How could he cut me off so easily when it seemed like he liked me?

[Anonymous]

Me and a guy had been talking since around March and finally we met up and he told me he would never hurt me while we were having a heart to heart conversation or so i thought.. he bought me lunch, put gas in my car, and even held my waist while we were walking, anyway after a small petty argument about him not responding to my messages for 2-4 days like he normally does i got angry at him and he blocked me on all social media. That was a month ago and I'm still hurt he could just get rid of me so quickly when I'm not even the one who was in the wrong. I think it was rude for him to justify taking days 2 days to respond to me and I'm shocked I even put up with it now. I understand we were just talking and getting to know each other and he didn't owe me anything but its still rude and it hurts. How could he cut me off so easily after saying he wasn't trying to hurt me and i wasn't even the one in the wrong?

[Yuushiro]

That depends on why he wasn't responding, and how the argument went. He could be feeling just as hurt, but "realized" that if you're fighting this much already, it's just going to get work. Or maybe he just doesn't communicate well in person or over text, and is trying to save you the pain of waiting for him to respond. I doubt that last one is what's going on, but you never know.

Basically, he's probably hurting too. I doubt he cut you off "easily". Everyone hurts after an argument. The only reason he wouldn't hurt is if he just buried the feelings. Give him some time to cool down, and then go talk to him in person and ask what was up. If you're totally done with him, then just don't.

[Asker]

i mean we were fighting because he always leaves me hanging for days when I message him and he doesn't think thats rude. thats crazy to me and its been a month i doubt he's ever going to speak to me again.

[Yuushiro]

That sucks.
He might just not consider texting to be a valid form of communication.

But yeah, that's too bad.

[Dongtai]

You have to go into detail about “getting mad”. That’s definitely what caused it though. If you mean you went “crazy” then yeah, crazy cancels out premade promises. I’ve done that too. Sometimes you don’t know who you’re making a promise to and have to break them.

[Asker]

getting mad means getting mad i told him bye i was tired of being ignored by him

[Asker]

he might consider it crazy but he was being very rude to me

[Dongtai]

But what happened when you got “mad”? The things that led up to him blocking you

[Asker]

i asked him a question n he ignored me so i just said bye to him woke up and i was blocked

[blazestar]

I'm really sorry to hear about that and I do understand what u r going through. However most guys do not like the idea of women or girls behaving the way you did. Remember that its kind of hard for him to message you every 2-4 days in other words it would be like a protocol, and the moment he didn't , you fly off the angle. . It could be that he want to message you everyday, there should not be a set time to message someone. So why didn't you message him since he never message. He is probably thinking that you could too and felt like he is the one forcing himself on you, It could be that he needs space, girl it could be anything, guys and girls alike can be weird at times.

[Asker]

I actually would message him first most times and never get a response or it takes days for him to answer!

[victorvolf]

Was it the only time he did not respond for a couple of days or did it start to happen consistently?

If it's the former, he's right. It sounds like he invested in you quite a bit and when he took a bit of time to organize his thoughts/de-stress/deal with something, you started an argument about it. My guess is that he saw that as a red flag and walked away.

If it's the latter, then calling him out on it is good. I don't know how the argument went tho.

[Asker]

no every time i messaged him he would ignore it he picked and chosed when he wanted to talk to me

[Dragonstarterplus]

Cause it sounds like y'all have only known each other since March and have only met in person one time, so he probably wasn't that invested in whatever this was

[Asker]

then why did he even bother

[Dragonstarterplus]

boredom in his free time, or perhaps an initial strong attraction that withered. Who knows

[nynightwing]

There could be many things
Mental imbalance
He had family problems
Or he is just a jerk
Lots of men say they won't hurt you but I'm the end are just selfish and don't care
Don't dwell on it
Move on and find someone better that will care about you

[Wise4myage]

Maybe he was married or had a girlfriend? It sounds like he did you a big favor though.

[Asker]

why?

[Wise4myage]

Because he sounds flaky and he had no reason to avoid returning your texts.

[Asker]

thats true

[KrakenAttackin]

You were shit-testing him and he called you out on your bullshit. He did the right thing.

[Asker]

shit testing him how?

[AngelKnight]

he's flaky and runs at the first sign of trouble, not really a good fuck tbh

[In_Trance]

didn't like you that much

[Asker]

ouch