Do I finally cut her off?

[Anonymous]

So my friend that ghosted me after she got a boyfriend has started back calling and texting. Let me preface by saying she kind of ghosted for like 8 months the whole year almost. They broke up now. The whole length of the relationship she was Mia. In 8 months, I’ve graduated college, moved to a new city, and I’ve started a new job. All without one of my best friends. It was hard. I was sad sometimes. I had blights of depression just because of the fast changes that were happening. And now that she is back. Do you know all she wants to talk about is a new guy she is seeing since her boyfriend broke up with her? It’s all she wants to talk about. I listen but I don’t think I can sustain the friendship anymore. I’m over it. I mean before her and her ex made it official, it was the same thing. While they were together she tells me to say” what I need to say because when he calls it’s gonna be like I’m not even here” she was even weird on her birthday trip because she wanted to go back home to him. It was too much. I told her to take a break before dating again but she won’t listen. I don’t want to just talk on the phone all day about a guy and rehashing todays progression of the new relationship. Not that I’m hating but like I haven’t talked to you all year. I could care less about this random. I don't know what to do. Avoid calls? Avoid texts? Have I outgrown the friendship? Or is she going through something I’m meant to help her through? I don't know. Mind you he syas the break up was because she never wants him to have any space or something. I really feel like I’m just a holding spot. Until she gets a new man. I can’t be a back burner friend. I have my own issues about being abandoned and being abandoned by a friend since childhood made me feel really shitty. It was rough. What can I do about the situation?

[ZamerZ]

I went through the exact same thing about 10 years ago. My best friend decided to ghost me because, in her own words, "she doesn't need anyone but her boyfriend" and after they broke up, she came crawling back. Totally uncaring that she threw me into an emotional mess, as long as she can get something out of it.

What I'm telling you now since I've learned from that situation is: Don't let her treat you like a piece of furniture that she can put away in a storage room and pull out again whenever she feels like it. She and your friendship obviously meant more to you than it did to her. This isn't a thing you do to a friend. Cut her off.

[RoseySaraah]

Really time to cut her off! She is not a friend to you she is a chore!

My friend got that way after her big boyfriend and she is always chasing those feelings like a drug!

Had to cut her off and my besty is still talking with her... Listening to her rant. It is not a friendship but a chore.

Right now her priority will never be friends or you so go on be healthy cut her off!