Is it possible that women will ignore a guy that is better looking to make him jealous by talking to his friend?

[ShyGuyBUTcute89]

I was at this tabling event for our organization, and it was just me, and my friend there. There were hundreds of vendors with their own tables also, but every vendor had designated time to walk around to other tables and such getting information about each other's organization and paperwork or whatnot. I noticed when they came to our table, it was interesting, it seemed as if most of all the women were addressing my friend and hardly even looking, at least from what I saw cause when I didn't see the talking to me, I stopped looking at them, and was in my phone virtually the whole time.

I wonder, cause on the day to day, it seems as if on plenty of given days, even with my very much less interactive attitude towards women, like I am not an "entertainer" such as he is, I don't go out of my way to get laughs from women like "those guys" that try very hard to engage heavy convo and whatnot, yet women still in the place we go to seem to like me a lot, they like him too, but I can tell that is more due to his confidence, also he is a massive frame type guy, you can tell that even if he is sitting down, and long dreds.

There was a time at the tabling event that we went to a table, and were talking to these vendors, and they all of a sudden stopped talking to me, and only to him, laughing with him and whatnot as he began talking about being from NY and the girl at the table brought up having family from there, I think the girl gave him the phone number and whatnot, I can tell he was feeling himself after that, not going to lie, I left the table in somewhat of a jealous rage, and went to another table talking to a vendor, and the guy followed me, I could tell at that point he really felt superior to me and just had confidence to come over to that table too talking to the lady there. This isn't the case always, but in that short term event, that guy must've felt like he was the rock or something, I'm just not seeing where he looks so great, not over me at least.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It sounds like you had bad vibes all day and the women picked up on that. Just because you’re handsome on the surface doesn’t mean women will want you. More than once I’ve instantly lost attraction to a man based on the words that came out of his mouth.


If we were to compare you and your friend I imagine you see yourself as a kind of Gaston type from Disney’s Beauty and The Beast, and while Gaston was the male ideal for beauty, that’s also speaking to a male gaze. The female gaze of an ideal man is closer to Roger Dearly from 101 Dalmatians, continuing with Disney examples, he’s charming, funny, and cares deeply about his wife and her comfort as well as their dogs. According to most women, they would much rather date a Roger than a Gaston.

[Nikki1989]

It's definitely possible, but it's important to understand the potential motivations and the complexities involved. It can stem from insecurity or a desire for attention and can have unintended negative consequences.

[Hdeesggh]

People have personal preferences and maybe he's just very charismatic, I wouldn't read into it too much

[katiesmuff]

Your only better looking to yourself, others possibly have a different opinion on your looks. Sometimes it might not be the looks, but the attitude or personality.

[Abbycado]

Anything is possible.

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope

[Anonymous]

Yes its