Girls if you got pregnant in a casual relationship but wasn't going to keep it would you tell the guy who got you pregnant? Guys would you wanna know?

[Crimsyjo]

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1 mo

When I say don't keep it I mean taking abortion tablet within two weeks or so of missed period so it is not "killing a baby". Just terminating the egg cell that attached to the womb.
It will effect the woman by inducing a painful cramping period.

Guys - I wonder if despite not wanting a baby and being relieved if woman said she got rid of pregnancy would you feel kind of proud your seed had what it takes to create life? Or be a wake up call to not take risk anymore?

[DrPepper12]

Any Father's Day that arrives without a subpoena is a good day!!

No news is good news

If she told me fine, she's making the decision I want anyway. The decision is EXCLUSIVELY hers to make anyway!

[Crimsyjo]

Applaud lol

[bananathunder]

I wouldn't want to know if it was casual

[Jennz6]

@bananathunder
Yes you should know and maybe raise the child and keep your baby safe

[Crimsyjo]

@Jennz6 but the woman didn't keep it. So that could make him sad?

[bananathunder]

if it was casual and she didn't want it, I wouldn't make her keep it. That sounds like a nightmare

[Jennz6]

@bananathunder I’m sure that I will keep my baby

[Crimsyjo]

@Jennz6 if u decided to keep it and the man doesn't want it but has no say will you still make him financially involved if not emotionally?

[bananathunder]

thanks for the MHO!

[Shiprex]

I think it's fine to choose to prevent the pregnancy after the fact with a safer alternative to actually birthing a child but it's more honourable to inform the other party of the decision you're making instead of denying them the knowledge.
Imagine the reverse when he's expecting you to not get pregnant and accidentally you do then you decide to keep it and he's not wanting to. You just sentenced him to 2 decades of legally enforce servitude to YOUR decision against his consent to get pregnant.

[Summeroflove]

I think abortions a cowardly thing to do. Many of them would never tell someone because they’re cowards. It’s like men who refuse to pay child support when they choose to sleep around.

People want to have sex without the consequences. They don’t desire any genuine connection and play the victim when they have sex with deadbeats and losers. As well as men who have sex with sluts.

[Crimsyjo]

Women choose not to tell because men can't handle the truth. They wanna take risk without responsibility. And will run away scared. Women will own that risk. If they choosing to risk it. A stupid woman is the ones who risk it then cry and play victim if they get pregnant.

[Jennz6]

@Crimsyjo
That’s so wrong

[nawtee_me]

I would take and raise the baby if she did not want it. My baby my choice….

[PeachyPie93]

I would probably tell the guy I was going to do it just so he knows.. so hopefully he makes better decisions next time. Plus I would want to know his reaction because if he fully doesn't care it would make me realize I probably shouldn't even be sleeping with this guy at all..

[OneViewpoint]

Proud of my seed? WTF, no! I'd be kicking my own ass for being careless and putting the woman through that even if she shares part of the blame. And I'd be concerned about doing the right thing now that we'd fucked up royally (pun intended). Support her decision. Be there if she wants. Basically be a man and accept the consequences of my actions. Luckily, I've never committed that particular act of stupidity.

[Crimsyjo]

Of course! I just know at least one man on here who is proud of it and don't care!

[OneViewpoint]

That is a very strange attitude. I mean, "yay, yippee, I'm gonna be a daddy". OK. Or yay, "my dick and balls work". But "proud of my seed"? That's some medieval thinking! Dude have a royal lineage he's trying to preserve or something?

[David318578]

What's the point in telling him if you are not keeping the baby? Seems like a lot of potential drama for nothing, unless you might want him to help pay maybe?

[Crimsyjo]

It's free in my country. And I agree.
If woman don't wanna freak him out and knew the risk (I. e not on bc) it's her responsibility and no need to tell him and ruin what they have.

[katiesmuff]

If that were the case I doubt I would have ever told him. There were times I did take a morning after pill after having a one nighter, never mentioned to him and many times never saw him again.

[Abbi_T]

Father's Day is the most confusing day in Dundee!! If I got pregnant even from a casual / one-night stand I would tell the father. Even if he was not interested or didn't want the baby, ending the pregnancy prematurely or adoption would not be an option for me

[Crimsyjo]

Yikes. If you have to keep a pregnancy I'd advise not to have casual sex without bc then for sure!

[Abbi_T]

Care and consideration always go hand in hand. I prefer anal and oral to vaginal so I'm unlikely to get pregnant! I treated the question as a hypothetical scenario

[Paige90]

I prefer anal and oral too but I also have an IUD so getting pregnant is probably not going to happen at this stage in my life.

[Abbi_T]

@Paige90 I agree 100%. I love both so won't be getting pregnant for a few years lol

[killergoku999]

It's never a proudly moment and people shouldn't do things lightly when that happens.

This like double edge knife, in one way people should take responsibility for their acts (when we are talking not having precautions) so, both should decide.

Another way, is having that child born could be an problem too. Many people outthere don't have capacity to raise a child. It's so sad when you saw everyday kids suffering from uncareless parents.

[Crimsyjo]

I agree. I know many dislike abortions. Some to a extremist extent - and prevention is always considered better than cure - but having an unwanted child in my opinion is a thousand times worse.

[Lliam]

I can't think of any beneficial reason for telling the guy, especially if our sexual encounter had been totally casual; purely carnal with no personal attachment.

But if we cared for each other and she wanted emotional support or help paying for the meds, I would be there for her.

[Apple1996]

Nope I wouldn't tell the guy. That would just add more stress to a situation that's already stressful.

[Agape93]

Nope, i never told em. It's my business, not theirs.

[Billlewis]

Since I'm never allowed to have any penetrative sex, I'd know immediately, if she decided to keep the baby, and I'd love it if she let me assume all legal and financial obligations, as well.

[Anonymous]

No. She doesn’t have an obligation to tell him. If it was a one night stand, she doesn’t want to keep it / he just wanted to bust a nut in her for his pleasure then absolutely she should just get the abortion.

[Crimsyjo]

Well I meant casual relationship not one night stand. So say you were... having fun with a older woman? Like she's 30. And it's just sex but of course you chat and like her too. Would you like her to tell you? Or still not tell you? If she did would you feel differently having sex with her still? Or more confident to do so? Knowing she will take care of it and your not going to get trapped as a father?

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry for the out of context, now with this new scenario yes I would like to know because I’d support her decision specially if we are both not in the mood to start a family though would recommend she does birth control to avoid it in the future (if she isn’t to begin with)

[Crimsyjo]

Well you wouldn't want to start a family with her because it's hush hush and she isn't your type or your not her type for an actual relationship.
What if she said she can't take birth control without bad side effects so she rather keep risking it and will take care of it. Would you be OK with that? Its not actually that easy to get pregnant all the time. Can take months or even years for some women.

[Opinion Owner]

I’d do what made her comfortable and continue to have sex.

[Nikki1989]

How casual are we talking here?

Abortion is just a medical procedure, but people get so dramatic over it.

[Paige90]

If I was sure that a particular guy was the father I would tell him as it is 1/2 his and I think he should have some say so too.

[talka20]

I dont go w casual stuff but hypothetically yea i would like to know that for sure. And id feel bad if i were not told asap

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

if it were casual there would be no need to know. Its for pleasure solely, if they were to date then yes he should know and preferably have a say. Best anti abortion is no sex before marriage. We have a declining pop with high levels of abortion, illegal immigration won't solve this.

[Crimsyjo]

@Uglygaypoorcoward94 so if you were seeing a guy months but still counted it as casual not serious you think he should know?

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Up to you, what do you feel convicted of?

[Crimsyjo]

@Uglygaypoorcoward94 I'm uncertain of how a guy views it. Which will vary from guy to guy too. So there is no question if I got pregs I'd end it straight away. That's not the issue. Telling the guy? Some might feel amazed and manly and proud that their cum did that. Feelings they can embrace because they don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy ruining their lives.

But some might feel panic. Like they take the risk but never really thought through consequences. So could be a wake up call. Even tho in this case they are lucky the woman doesn't say she is keeping it.

[Anonymous]

Of course I would want to know. It's insane that in 2025 men still don't have the legal right to know they have gotten a woman pregnant. We don't even have the right to know we have a child in the world.

[Crimsyjo]

Most men in 2025 don't wanna know or still abandon the baby/child even if they do know.

[Opinion Owner]

To each his own, but men who want to know should HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW.

By the way, there are more women who take the easy way out and abandon their child by snuffing it out inside their womb so they can walk away from being a parent than there are men who abandon their child and its mother. And the men who do walk away are legally obligated to pay child support for 18 years.

There is no "gender equality" in reproductive / parental rights.

[Oldschool1981]

Yikes! My wife and I have an agreement that she can have sex and date other guys so long as she doesn't get pregnant, so I wouldn't want to know

[Crimsyjo]

Well your know if she has a mysterious painful bleed that's not her usual cycle lol

[Oldschool1981]

She's really good about using protection

[Crimsyjo]

I don't see point in sex with a condom. Especially if she has a partner she can have raw sex with? Very strange!

[GAGsucksballs89170]

He has a right to know, and now, in a lot of states, abortion is either illegal, or, with highly restrictive limits

Not that I agree with that but, that's what's happened recently

[Crimsyjo]

I'm in UK. It's free to get meds to abort.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Lucky then

[Sandy1979]

If it was from a one nightstand no. If it was from someone I know i’d tell him. Luckily I got my tubes tied.

[Jjmetalchick]

Nah... Im too young lol... Got too many more years ahead of me.

[Crimsyjo]

Oh yes good!! Don't do anything silly at 15 lol. Guys don't deserve you!! Just tease them and make them chase 😄

[Jjmetalchick]

Im not going to get pregnant at 15 lol. Im a slightly good kid... At least 25 percent. Dont ask anyone who knows me tho...

[Crimsyjo]

Hahaha yh don't worry. I'm well aware of what I what doing at 15 😄. Not sex noo no. I was almost 17. But teasing and having fun lol

[Shiprex]

Tease them? Seriously that's disturbing.

[Crimsyjo]

@Shiprex it's called flirting. It's normal behaviour.
And boys are pretty stupid.

[Crimsyjo]

@Shiprex not everything is sexual or about sex.

[Shiprex]

@Crimsyjo
TEASING as a teenager? Weren't you a teenager around the opposite sex?
Boys are not there to be led on. That's when people get hurt or a reputation.

[Jjmetalchick]

@Shiprex my reputation in raked through the coals already. I can't even express everything I've done. Just know im not exactly innocent.

[Jjmetalchick]

Honestly i dont think boys are stupid... They just think with their dicks lol.

[Shiprex]

@Jjmetalchick
Just remember mistakes aren't the only way to learn when growing up. Take care

[Jjmetalchick]

@Shiprex I know.

[molonski2]

I think any man worth his remote salt would want to know for sure.

[RavVid]

I'd consider it as one on the board for knocking her up. Would want to repeat.

[HungTexan]

I’d want to know, but I’d respect her wishes regarding keeping or aborting.

[Jennz6]

I’d probably keep the baby but if for any reason I didn’t, I’d tell the baby daddy to be responsible and keep my baby safe

[rizzzz007]

Yes I wanna know that and I like to keep baby if I'm responsible for that pregnancy then I will take responsibility.

[Crimsyjo]

Ooh. I would presume then that you wouldn't have unprotected casual sex then?

[Despina6]

If I got pregnant, it would be the product of grapes because I’m interested in men. Science wasn’t my best subject in school. I know I can’t get impregnated by another woman. So, I would terminate.

[lucas262]

If she killed my kid it'd be better if she never told me. I'd never want to know that kind of pain.

[Crimsyjo]

Awww

[MrMichael69]

This is one reason casual relationships are not wise.

[Crimsyjo]

Well people can take precautions in casual relationships. Same as in a relationship.

[MasterKS]

Yes, even it won't keep, i love to know i made her prego, its manly!

[shortster]

I would want to know and hopefully talk her out of offing our child.

[Crimsyjo]

What if she was 18 year old you just happened to have casual sex with? You would still want her to have a baby and potentially be tied to you for a long time despite not wanting or even liking you beyond a one or two times hook up?

[shortster]

Yes, I would marry her

[Crimsyjo]

That would be like enslavement and she would be extremely unhappy. Or maybe she will just say no.

[shortster]

Marriage isn't enslavement, it is a partnership.

[shortster]

Also you underestimate my ability to make others happy

[jahaims]

I don't dump loads in trash so it's not something I'll ever worry about.

[Notherndude84]

Yes definitely. I’d definitely want to know if I made her pregnant

[Anonymous]

For me that's just a fairy tale scenario, because I never had sex in my life.

At least not in this life, maybe in my past life.

[Kelly6]

@Crimsyjo i would always tell the guy and also ask his opinion

[jazzyk777]

yes I would tell the father and tell him why

[Chargirllll]

I would let him know

[wkhan_87]

Never been and never want that type of relationship.

[NathanDavis]

I don't do casual...

[AviatorTom]

I wouldn't want to know.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I wanna know. And then I got sad after :(

[Crimsyjo]

Awwwww. Haha but kinda relieved too?

[BarryLiverstone]

Well when I first found out I was happy. But when she said she wasn’t keeping it I felt sad

[chocolatetwopointo]

im getting an abortion so whats the point🤷‍♀️

[ProbablyClueless]

I would want to know.

[PaleDale]

I'd always want to know.

[elizamichale1]

I wouldn't