him do it.

Do not turn yourself in to the cops. You do not know how this will effect your future but I can guarantee it will not make your life better.

Try to completely shut yourself off from him. No more stalking or social media.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[slatyb]

Have you been charged? You don't need to talk to the police, you need to talk to a therapist.

[Asker]

No I haven’t

[slatyb]

Definitely do not go to the police. If you are charged, see a lawyer.

[Jmmmfi4]

The code of the street mind ya biz never go to the police

[Summeroflove]

Turn yourself in

[Anonymous]

Leave it be.