Girl cut me off, what should I do?

[Lostforwordz]

This girl and I started talking to and eventually dating cut me off completely. This girl and I had a complicated thing, she didn't want a relationship, but she got jealous when she saw me with other girls, she was happy when we were together but pushed me away when we werent together, refused my help. And i really took care of her, when she needed help i was there, i did thing's most guys wouldn't do, took her to places she wanted to go to, and i literally never asked for anything in return, i really did care and wanted her to be happy. Im not one to put my foot down, but we got into a big argument, she blocked me out of nowhere, and when confronted she flipped out on me and categorized me with the same bs all guy's are the same, like she almost had flashbacks of her past and for no reason because i literally did nothing wrong. So i said she treats me like shit when i do all this, and she really got offended with that and said she never wants to see me again. Now for some reason call me crazy but i feel like she is damaged and doesn't really mean what she says because when we are together we really did have a good time.
Everyone knows that I've done a lot for this girl, and everyone had told me to leave her or cut her off. I don't know why i wanna apologize and hope that we dont at least end on bad terms, but my question is, should i apologize to her for what was said or leave it be in hopes she comes back one day?

[bobair]

Here's the thing... when you say you're super nice to her and want nothing in return, you're lying. Because ultimately you want her gratitude and affection, otherwise you would read all the red flags and would have walked away a long time ago.

You sound like me, which is why I'm responding to your question... there's something really attractive about a broken bird... or a woman with issues... maybe because we think when we fix her she'll love us unconditionally, or maybe because our egos make us think we can fix anything... or we tell ourselves how amazing we are for seeing the REAL her through all of her bad shitty behaviours...

I don't know.

But I DO KNOW that you're way too focused on chasing a girl who is NOT interested instead of stopping yourself, taking a breath and gaining some perspective.

With perspective you would see that you're an awesome guy who has lots to give. And you DESERVE to be with a woman who appreciates you, and pampers you in return. This is something I didn't realize until I dated a few women who pampered me as hard as I pampered them... and believe me when I say this... it's a WHOLE NEW WORLD when you're with someone who matches your wants and needs.

But you'll never end up with a woman who can make you feel amazing if you're stuck chasing someone else.

Cut this girl free of your delusions... allow her to make her own life mistakes. Allow her to make her own dating mistakes. IT's NOT YOUR JOB TO FIX HER, OR TO SAVE HER.

Let her go, that's what she wants and that's what you deserve.

Only with time and distance will you see that you deserve someone more available, more stable, and more giving.

:)

~ Robby

[Lostforwordz]

You know what man, you really hit it on the nail, i guess I've been trying so hard to help her that i disregarded my own needs, just felt like i can make a difference, more of a duty because i know i couldve made a difference, thanks man really do appreciate it

[bobair]

Awesome, good for you! I applaud your need to help and your desire to be awesome, but sometimes we have to let others make their own mistakes. :)

[Lostforwordz]

Weird but do people like that ever realize that they had it good and try to come back or?

[bobair]

That's just a fantasy, most people who have distorted thinking don't look back and realize what they missed. And even if they do, don't be around to find out! :P

[frozenhorizon]

If she treats you like she why do anything? Just leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Do nothing and say nothing. If you text her, she will be having the upper hand. You don't have to apologize for anything. It's not like you hit on them or anything like that

[Anonymous]

STOP being a simp.