What to do when all aspects of your life are completely upside down?

[Anonymous]

[Nikki1989]

Trying to fight against the current can be exhausting. Accept the reality of your situation, even if it's difficult. I always say “it is not how you fall down but how quickly you get back up again that counts.”

[BareEssence]

It will get better. Keep yourself busy. Find a job, a hobby.
It would feel impossible but count your blessings (start with I can see, walk, breathe).
If you can, read this book - How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie. It's a gem.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Keep moving forward.
Lost your job? Find a new one
Death in the family? Cry, grieve, keep living
Bad break up? Wasn’t meant to be
Bad fights with friends or family? These things needed to be addressed, better now than later

[Asker]

What if its severe mental breakdown, diagnosed with 6 different disorders, arrested twice, time spent in jail, restraining order thrown on you, loss of all friends, eviction from home and forced to life with family, severe legal and medical debt... etc.
all within a 10 month peroid?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Keep moving forward. There is treatment available, your time is served, you will have new friends, your family won’t let you live on the street, medical debt and legal debts can be dealt with. In the case of medical debt especially you can usually get a big discount if you make under a certain amount every year through the hospital’s financial aid program.

[Asker]

I recognize those realities, and that some of them will take a long time. For example, I need to move out of here, start my own life, start fresh... no connections.. etc. However that will take a long time..

But one thing gets in the way.. forgiving myself for what has happened.. accepting my actions...
Much of me HATES myself for what happened.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I believe that’s what your psychological treatment can assist you with, I’m assuming you’re on a therapy regiment of some kind

[Asker]

Yes, I have done inpatient, various different medications, therapy since May, and all the self help type stuff you can imagine.
My current Therapist (and her company) are giving me an ultimatum to go through inpatient treatment again due to their liability fears...
though the last time I did that it ended up making things much much worse.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

They wouldn’t suggest it if they didn’t believe you were a genuine risk to yourself and others. If the issue is an isolation factor, that can usually be resolved fairly quickly with other patients in the same care. I would listen to them

[Asker]

I can try...
im just tired of all of this.
my life totally collapsed this year
it wasn't good to begin with
now its just a nightmare

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Fatigue and exhaustion is normal and expected after crises like the one you just described. Whether it feels like it or not to you, inpatient care is meant to be a way for you to rest and collect yourself in a healthy way. It’s one thing to be so tired you rot in your bed, it’s another to recognize your emotional and mental fatigue won’t be solved with physical rest.

[Asker]

ill try..

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’d be surprised how much just a shift in perspective can help along with keeping a routine

[Asker]

I just know I need a fresh start.

[Anonymous]

Start college. It will be like a reset button and make everything new in your life.