Why do some girls’ think it’s ok for her to yell and scream at a guy, but when he gives it back to her , she expects him to apologize and she doesn’t?

[Finchie40]

Most of these type of girls’ will say , he isn’t listening to me , he doesn’t care about me or love me , he just attacks me instead , ummm maybe he would listen to your psychotic ass , if you didn’t yell or scream at him to begin with , did you ever think of that? ,. Why do some girls’ do this? Basically Act like she is this victim when she clearly started the shit , and she assumes he is this horrible person for defending himself? , when clearly she is the one that’s wrong , Does she expect him to be a mind reader and just accept the fact that she is yelling at him and act like it’s no big deal? I’m sorry , if someone is yelling and screaming at me, Guy or Girl , I am going to do the same in return. If you can’t speak to me in a calm manner , then you better be prepared to take what you dished out to begin with. Why don’t some females’ see it that way?

[sage2021]

I don't believe that yelling at each other is okay to be doing in the first place. That's very dysfunctional and unacceptable behavior for both of you.
You need to respect one another, love one another, and treat each other with kindness.
There's no need to scream at each if you would have adult conversations and remain respectful and most of all calm during times of disagreement. Are you on the same team and want the best for each other?
Then start acting like it!!
This is a very dysfunctional way of behaving and if the two of you continue to treat each other this way then it's best to end the madness and end the relationship.
It takes work for things to get better, are you both willing to do what it takes to act like grown up adults?

[Crimsyjo]

Goes both ways whether it's verbal or physical bad behaviour. I've experienced both and been pushed to point of doing both. It's very toxic. But it certainly doesn't come out of nowhere or for no reason and is end of the tether thing. We both always apologise and make up but there comes a point where an apology doesn't cut it. You can't keep repeating toxic patterns thinking a little "I'm sorry" is going to make it all OK then. If it's frequent it's a sign to walk away for both your sakes.

[Someone34]

They are probably narcisstic, if you act that way you have problems. Who starts yelling at someone for no reason? What would justify it? Also, if a girl screams at a guy, maybe there is a backstory too. Maybe the guy is a complete lump? That dosent help with anything at home. Yelling in that case and getting frustrated would be normal.

Cause there is guys out there that only sit on their ass and dosent help with anything. My thought is that they asked first several times if they could help out, when they dont, they get frustrated and scream, completely logical.

[slatyb]

Why do some guys tolerate a woman who yells and screams?

[Someone34]

Noone has too, but there are a million different personalities in this world. Some genetic configured in a certain, some through how they were raised. Maybe they are afraid to be alone, maybe they want someone to have sex with. Its a long list and its complicated as there are so many different reasons and people out there and their situations aswell.

[slatyb]

@Someone34 Right, it's men with no boundaries, probably raised with abuse or neglect.

[Noredcarpet]

I think behind their anger there is fear and hurt feelings you can't detect, so you feel like you have to defend yourself getting the same way as they are which only increase their feelings of fear, hurt and that they can't afford to be vulnerable and trust that you can catch them when they fall. It is more easy and you protect yourself more when you show anger, in the short run, but you loose in the long run because what you both really want, I assume, is being close, vulnerable, safe, understood, respected, all that.

With me I am used to people getting more angry, showing off their emotions, letting themselves loose like that but I have it more locked in or different. This has resulted somehow in them expressing they feel a lot more close to me than orher people that react just like they do, only I think what they refer to is that they feel more safe with me as I don't act like them. I think twice before trusting them with stuff because of their temper and a part of them might not get that and another will but my guess is they think that is a defect in me, holding back. Thing is if I would get like them in the heat of the moment they would not be able to handle it, only get more angry, chaos, worse than it already is.

I am sensitive to when people loose their cool like that, busy to try to understand what they are really saying behind their anger, but at the same time I am maybe more afraid of it as it reminds me of my parents dysfunctional relationship and with the split up and how I felt caught in it. I was the expert of keeping things to myself because I knew anything could trigger and I was sick of being (ab) used, the tool for it. You don't care about who is right or wrong, you just want no part of it. It is as if they don't fully understand how it effect their surrounding, other people close to them when they get like that. Everyone can get mad but if you can take a second to figure out why exactly you might not get so mad, easy on you, easier on everyone, lol.

[RandomGirl42]

If she thinks it's ok then she needs to grow up. So does anybody who yells and screams. I throw little tantrums sometimes for whatever reason but I always apologize after 'cuz I don't like it done to me. I always try to walk away when someone starts yelling at me otherwise it can turn into a wrestling match and I always end up pushed in the pig pen. But that's me. 🤷‍♀️

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s definitely immature childish behavior to always assume there is no consequences for your actions , When a girl is verbally mean to me , criticizing me , belittling me and yelling at me , I am going to give it right back to her period

[RandomGirl42]

Ok, I mean it's always good to stick up for yourself but is that really the most productive approach? It's like me and my sisters, "She pushed me!" , "She pushed me first!" then we end up in a wrestling match and one of us would end up pushed in the pig pen.
I suppose I shouldn't really offer an opinion since I don't really have any xp with it. I don't recall ever really yelling and screaming at a guy or vice versa. Really. 🤷‍♀️

[Leodeh]

Women are babied, entitled lunatics thanks to the collapse of proper male authority and the cult of feminism. Mostly, you really should have as little to do as possible with women, and only deal with women who are not feminist, who do not want careers, and who will adopt your political views.

[Finchie40]

Yea I only date girls’ that have work ethic , and knows how to support herself , I want a partner not a user

[Leodeh]

I don't think married women should work, but women should be expected to be obedient to men or their fathers.

[Finchie40]

Back in the old days yes women didn’t have to work , because the economy was a lot affordable then and only one income could support a family , but that changed when women liberation occurred and now the economy is all messed up , so girls’ can only blame themselves for this happening

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

I'm not a yeller. But from my experience and observation of others it's usually because the person is a hypocrite or has narcissistic tendencies.

[Nikki1989]

People like that are made for each other. Both dysfunctional idiots.

[exitseven]

I grew up just thinking that is the way it is.

[AngryCarl2]

In case you hadn't noticed, some women have trouble regulating their emotions.

[Flowersareawsome22]

Some woman can be Hypocrites.

[Mike000123]

There’s a lot of things that a woman would do to a guy, but if it was done to her, she’d catch feelings about it

[dudeinohio]

Toxic women. Not good people for a relationship