Do you hold a grudge? Do you cut toxic people off out of your life for good? Or how many chances do you give them?

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ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Anyone who's told the sort of lie that could get me killed / wrongly imprisoned, I view them as if they'd made an assassination attempt.

If their reason for wanting me assassinated is something utterly asinine / stupid, especially if their slander were sexual in nature or their delusions about me were of a sexual nature, then I view them as mortal threats for life, worthy only of being cannon fodder.

I may try to go on with my life, but I always do so with the looming fear that they might try to find me, head straight to my current location, and seek to start trouble all over again.

Containing myself, and not seeking revenge, would be true tests of character.

I can feign a false sense of civility on the surface for a time. But inside, this is who I become if they ever show their face again:

Get OVER here!!! I have arisen from Hell to kill you!!!

Alex8736 · Accepted Answer

Everyone makes mistakes which can be innocently explained but if you start sensing a pattern cut all ties. Screw me once shame on you BUT screw me twice then shame on ME

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

I don't really hold grudges but I do stupid ass bad jokes about having a grudge, like the time my sister left without saying bye to me lol

And yes I cut them out. I don't keep contact, I don't look on their social medias, I delete them everywhere.
But I'm also a person, like if a past friend would show up at my door, yeaaaars later and needed my help, I would help them, cause I probably still care about them but afterwards leave immediately again lol

DancingQueen16 · Accepted Answer

If someone I know is being toxic I'll just cut them out of my life

NathanDavis · Answer

do I hold onto grudges? nope... no, I just let go of that poison, I don't want any of within me... lol

do I cut off toxic people off my life for good? well... I don't even welcome them into my life in the first place... I've always had this sixth sense about people, and when they're full of it, I usually keep my distance from them, don't end up involved with them...

giving chances? yes, I do give chances or more like, I do give it a try for certain things and with certain people... only if they are genuinely trying to work things out with me and if I can see that they can actually change or adjust their ways... but this is more for people who have made a mistake, we all make mistakes... we all deserve second chances sometimes

toxic people though... they're just not part of my life (not my inner circles anyway)

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Nope, yup and I rarely do. I can forgive people but that doesn’t mean we have to buddies now. I know people who were toxic and still are that ended on bad terms, friends and ex girlfriends. I let them know I forgive them and they have nothing to worry about from me but I honestly wouldn’t try to be close to them again because I’ve already adapted my life without them.

Putting people who vacated their seat in my life cannot get the same position back like they never left, they have to earn it if I’m even willing to allow it

Googlemyahoo · Answer

I usually just cut people off entirely. For example a coworker showed me a funny video. I noticed he was on wifi which everyone used to be on but the company made it private & changed the password. I asked about it & he told me who had the password.

It was a guy I talked and joked with daily I would trust him. I walked over & asked he played dumb said he didn’t have it. I asked again he said he didn’t know. So I waved the other guy over & he goes give him the password.

I said forget it I don’t want it walked away. Haven’t talked to the guy since been about two years. Regardless if he apologizes he’s a liar and therefore scum.

Still-alive · Answer

I used to hold grudges often actually usually out of jealousy or spite or something. kinda sad to admit i was one of those types of people lol... but i grew out of it luckily and now i just cut people out.. sometimes after really giving them a taste of my ire if i feel they truly deserve it hehe :P

But yeah like your meme says i have quite a list of people i've had to cut from my life especially online. its pretty much just a block and forget about em kind of deal. out of sight out of mind

Sixgunsound · Answer

I no longer have contact with my birth family. After they made it clear that their politics were more important than kinship, I made a command decision that I would grant them their wish. Very little has changed in day to day life for the worse, but the stress relief and not having to dread what the next outburst of toxicity would be has been amazing.

Guy13 · Answer

Three strikes rule. I’m probably too accommodating but no one is perfect. Even if it is bad… Do it again and my heart has changed and much harder not to “watch you”. Do it again, I am clearly exhausted by then and move on without guilt, shame, or regret. I get really mad at myself at that point…shoukd have done it the first time kind of thing. It seems like a character flaw 🤷🏻‍♂️

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I used to hold grudges. Not so much now. This is supported by my willingness and ability to displace people from my life. It’s nearly impossible for me to not continue to bear resentments with people who frequently and knowingly offend me in one or more ways.

TrueConfection · Answer

It depends on things like the person's awareness, intentions, etc. I can only think of one person I immediately cut off and never gave a second chance to, but it was more for my personal safety than because of a grudge.

dustybiker · Answer

I have learned yo remove them. I have spent to much of my life trying alternatives. It’s never worth the time or effort. I have peace and happiness to chase.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I give them 2 1/2 chances. I won't cut them off (it's not always possible i. e. with our production manager failure). My agenda: ''If 'you' give me shit - then I'll make you eat it''

Topaz1979 · Answer

I can’t hold grudges against people all I do is leave them alone, and move on with my life. If I can’t trust someone I just stop associating with them and leave them alone that’s all I do. 🕊

Lillylux22 · Answer

I hold grudges towards people who have physically harmed me or purposefully tried to mentally or emotionally manipulate me. I have cut out as many of the toxic people as i can.

AviatorTom · Answer

I learned a long time ago that holding a grudge is pointless. And I don't cut toxic people off... they usually end up cutting themselves off.

Andres77 · Answer

Why should forgiving them equal continuing to be vulnerable to someone who’s proven to be untrustworthy?

JosyJosy · Answer

Depends on what they did to me they either get one chance or none at all. But yes I do cut them out.

Guardian45 · Answer

I'm a "3 Strikes" kinda guy. Cross me once and I'll forgive and forget. Cross me twice and I'll forgive. Cross me thrice and I'll NEVER forget or forgive; you're OUT!

exitseven · Answer

It takes a lot to get on my shit list but once your there it is probably forever.

Sonorous · Answer

Yes. But not in the way that normal people do. It's not dangerous when I do it.

TroyDT · Answer

I don't hold a grudge, as in "I do not actively hold antipathy" but I will exclude from my circle those who have committed acts of betrayal.

Smoothing · Answer

I am nit the type to hold a grudge. But yes, I keep toxic people away from me.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Cut out. People that don't enhance my life, there's no need nor space for them to be in my life at all, besides the fact I don't like being around ish people anyways.

discernment · Answer

Now I cut them out of my life but in the past I wouldn’t ever. I give them a chance to change and if it doesn’t work then I cut them off. I try to surround myself with positive people. I hold grudges majorly for years sometimes.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I've cut all my jerk relatives out of my life that are mean

Havthrills · Answer

I used to give chances. Been f'd over so many times. So no more. I'm done with the BS.

Lincoln33 · Answer

For me am not God, so I give them as much chances it take for them to change, even God forgive us so who are my to judge someone

Jenny-Marie · Answer

Holding a grudge depends on the circumstances. I am usually willing to forgive eventually, but it can take years.

nawtee_me · Answer

Fool me once shame on me, fool me twice shame on you... But you will get a second chance and maybe more with me... I am a forgiving person...

LavLavLuv · Answer

i cut toxic people off, yes.. but i don't hold grudges

Thecubs22 · Answer

I don't hold grudges either. I just try to cut off the toxicology, as much as I can both related and non related.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I forgive but I never forget. I will cut them off immediately

Zolly99999 · Answer

I give people 1 chance.. everyone makes mistakes... A second time and they are gone...

areeb32 · Answer

Play games and make yourself nessesry for them who are toxic to you. So they will always beg you for their works.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

That's all I fucking do jeez

AsaKyo · Answer

I typically cut them out, but there was only one person I gave multiple chances to and I wish I didn't lmao..

RavVid · Answer

I run a one strike policy.

douride2 · Answer

I tend to cut toxic people out of my life.

Jerre · Answer

I also do not hold grudges.

HaveNoName · Answer

I don't give them ANY chance.

Fuentes · Answer

Dead to me forever beef

Avgbrisbaneguy · Answer

No real point in holding a grudge

eagle1951 · Answer

one no more then2 And i do hold a Grudge

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