How do you avoid running out of things to say in relationships?

[overlord337645]

yesterday i saw these two women they looked roughly the same age in a resturant and they said nothing to eachother the whole meal I was shocked perplexed even and I was just wondering how do you avoid endless silence or long periods of silence in freindships or relationships. (the reason i ask is not to belittle anyone for enjoying that but I really enjoy talking and feel like thats how I connect better with people and when you run out of things to say its just awkward any thoughts?)

[ProbablyClueless]

There are a few ways, but I think the biggest is to have healthy distance with people and not be in constant communication. Texting really changed people's expectations in communication, but the reality is that it isn't healthy to be in CONSTANT CONTACT with people. You aren't supposed to have a stream of consciousness constantly flowing between two people. The distance allows you to perceive, process and develop your feelings about the situation before you communicate it.

Get comfortable with not seeing each other all the time and waiting to communicate most things. Your friend/lover/etc. doesn't need to know every little part of your day right as it happens. This will give you more to talk about when you see each other in person and the discussions will be higher quality.

Then, the next tip I would give is to learn how to recognize when conversations are over, and be comfortable with the fact that conversations naturally end, and don't feel the need to force some additional dialogue to fill the silence.

[Nikki1989]

Impossible when you have a passion for the same interests. My hubby and I never run out of things to discuss.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes comfortable silence is nice

[jahaims]

You are stupid if you run out of words