Should I be worried about my girlfriend hanging out with her slutty friends?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months now. She has admitted to me that she has a slutty past and claims a lot of it had to do with her friends being sluts; i. e "birds of a feather flock together". I'm not judging her for her past, as I can relate to getting caught up in a friend group and being peer pressured. However, now that she's in a relationship and claims to no longer have the same interests as these slutty friends (clubbing to meet guys, getting hammered drunk 4 nights a week, etc) you would think that they would just be old friends and she'd be keeping her distance from them, BUT she's not. She keeps in touch with them weekly and goes out bar hopping with them 1-2 times a month. We just had an argument about how I feel she needs to move on from her friends who she admits were a bad influence but she says they can't influence her anymore and they are all she has.

There will be those who say "you have to trust her" but this isn't about that, it's about being friends with similar morals, likes and dislikes. I don't hang out with the druggie group from school because I don't want to do drugs, I didn't join ski club because I have no interest in skiing. You can choose your friends and the fact that she is choosing to continue to hang out with these friends who made her do things she claims she regrets is a red flag that she is still that person she was and hasn't truly changed...

[Anonymous]

You basically answered your own question. Now think of it this way when you look towards the future can you see her a wife? Is she good wife materiel? If not you might want to rexamin your relationship and reflect if you really want to build a life with this person. Honestly she doesn't look like she's ready to give up her freedom just yet and is having a hard time committing to the relationship 100% . Try and sit and talk to her if she still flips then you might want to have heart to heart with yourself.

Now another idea it may be bad one you don't have to do it but go to the bars she usually goes to and ask the bar tender some questions of she usually does when she's there. It wouldn't hurt to know since us girls wanna know everything our guy is doing. Why shouldn't you for once?

[Klynnemitchell]

The problem is they are her friends... yes they are negative influences and maybe interested in things she isn't anymore but that doesn't stop her from still feeling close to them. When girls are friends for awhile they are practically like sisters.. you can't easily end that. Eventually they will grow up and mature and stop with that life but you do need to trust your girlfriend. I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He's 24 just graduated and still hangs out with his single and immature friends. It worries me anytime he goes to the bar with them, especially cause he normally gets stupid drunk, but trust is something you NEED in the relationship. Give it time, eventually they'll be done with this phase or better yet, ask if you can tag along sometimes.

[Javiersito1]

Yeah you should be a little concern. Thats what enedend my 8 year old relationship (3 years married). Girl was in college and i was helping her. I was supporting her as a hisband that i was and she kept hanging out with her slutty girlfriends until ahe gave in. She swore that she would never give in. And she ended up cheating on me so if you really care about this girl and she cares about you. She should be making some changes. Goood luck

[annoyymouse]

You do have to trust her though. And these are people she still likes, for whatever reason. They've been around a lot longer than you, and if you push too hard, they'll be there after you too

[Anonymous]

Yeah but 1-2 times a month isn't a lot. Hey man do what you feel you need to do.

[Anonymous]

Talk to her