How to make friends with girls at first?

[Kerwin1]

[SueShe]

The question here is: what is your ultimate intention when you want to be "friends" with a person of the opposite gender?

Is it just a casual, non romantic and platonic friendship or do you have a different goal in your mind when you intend to be friends with her?

Do you secretly hope to get into her pants or do you simply want a female friend just to chat and exchange texts without any hint of anything sexual?

I fear that your goal is really to seek more than just a simple friendship and in that case, you have to show her who you really are, not someone you would like to be. Being honest is the best start because if you pretend to be what you are not, this "friendship" will end before it even really started.

[Nikki1989]

Here's the thing: approaching friendships with the goal of specifically befriending “girls” can sometimes feel a bit forced or even objectifying but get to know people on a deeper level by asking about their hobbies, interests, and go from there. Don't jump the gun.

[Kerwin1]

That's a great start. But my dilemma now might be how do I get to know more people online

[Nikki1989]

Why online?

[Kerwin1]

Because of my busy work, I may only be free when I surf the Internet at home.

[Summeroflove]

Find girls who have something in common with you. Don’t be friends with someone just for the sake of being friend. Find women that you genuinely enjoy being around and who genuinely enjoy being around you.

[Kerwin1]

That's a good answer. But how to find a girl on the Internet that I can talk to, sometimes it bothers me.

[Summeroflove]

Finding people on the internet is much harder. Find people in real life. Most people on the internet and I’m not saying everyone. But too many people are boring and have no life.

[Summeroflove]

Not saying you’re that way. But you just don’t know who you’re talking to online. Especially as many fucked up people there is

[Kerwin1]

yeah, maybe I just wanna make friends online. My job sometimes is too busy, The Internet is where I relax

[Kerwin1]

Is this website good or not, I just joined. I don't know much about it

[Summeroflove]

There are people you can talk to here. But I wouldn’t go so far as to make friends. Most genuine people are pretty careful

[Kerwin1]

That's enough, start communicating from here. It's important to be careful online

[Summeroflove]

Yes.

[Thesilly]

Be polite, treat them like a human. Be honest. If it’s a nice girl she will likely reciprocate

[Kerwin1]

lol, I think a serious relationship must start with honesty, and I admit that some people will disagree, but I am honest.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to them

[Kerwin1]

that's a good start, but I am so shy in real life

[Iron_Man]

You have to get over that fast

[Kerwin1]

Yes, I know it's a weakness of mine, but sometimes it's hard to get over initiating communication with girls.

[Iron_Man]

You’re 26 you have to do something if not, you’re gonna end up 30 years old in the same boat

[Kerwin1]

Sometimes I think I am still very young hahaha, I really need to make some changes in the New Year.

[Iron_Man]

I hope so because shy guys don’t get far with girls very rarely

[Kerwin1]

So I will try to make a change in the New Year

[Iron_Man]

Good

[Kerwin1]

Thank you so much at all! Merry Christmas

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome, my friend merry Christmas