Why do toxic people blame YOU when you cut them off/stand up for yourself?

[Anonymous]

Why is it that some people do incredibly toxic things to other people, like bullying, but when the victim of their toxic behaviour chooses to either stand up for themselves or cut them off, THEY are the "bad person"?

A girl who was my friend bullied me pretty badly and she knew she was doing things on purpose to ruin my life. I could tell she felt guilty but wouldn't admit it. I was being a doormat and taking her treatment of me, but when I finally stood up for myself and cut her off, she told everyone that I am the "bad person/friend."

No, I am just reacting to your shitty behaviour. Why do some people turn it around on you just because you choose to stand up for yourself against their bullying?

[LazerBean]

What makes a toxic person toxic is that they refuse to acknowledge that they are ever in the wrong. I've dealt with many over the years, even tried to help them, and I have found that you cannot help someone who refuses so admit they need help. It's been years since I and everyone else who tried to help them have cut them out of their lives, and those people are still just as toxic as they were in highschool.