Top drop is real and why I don't do pick up play?

[Tiffanyloves2swallow]

People often imagine dommes and tops as invincible creatures*, always in control, always sure of ourselves. But the truth? We’re human. We feel emotions, doubts, and can have aftercare needs just like anyone else.

For me, that’s why I only play with people I know well. It’s not just about trust in the scene it’s also about trust after the scene. I need to know that the next day they’ll give me what I need:

a little affirmation that they enjoyed themselves,

feedback (good and constructive),

and reassurance that they felt happy we did what we did - meaning they don’t regret trying it even if it maybe wasn’t for them or needs tweaks.

Because here’s the thing, I love psychological sadism. I love being cruel in scenes. But the next day? I don’t want to be left feeling like a terrible person, yesterday I described it as “beating up a stranger would just make me feel like a criminal” as although I relish in being “evil/mean/<insert cruel adjective> I only feel safe and enjoy that with people I like and trust. I also want to know it was received in the spirit of play and connection.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Lmao anyone who has any experience with BDSM knows good and damn well the sub is really the one in charge, not the dom

[TheWombRaider]

More like this everybody knows that the man is really in charge when it comes to sexual activities.. why you say because we are the ones that do the fucking. The women get fucked that's why you're naturally submissive we're naturally dominant..

That's why every woman has a rape fantasy. Really doesn't want to be raped but has his fantasy to be raped by somebody she loves in the bedroom.

There's no such thing as dumb it's a really if a man is being a sub to a woman he's choosing that because let's be real is larger more physical and can rape a woman you can't a woman can't rape a guy.. you can't rape the willing

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Who tf even are you?

[slatyb]

More of a "My Take" than a question but I agree with you. Topping can't be done on autopilot. Psychological sadism is pretty edgy, you need to know your partner. I can switch but humiliation is a hard limit for me.