Should I Dump girlfriend Over Gang Bang Rumor?

[Anonymous]

I really like my current girlfriend, but I recently heard disturbing news about her. A dude she went to college with says she once "pulled a train" at a frat house, with at least four guys involved. I checked with a girl who also went to school with my girlfriend, and she confirmed that there was talk that this happened. (She mentioned that she was not sure it was consensual).

My girlfriend does not seem like that type, but she has admitted in the past that she was "a little wild" back in college. Should I break up with her? They say a leopard doesn't change its spots. I don't want to be mixed up with someone with no self-respect. On the other hand, if she got roofied or something, I suppose it's not her fault.

[OneViewpoint]

Look at it this way. At least she has a pulse and she's not some boring asexual lump with no sex drive. A guy could have a fun sex life with a girl like that. You just need to match her energy and keep her satisfied. And yeah, leopards do change their spots. A girl that went wild in college is not going to behave the same way when she's in her prime dating years and trying to attract a mate she's gonna have kids with.

You sound like an insecure prude in contrast to her wild child hedonism when she was fresh out of high school and off the chain for the first time. That's what those years were for. Don't slut shame her because she took advantage of the opportunity and you missed out. And don't judge her because another man had her before you. You have her now. After about age 22 it's unreasonable (IMHO) to expect someone to be a virgin, male or female.

[Finchie40]

Have you talked to her first about it or are you just going off of what other people said about her? Also, if you really like her, why do you care about her past? you weren't even a part of her life when she was being nailed by 4 guys" if that even happened, and if it did, who cares. You have to realize something my man; most girls' have a wild past just like most of us guys" do , if we all started holding our past against each other , there wouldn't be any relationships whatsoever. because pretty much everyone has sex or did something wild , so if you want to dump this girl because of her past , then that's your loss my friend, send her my way lol

[elizamichale1]

My goodness... really?
I think whether that rumor turn out to be tru or not it doesn't matter coz eventually u r going to break up with her.. I dont know anything about her but just listening to u tells me its u who will force her to break up with u...
If you really really liked/loved your girlfriend you wouldn't let some rumours make u break your relationship..
U got up worked up just listening something bad about ur girlfriend and thinking of breaking up and tfying to get validated based opinions of people here... who have no clue about u or ur girlfriend...
You dont really like/love her so its better if u break up today n not waste both hers n urs time...
Even if the rumour turn out to be true... what matters is her current state with u n urs with her...

[PeachyPie93]

Well it's up to you... at the end of the day you are the one who will be stuck with her..
Personally if I knew my partner was involved in a gang bang that is probably not a person I would want to be with long term cuz they have low morals..

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just judge her for who she is now and what you know about her? This leopard changing its spots thing is nonsense. Do you think you're the same as in high school and college? I hope not or it means you're an immature kid still in your late 20's. People do wild stuff when they're young to try it out and then they often grow out of it. Further, it's just conjecture and you don't know how consensual it was.

[Anonymous]

If it were me, I would confront her about it and see what SHE says happened. If the rumor is true, and it was consensual, I would dump her. It's a proven fact that women with a wild promiscuous past are more likely to be unsatisfied in marriage, to cheat on their husbands, and/or to divorce them when the honeymoon phase ends. Marriage today is already a very risky proposition for men; why go into one with the cards already stacked even more against you?

[Anonymous]

Maybe the guy she was with back then was a fat , bald loser. Can’t blame a women with wanting a hot frat boy. That’s what handsome college frat boys are for

[DryGermanGuy]

But that was not the decisive part that - allegedly - happened. 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

@DryGermanGuy she surely learned her lesson. Let the fat bald ones never dare date above their League

[DryGermanGuy]

Uhm… 🤔 that’s actually not the lesson, if there even is any lesson.

[Opinion Owner]

@DryGermanGuy that’s exactly the lesson. For both her and her guy. You can’t be loyal to the one who’s ugly

[DryGermanGuy]

Do you have problems with timelines or reading the full text? There was no then-boyfriend to be loyal to or not, bold, fat or otherwise. You invented him! 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

You are asking strangers instead of talking to her. That speaks volumes about you.

[In_Trance]

Have you asked her directly?

[Anonymous]

Things that didn’t happen…

[Opinion Owner]

I know this because I already anon blocked you for being a troll. 🤣