i know she's probably cheating on me should I dump her ?
she was crying and telling me she didn't do anything but I'm done
1. She's probably not cheating or she wouldn't tell you where she's going.
2. Most ever girl has a group of friends who are also girls who they like to hang out with. (Personally my and my two other girl friends sit around the house and make fun of movies and TV shows and play pokemon snap, but that's not generally what girls do)
3. You're an ass, she should be the one dumping you
You're clearly not mature enough to handle this. Look, she's going out with her girlfriends because they're close, they like to go dancing with each other and just have a good time, and that's hard to do with a boyfriend hovering over your shoulder. She probably just wants a night with no grinding, no nagging, no expectations, no need to pay attention to you. She probably just wants a night she can be with her friends and just relax and have a chance to bitch about the things he doesn't like at school, or work, or in the relationship. Girls are different around their close girl friends than around their boyfriends... some of them at least.
If it really bothers you that much then talk to her about it. Don't accuse her of doing anything wrong because she hasn't, and don't yell at her. Just tell her how you feel and together try to find a solution. Maybe if they didn't go to a club, or went to a gay club instead (Actually more fun than straight clubs) so you know that no guys were hitting on her. You can't blame her for your own insecurities that you haven't told her about. If you're just going to assume she's cheating why are you with her? You clearly think she's some kind of loose moraled slut who just sleeps with any one any chance she gets and you obviously have no opinion of her, at least not one what's I her favor. Not to mention you have zero respect for her at all.
If I were her I'd break up with you but I'm not so I'll say just talk to her about it. And try not to be an ass hole, I know it might be hard but if you are it'll just make things worse. Don't yell, don't accuse, don't be angry, just talk to her with the intention of working something out so you're BOTH HAPPY. This isn't about you, it's about her, too so you'll need to compromise.
hes not an ass, id be pissed off if my girlfriend went clubbing EVERY week and came back and didn't want to see me
you are stupid I have every right to be angry
He never said she didn't want to see him when she came back.
Every one needs their space, EVERY ONE. We just go about it different ways, he can't ask his girlfriend to give up seeing her friends completely just because he's insecure. He has every right to talk to her like the responsible adults they are and express his concerns but not to take any anger he may have out on her. He never said he'd talked to her about it before and he never said there was every any proof that she was cheating.
whatever I just ended it
that's really sh*tty of you, because of your irrational insecurities you've lost a girl who's only mistake is to enjoy going out with her friends.
I insist me and my man have two nights apart per week and this is what keeps us strong. I prefer going out with my girls than going out with just him, people don't instantly talk to couples, but big groups will talk to other big groups - male or female, sometimes it's more fun that way. That doesn't mean she's gonna cheat. He likes to hold hands all the time, I prefer to get on the stage and just dance the whole night, I don't even bother making conversation with anyone - I go to enjoy myself.
That's awful, you're so convinced she was up to no good...maybe you wanted out and didn't have the balls to do it the proper way, sounds like a lucky escape for her at least she's rid of you now not when you'd be married with kids etc then she'd just be trapped.
"i didn't tell her before but I told her on the phone while she was crying and then I hung up
she tried to call me several times since but I don't pick up" F***ING COWARD, SHE'S UPSET BECAUSE SHE HASNT HAD THE CHANCE TO DEFEND HERSELF - DONT WORRY SHE'LL GROW TO HATE BEFORE LONG & REALISE SHE'S BETTER OFF. WHAT A SAD F***ER!
haha dumbass
Women can go to clubs without cheating. Guys just wish girls were going to clubs to have sex, that is a male fantasy. I think guys are so ridiculous going to clubs expecting to get an easy lay. Not saying that hookups don't happen, but many women go without any interest in hooking up, ever!
That said, to have a girl's night out every Friday for apparently a long time is not what a girl in a relationship should do, especially if her partner is not comfortable with that. Further, if she had no interest in you after the night was over, well this is not a girl who is that in to you. You are young and I assume she is too, so no point in trying to be tied down when she should just be single and enjoy friends rather than pretend she is ready for a relationship.
I would be upset at this situation.
First off, Me and my girlfriend go to the club/rave every single weekend.
She wears the awesome rave outfits consisting of brightly colored fluffy leg warmers and uv reactive boyshorts and tops.
We go together so its awesome sure other guys can look but they see me with her. If your girl is going to clubs without you this would be exactly the same as having secret website she danced on with her friends.
When my girlfriend dances on stage alone I usually get a video and help her off the stage and kiss her in front of everyone. We dance all night together and guard her ass when we make are way through the crowd.
Its an amazing experience everytime, we both love EDM and dressing up and going clubbing. Its not something you do alone if your in a relationship. similar to Dating Bars,maybe The pool, or any other place where promiscuity or dainty attire is expected.
I know its over but I would have spied on her personally..It would be easy at a rave as people wear the craziest sh*t(aspirators/scarves) and you could come up with several disguises and try and dance with her. Then you would "know" and could be proper and righteous if it turns out she was cheating.
i wouldn't jump to conclusions, but I would be worried if I were you. I would talk to her about this and tell her going clubbing is putting a strain on you two cause you want to hang with her but she's out hanging with her friends at clubs. Personally I would make her decide an ultimatum where she has to pick one, you or her clubbing ever friday. =( bro I wish you the best of luck and I hope you two work out
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You shouldn't have broken up with her for something you're not even sure she was doing. So she was going out. That's not fair to just dump her.
BUT.
If you have talked to her and told her your feelings. Than she should've accepted it and stopped it. I can understand maybe girlsnight once or twice a month. But not every week.
I just hope you tried to talk to her.
If you did. Then good job on dumping her.
If not. Then that's a horrible thing to have done. Because then she didn't know you had a problem with it and didn't have the CHANCE to quit.
i didn't tell her before but I told her on the phone while she was crying and then I hung up
she tried to call me several times since but I don't pick up
THEN HOW DO YOU KNOW SHE WAS DOING ANYTHING WRONG IF YOU DIDN'T TALK TO HER FIRST?!?!
because she was she never spent a weekend night with me, always partying
That girl deserves better you are one of the biggest asses in the world Ho dare you do that to her you should be the one crying but it is fine SHE WILL do better then you
whats the point in being a couple if half the couple isn't there? sounds like she only wanted a booty call on weeknights, and then have you locked in the closet next to the vacuum cleaner on weekends!
Yea I know girls who do that, usually they so seem to go to hook up with guys. Even if they're not like that, most guys in a club are there to hook up and will bug girls. Anytime I tagged along with someone who had girls nights out you couldn't leave her alone in the place. I can't even go somewhere with my girlfriend without guys coming over to try hit on her. I trust her, she doesn't take sh*t from guys, but they are forcing themselves on her... I can only protect her so much, without being so creepy as too spend every second with her. I'd say it's more trouble than it's worth in your case.
I know it's too late but here is some advice:
A girl is like a beautiful song bird. They are best appreciated being free, cared for and loved to the fullest. If you grab the song bird, you might crush it and it will wither and die, and caging a song bird will just depress and ruin its potential.
Girls are songbirds, and shouldn't be crushed or caged. Let them be free, and they'll thank you for it and be a lot happier.
Sorry for the choice you made. I hope your next relationship goes better.
thats stupid so I should let her cheat
You should let her be free. Crushing her isn't doing her any good, really.
You don't know if she is cheating or not. Do you provide her with anything she needs to get by? Money? A house? A family? You need to find some grounds on why she would cheat with you first, and decide if it's good enough to make her actually dislike you enough to do so.
Say it's because you are ugly, and have a bad personality, and smell. Why would she beg you (as you've stated in previous comments) to come back?
because she knows no one else will want her cheating ass when I tell everyone about it
I know you already broke up..but if it was some raves she was attending then kudos! Haha! No better dancing than flailing your arms wronged and twirling to a beat. I agree with your statement about rubbing an ass in a d***..totally not dancing, it's more or a tease. I hate it
It sounds like you severely overreacted here. No offense, but it's perfectly acceptable if not, preferable that people in couples have some time apart. It's good for you to have a chance to miss each other and do things you enjoy by yourself or with friends. And just because she went to the club to dance with her friends it doesn't mean that she was cheating or grinding with other guys. I can't stand when guys try to grind up on me at the clubs...
You have no reason to think she's cheating on you, at least from what you've written above. Believe her, and give her time with her friends. Just because she's in a relationship with you doesn't mean she's going to give up everything else in her life to please you.
she goes every Friday and comes back and wants nothing to do with me
See, I can get how you would think she's cheating now that you've mentioned that she doesn't want to have anything to do with you. Talk to her, tell her that you think her going out every week is taking a toll on your relationship. Don't completely limit her, and don't say "I know you're cheating," you don't. If she seems unwilling, then you may have to end it. But if communication seems to work, just see how things go. Good luck :)
im gonna call and dump her right now
ive had enough of this bullsh*t I'm not a toy
If you can't trust her then the relationship is probably doomed already, but I would use it as an opportunity to chill with the lads. In all likelihood she's probably not, but I can understand the paranoia. It might be due to your own insecurity, and maybe what you should be asking is "why does this bother me?" Now if she cheated on you in the past then that would be a different issue of course ^^
Every weekend sounds a little too much, I mean to me she sounds like a playgirl kind. Have you asked her to go out clubbing less or if you could go with her once in a while? Id go out clubbing every weekend if I was single but not when I'm with someone special.
Ask her to do it fortnightly or something as a compromise if that's what's bugging you
as for cheating unless you know for sure then she probably isn't and girls need friend time just like men do and a bit of freedom
dunno if that helps much
... She probably just wanted to dance, but knows that you don't like to... :S
rubbing your ass on a guys d*** isn't dancing
No, but just because you're clubbing and dancing doesn't necessarily mean that you're grinding up on people... She might not be! She can always say no... That's why girls travel in numbers on "girls nights." We dance with each other so we don't have to deal with pervs.
bullsh*t you like the pervs
i dumped her anyway so its done with
LOL you must be REEEEALLY insecure...small penis? fat? ugly? just because she is hot and you don't deserve her doesn't mean she is screwing around behind your back...next time get an uglier chick.
Thats harsh! LOL wow I eat insecure bitches like you for breakfast... GO GET SOME HELP!
Dude...you f*cked up. Imo there's nothing wrong with a girl doing things with her girls on a weekly basis. :-X
Do what you feel is right but she is only having a girls night out it is something she can do with just her and her girlfriends as long as she comes home do not worry
dumped her already
she won't do better lol she has been calling me every hour ever since yesterday
then she was not doing something bad
in a relationship there's got to be trust and apperently you don't trust her
okay if you do go back with just arrange a guys night out on fridays so you won't stay home thinking of her that might work you know:)
thats what they call a GUILTY CONSCIENCE
Well jesus christ I wonder why she wants NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Your crazy, in secure, controlling and probably have the d*** the size of a peanut.
you broke up with her because she has a life out of you? you're an insecure loser
she wants this "insecure loser" back so bad been calling me all week
an "insecure loser" would be begger her to spend more time with her. if a man has enough balls to cut a woman loose after dismissing him and taking him fer granted he may be many things, but "insecure" I don't think so.
quantum owned you. notice how the b!tch who called you insecure went anonymous. LOL what a hypocrite
yes
confont her about it
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