Should I cut her off?

[Anonymous]

This girl says she really cares about me and loves me endlessly and that that is the reason she isn’t gonna let me closer because that would also mean I have the ability to hurt her. And she doesn’t want to risk that.

But she keeps texting me, when drunk, when sober it doesn’t matter. And about everything

[SueShe]

Yes, you should cut her off because that is not what love is all about. Love is about sharing things, about letting a person close and by accepting their flaws and qualities.

She is afraid to be hurt. Being hurt is also part of love. As soon as you have an interaction between 2 people, differences are going to happen and those differences may hurt.

Now, she texts you only when drunk and not when sober. Then this is not a real love but only something superficial. You will only hurt yourself if you keep that kind of relationship.

She is a very insecure person.

[Asker]

I meant also when sober, but i really get what you mean. It is clear that she means her words, but I am still inclined to cut het off. Just now contemplating if i’d give her a chance if she’d come back when she’s willing to take the risk

[Ariesman81]

The I love you like a brother texts. Otherwise known as... thanks for letting me use you without having to give you anything.

[Asker]

Well she said she loved me like that and i don’t think anyone goes all the way with their brother🫣

[Ariesman81]

Oh... well then tell her to come over again. This time tell her STFU

[Asker]

I should haha