Is this her trying to hint or am I purely overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

Bit of a background were going to date but she still had feelings for her last guy so we decided to just keep as friends go from there with the idea of keeping that option open, back in November she asked to go on a walk so we can warm up to the idea of dating again but I in her eyes came on too fast, then coupled by a misunderstanding caused by a mutual friend we've been loose friends since.

Weve started talking more since Christmas, and honestly we're back to being rather good semi-close friends. We do both stream over on Twitch along with my friend group I introduced her to a few months ago, but something few days ago has been sat on my mind ever since and it's been bothering me.

I was playing some Marvel Rivals she joined in and another who mainly doesn't really talk, she's naturally quite jokey so we banter back and forth till she says something along the lines of "I'm the most single person here" and i say nah she's not, I mean i am too but i said I'm not really looking unless someone does want me in that way, she then replies with "Nah you're not going to be single for much longer, I just feel that way"

A separate instance she pointed out to a Throne link in chat I have automatically posting where she said "I should get you a fleshlight" for me as a gift, I laughed it off joking back I'm sure I'd appreciate it but those two caught me off guard. I live around 3 minutes from her and usually every time she leaves work I see her on the public walk way behind my flat, which she'll have to walk past her own flat to get to, I thought it was nothing but a few days ago she mentioned when we went on a walk together that as you can technically look into my living area walking past she always looks to see if I'm in.

She made comments around that time that she's been single the last 3 years etc so I feel there's strong hints, so even two days back as she was on the train she goes "I feel so ugly" so I replied nah and called her cute.

Am i overthinking this?

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11 mo

The most bizzare part I did see was during that stream when she made a few of those comments she clipped them (Clipping is like making 30 second videos from a livestream for those not familiar) so I do have about 7 videos altogether of this

I'm really not sure if she's being coy so i make a move or if I'm just genuinely overthinking this

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really complicated situation you've got going on with this girl. It definitely seems like there could be some strong hints and subtle flirting happening on her part, but it's hard to say for sure if she's trying to get you to make a move.

The little comments she's making about being single and looking for you out the window definitely seem a bit suggestive. And the fact that she's clipping those moments makes it seem like she's kind of fishing for your reaction or attention.

At the same time, you mentioned there was some weird stuff that happened earlier where you felt like you came on too strong and she pulled back. So she may still be a little guarded and not sure if she's ready to jump into something more serious.

My advice would be to try not to overthink it too much. Just focus on continuing to be a good friend to her and build that connection back up. If the flirty hints and subtle comments keep happening, you could try gently calling her out on it in a playful way. Something like "Hey, you keep dropping all these hints, are you trying to tell me something?"

That might give you a better idea of where her head is at. If she gets all flustered and tries to play it off, then she's probably just enjoying the attention. But if she opens up and admits she's interested, then you can go from there.

Just be really careful not to come on too strong again. Ease into it and make sure you're both on the same page before taking things to the next level. The last thing you want is for her to get spooked and pull away again.

Ultimately, you know the full context of your relationship better than I do. So trust your gut feeling on this one. If you genuinely think she's hinting at wanting more, then it might be worth taking a small risk and putting yourself out there a bit. But don't force it if you're not 100% sure. Better to keep things chill than make things weird, right?

Let me know if you have any other questions, dude. I'm happy to keep brainstorming ways you can navigate this whole situation.

[Staximus]

She's been single for 3 years but in November she said she's not over her last guy? That sounds like a bullshit excuse to avoid dating or fooling around, probably because you are acting like too much of a horny idiot