Is it true the more desperately you want something, the less likely you are of getting it?

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I think this is true just because everytime I wanted something so badly and pushed to get it, I never got it but the moment I stopped pushing for it, it just happened.

I think I am going to stop wanting things to happen so badly and if it happens great, but if it doesn't then that's also great. It just wasn't meant to be.

Pearl222 · Accepted Answer

That’s very true, I actually experienced something very similar this year. I think it has to do with the Law of Detachment, like when you really want something; you release it to the universe and let it go and just trust that the universe will bring it to you when the time is right. Meanwhile, you go on living your life and working hard.

I think putting too much emphasis on the result or outcome actually sends a vibration of desperation and antagonises what we want.

Vevv123 · Accepted Answer

One day you will look back and will either remember how happy you were with what you had or how sad you were with something that you eventually probably got. I believe things happen for a reason, this might be the time for you to learn something from this experience, this is probably the sign to learn to appreciate your solitude and see how valuable you are. I can tell you’re very caring, now envision yourself with the same love and care that you have given to others.

TrimmedTip · Answer

That’s a really insightful observation — and you’re not alone in feeling that way. There’s actually some truth to the idea that overly desperate energy can sometimes push things away. Here’s why:

Desperation can cloud judgment and make you come across as needy or tense, which might push people or opportunities away.
Letting go often reduces pressure, allowing you to act more naturally, make clearer decisions, and attract what aligns with you.
It opens you to timing and flow — sometimes what’s meant for you finds you when you’re relaxed and open, not forced.

It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care or take action. It’s about balancing intention with detachment — working toward what you want without tying your happiness to the outcome.

So yes… wanting less desperately doesn’t mean giving up. It means trusting the process and yourself more. You’ve got the right mindset. ✨

Lynx122 · Answer

Yes pretty much. I'm not that fussed about money and people always want to be generous with me :) But with other things in life it's harder for me. I think just because you know this principal doesn't really make it easier to let go (if it's something you're really attached to.) . I think you need to reach the next level of maturity overall to be able to relax more in this specific area. That's the feeling I've gotten from my experiences but in some cases it might help a lot at once. That won't be the case for every issue though. If that was how it worked then you'd only need one secret to have an abundance of everything in life. So it's a good thing to keep in mind but it won't just make things easy now. Loving yourself and where you are is always good but it's a lifelong process :)

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Yeah, more or less. It all depends on your frame of mind, according to the Law of Attraction which simply states “That which is like unto itself is drawn” meaning if you want something badly, it means you’re not thinking about the joy of having it already but the severe lack of it in your life. And as you focus on the fact that you don’t have it, regardless of how much you want it, the universe will make sure you continue to not have it because it believes that’s what you want: the pining for the lack of the thing you desperately want.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Sometimes a strong desire for something can lead one to follow a whole bunch of dead end routes to get it. Once you stop putting so much value on the thing that is desired, logic (or logical ways to get what they want) starts to kick back in. By no longer wasting their time on every risky "opportunity" that is around, they stop wasting so much time going down dead end paths.

Sort of like those women that want a relationship and throw themselves at every penis that thrusts itself in front of her face. Instead of just sticking any dick in their mouth, they start to judge what's attached to the dick better when they're willing to refuse some good looking dicks for something more than the idea that the good looking dick is going to equal a relationship.

Is it true the more desperately you want something, the less likely you are of getting it?

katiesmuff · Answer

To some extent I suppose! However look at all the (especially celebs) how they fall desperately in love with someone, actually get him or her, then six months later or more they have already begun divorce proceedings usually after pumping out a kid or two.

aaron13547 · Answer

The first of the hermetic principles all is mind...

The key here is the chasing. We live in a physical world and it takes work to get the things you want out of life. At the same time you have to believe you deserve it, you have to want it like you already have it. You have to earn it because when you earn it you believe you have it and it is nothing but an idea to begin with... The trick is most people get lost running and forget the purpose to begin with.

avery58 · Answer

Nope. Most success stories are about those who failed more than once but didn't give up. Except if it's a romantic interest... If they're not interested, then you should just respect it and give up.

Vneila21 · Answer

For sure! I'm learning that as well. Talk about lived experience! Our minds alone will not attract prosperous things.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's partly true. The real truth is that, when you desperately want something, you usually don't recognize when you get it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Desperation can make you impatient and lead you to take shortcuts that can backfire on you.

Shiprex · Answer

I think the more desperate you are, the more you're stress levels will rise and the chance of missing out becomes higher.

msc545 · Answer

No, I don't think that these two things are necessarily related, except that in pushing for it, you may step over boundaries with people. You shouldn't do that with them and As a result, they may be reluctant to assist you in getting what you want.

exitseven · Answer

I know it may seem that way and sometimes it does happen but if you do not try, you will never get anything.

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes it is. Look you can get a guy when your ready there is just a few things you must do first

Stevepro68 · Answer

I find that was most true when it came toy ex wife.

sage2021 · Answer

I know that when I stopped caring if I had a guy in my life I would always end up meeting one.🙃

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I really don't know because there are things in my life that i want but didn't happened wether i tried hard or stopped caring about it, the result is the same!

WonderingManII · Answer

It depends... If it is something that you can obtain by working harder to get it, then you are more likely to get it.

Ironco · Answer

That's true... I'm an old school Gen Xer, never wish or hope for the perfect life. It's not going to happen.  MAKE life what you want out of it, it will never come to you.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

I believe that cos desperation leads to one making big mistakes making wrong choices , so unlikely to happen if you desperately want it.

Ariesman81 · Answer

It's very true. The universe doesn't give you what you want, it gives you what you need.

qwerty2469 · Answer

No. The opposite. The universe only gives you what you want. If you aren't getting what you want you need to communicate with the universe better

Jeff51 · Answer

In the last 10 years I've gotten what I wanted. House, harley and some toys.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Congratulations. You've finally figured it out. Now relax and enjoy life.

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily. Depends on the circumstances.

Caughtulookin · Answer

If i wanted water sport equipment i could buy as much as i want.

serious · Answer

To a great extent it is true.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Definitely... it happens to me too

KostasKouvalis · Answer

It is from my experience

Anonymous · Answer

not if it's within your control

Billlewis · Answer

Like guys and sex? Sure.

dudeinohio · Answer

I agree with you

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