Why did I have a dream about this guy?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy from my work called Nathan. He's a lot older than myself by 10 years. Nathan is very sweet but not the brightest lad. He's a proper Essex lad but moved down to my town after a bad break up to live with his dad.

I'm very happily married but it's obvious nathan fancies me and has from day one. i first met nathan after I tripped him up by accident at work and he fell over. I rushed over to him and apologised whilst helping him up. He couldn't keep his eyes off me and knew then and there but he had a crush. He went all red and embarrassed but I tried to keep things cool by just talking to him like normal and trying to make him laugh.

Ever since that day I'm the only girl he talks to at work. I know he likes me but he's never been disrespectful so I can't see the harm In just being kind and friendly back to him. He always making time to talk to me and has even invited me to see him DJ in the city but I've always used the excuse but I'm working and my husband doesn't like me out late at night with people he doesn't know. Nathan even offered to pay my taxi fare.

I didn't think nathan was that big of a DJ but I've just done some fb stalking and he's used to be very big In London and had travelled all over the world DJing and has a lot of followers on social media. I also saw his ex girlfriend and she looks very similar to me.

I don't like nathan in that way at all but it did make me see him in a different light than before.

The night before I looked him up I had a dream about him and it felt horrible like a nightmare. I was leaving him for my husband and I was telling him I didn't want to be with him until I divorced my husband as it didn't feel right and him telling me he wanted to marry me.

I felt dirty inside when I woke up and hated every minute of it. I kept telling my husband I loved him when we woke up because I felt so horrible about my dream. I don't like nathan like that at all.

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1 y

Nathan is a short Essex lad who isn't very bright and still lives with his dad, he couldn't be more opposite to my husband or my type in men

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1 y

Whenever I have these kinds of dreams it's always someone so unexpected or someone I'd rather not have to deal with

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that's a really intense dream you had about Nathan, girl. I can understand why you'd feel so dirty and guilty about it, even though you don't have any real romantic feelings for him.

Dreams can be really weird and disconnected from reality, you know? Just because you had a dream about being with Nathan doesn't mean anything about your actual feelings or your commitment to your husband. Dreams don't always reflect our true desires.

It sounds like Nathan has a bit of a crush on you, which is understandable given how kind and friendly you've been to him. But you've made it clear that you're happily married, and it seems like he's respected that boundary. So I wouldn't worry too much about the dream - it's probably just your subconscious playing around with the dynamic between you two.

The important thing is that you woke up feeling disgusted by the dream and immediately reaffirmed your love for your husband. That shows your heart is in the right place, even if your brain got a little carried away while you were sleeping.

Try not to read too much into it. Dreams can be super random and bizarre, with no real meaning behind them. As long as you stay true to your marriage in your waking life, a silly dream here and there doesn't have to mean anything.

Just keep being the kind, friendly coworker to Nathan that you've been. As long as you maintain those clear boundaries, there's no harm in being a positive presence in his life. But don't feel guilty about your dreams - you can't control what your subconscious cooks up! Just focus on your real-life relationship with your husband.

You got this, girl. Don't let a weird dream get you down. You're a loyal, committed partner, and that's what truly matters.

[Anonymous]

Give it a try. He may be just what you need.