Why do women think men don't like feminine women?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Personally, I don't think being feminine excludes a woman from also being a feminist. Nor does identifying as a feminist mean a woman can't be feminine at the same time.

For me, feminism (batshit crazy idiots and extremists aside) is simply advocating for women's rights like, property rights, fair pay and fair treatment in the workplace, fair access to education, freedom of speech and ideas, being treated like adult citizen with all the rights and obligations thereof.

Being feminine is not the same thing. It's how you choose to interact with other people. It's etiquette and manners and kindness, not submissiveness or weakness. It's soft curves and attention to appearance, not wiles. It's a wholesome complimentary force to wholesome masculine energy (not batshit crazy incel douchebags).

I actually like (real) feminists a lot. And I really like a woman who embraces her feminine energy and is drawn to a mans masculine energy. Those two things do not have to be mutually exclusive.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

because women use the non-existent standards of simps as the standard metric for all men's preferences

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Because they say it constantly. They critique women for wearing “too much make-up” which is overtly recognized as feminine, or she’s “dressed like a slut” when it’s just a dress or a skirt but they disagree on where the hemline should be, or they say she’s “naggy” when she’s actively trying to help and look out for him. Men don’t want feminine women because they reject femininity as a concept for their own lives, and are then surprised when women who are very feminine don’t want to talk to them.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I dont think this is a majority opinion. I think more men like feminine women tjan not. But there does seem to be an increase in men wanting a dominant woman and to me those men seem more feminine than masculine to feel that way. Maybe I'm wrong but just what I think.

Anonymous · Answer

Notice that the third poll option has the most votes but is also voted for be women alone? Also the first poll option has the most male votes.

The reason so many women think "Women think men don't like feminine women because modern men are feminine themselves" (the third option in the poll) is probably because the political left is an enemy of stability. They encourage the constant redefining of terms, which includes "feminine". Allowing the meaning of words to change is very problematic since it defeats the purpose of even using a system where words have definitions. This is because it leads to people not understanding each other since they are misinterpreting the words the other is using (as they are using two different definitions). For example, I'm guessing the women who selected the third poll option believe that a "girl boss" among others counts as a feminine trait since they believe the modified definition of feminine generated by the political left. However, the men are most likely not subscribed to that definition since it doesn't even describe what they themselves want in a wife (which is probably a contributing factor to them accepting any given definition of "feminine").

As far as I'm concerned, girls get indoctrinated into feminism when they're surrounded by other women. I also bet that's the same reason so many girls wear makeup with those unnatural colors like blue, green, or pink (and glitter sometimes) . I can't understand how someone can think any man finds that attractive, therefore I am concluding that they are in competition with other girls and that is the product of competition that has forgotten it's original purpose, attracting men, over time.

heruncommonsense · Answer

Males constantly whine about femininity.

You whine that we want to be safe. You whine that we have hobbies. You whine that we have a taste in music. You whine that we have a taste in beauty. You whine that we want to be told the truth. You whine that we are complex. You whine that we have self-respect. You whine that we want to be cuddled. You whine that we want to hang out.

I've even seen a male whine about modern women not watching TV!

All males do is whine about femininity!

PretzelBeanie · Answer

There are a lot of loud men who insult and talk down about feminine things. Calling feminine hobbies "not real hobbies" and women who like their own hobbies "faking for attention." Calling makeup catfishing and clown face, making fun of feminine fashion and styles. Dismissing women's sports and entertainment as lame and boring, and using phrases "like a girl" and the word "woman" itself as an insult.

There are a lot of great men in the world, and lots of them love feminine women. But is it really surprising when such bullying and mysoginistic men are so loud, that a lot of women get the impression men just don't like them? Especially if they are feminine?

If you meet a feminine woman, and you want her to know that you like femininity, then be vocal about it. Don't expect her to read your mind that you disagree with the men who have already made their opinions known.

msmissydc · Answer

They dont at least not many. There are many women who would like to dress even more feminin, but they know they will atrract the wrong kind of men.
Than there are those who dont care and get blamed for it.
Its the slutshaming paradox. It doestn matter what you wear. You will always get blamed for it by people who are the reddest of flags in existance.

Proudblondewoman · Answer

I'm a very feminine woman and always told I am. All the men including my husband love that I'm feminine. I've always known men to like feminine women. That's how we're supposed to be.

Pyrofox · Answer

I think as a gender women trojan horse their gender the most. They lie deceit and try and change those they see as rivals. Because they are so insecure, and naiive. That they would rather drag others around them to climb higher.

genericname85 · Answer

maybe cause they're in the "yas queen" feminazi bubble. but i think they know exactly that men like feminine women. it's just that ugly and maskulne women rather live in delusion than living with the painfull reality.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some men like them. Some men don’t like super feminine women. And some are more focused on overall personality.

MikeMcMansion · Answer

Most of the time they just do what other women do, or at least their “clique” of women. Its no secret that women are hardwired to be more social and herd minded.

Flower7 · Answer

A lot of times, men are with loud women and let their women speak for them in public.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I think it stems from confusion over gender roles.

beenherebefore · Answer

I honestly never heard a Man say such thing so I don't know where this idea comes from.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think that's true at all. For the most part today's men are starved for feminine women and wish there were more of them like there used to be.

Bloodparadise · Answer

Men do like feminine women.. but feminity doesn't have anything to do with marriage or other contracts.

Torilayne · Answer

All right, I honestly think that it's hard when we women want to encourage our guys (friend or otherwise), but don't enjoy as many masculine things as they do... if anything I said make sense.

Kelly6 · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

They like to sluts to fuck and fem ones for cooking and cleaning

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