What is the most obvious sign of cheating?

[Rangers]

I saw a bit on YouTube which made me cringe a bit. It was satire but it started with a girl telling her boyfriend she's going on a girls trip, just a few of her friends.

Okay, then she says they're going to a club where there's a lot of guys there, he asks why nobody is bringing their boyfriends, she says all her friends are, but she wanted to just go with them.

I know it's satire, but the second I hear "girls trip", I say pretend to be okay with it, but if the key she has to your apartment still works when she gets back, then shame on you for letting her cheat. Even if she hasn't done it yet, the second she walks in and mentioned a girls trip, she'd already made a conscious decision to cheat, months before the "trip" happens.

I don't know, am I being paranoid and insecure, people? Before ladies start saying it's stupid, flip the script. If I was your boyfriend and I wanted to go to a bar with all of your friends and I said you can't come, what then?

Those locks should be changed while I'm out and you should have thrown all of my personal belongings out of the window, that same night. To do anything else is to allow yourself to be disrespected and spit on by the person who's supposed to love you, so please don't ignore signs.

Before accusations come in, no, I didn't get cheated on in this fashion. It did happen, but not in this way, it was much more of a sudden thing. The only indications one of my 3 relationships gave of infidelity was her acting nervous around me despite me being always supportive. Maybe I supported her wrong, maybe when she was crying and asked me to leave one night after a huge fight with her mom, I shouldn't have held her, anyway, or maybe.

But in the future, if a girl I love cries, you'll have to strangle me to make me stop trying to comfort her and even then, my dead arms will still keep her warm, so judge away, if you like

That's a sign of cheating

That's not a sign of cheating

[Summeroflove]

Most common sign typically is lots of red flags together. I would say the most obvious is if they have a history of cheating especially on you but also with other people. Even if they have excuses… Well a lot of times by the time cheating becomes overt they either admitted it immediately, are really bad at hiding it, or more likely it’s been going on for a while it’s probably not new. After a time sone people become more reckless or simply don’t care anymore.

A lot of times cheating begins when the relationship is going seemingly well. Some people…. Don’t even have any issues in the relationship they cheated because they got horny. That's it…and it’s not just men who do this. Even if they have sex regularly. The issue is… it can get boring and they want something different. Some even like the fact that it’s wrong, risky, and betrayal.

A lot of times it’s subtle. Maybe they came back at a weird time. Maybe came back and took a shower. Maybe stayed at a friends all night. But again… these things can have perfectly reasonable explanations. When the relationship still seems to be going good. People don’t get suspicious…. Even if a major red flag happens in front of them.

A lot of times over compensating happens before neglect does. Once someone stopped putting in effort assume it’s been happening a while. People who have empathy generally feel horrible the first time. They will do things they used to do or maybe never done for you. They may become more affectionate or do things whatever. People who lack empathy, guilt, and shame will also cover it up. The fact that they don’t feel bad… can make it harder to spot.

Later on…. Once it’s become obvious. People don’t believe it because they don’t want to believe it. Part of it is that they just can’t imagine someone they love will do that another part is pride. They don’t want to admit they are so caught up in someone’s lies.

At first. The relationship will still generally be going well… That’s the hard part and you will miss it. At some point …. Someone will always be out with their friends or have sone excuse. They will start neglecting affection and doing anything with you…. And rheh think you’re too stupid to catch on so you deserve it. They know theh could fuck someone else in front of you and you wouldn’t even see it.

By that point…. They are just waiti for a exit. They don’t respect you enough to hide it anymore. Many times they will intentionally show you what they’re doing…. But leave pleasurable deniability

[Miristheiss]

Men. If you are with a girl who even wants to go clubbing and drinking without you and girls trips and bachelorette parties you dump them immediately.

If you willingly stay with this type of girl you are a moron and deserve what you get.

Do not argue, do not whine and try and get her not to... dump her the first time she ever brings this degenerate shit up.

[Anonymous]

There may be no signs of cheating... signs of cheating showing is only for people who are bad at hiding their cheating

I am an escort who has dealt with tons of married men through the years. So I can say this from first hand experience.

1. If you don't regularly have sex with your husband and he is still married to you without much complaint, there is a good chance he is getting sex from somewhere else

2. Spouses who always have to work extra hours outside their normal schedule. A lot of over time, spending too much time at work. Long hours especially where they constantly work with a lot of clients, customers, new people on a daily basis.

3. Spouses who have too much time on their hands. Housewives or men married to women who work too much. This leaves a lot of time being bored home alone.

If you belong into any of these categories or are married to someone in any of these 3 categories, you are at high risk of a cheating partner

[Rangers]

Do you ever feel revulsion towards them for meeting with you when they have promises to keep to others?

[Opinion Owner]

No, because that's not my marriage. But I so judge them to a certain extent. From what I have seen, these men are emotionally very loyal to their wives but they're just unable to be sexually monogamous. Some people are not wired to be monogamous. Others cheat for sexual reasons such as overly high sex drive

I also find that housewives or financially dependent women tend to get cheated on the most.

And the men who usually do cheat, don't tend to be married to suspicious wives. These aren't the type of wives who nag their husband's or harass to Check his phone all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

@rangers

[Opinion Owner]

More wives shouldn't be so confident that their husband's aren't cheating on them.

But what I can say is... any time your spouse gets left alone a lot- especially if they work in a social setting- makes it rife for cheating

The only time where you can be confident he isn't cheating is if you are married to a "family man". The type of guy with a consistent work schedule. Usually a job that requires minimal human interaction such as coding, bookkeeping, web development,

Leaves the house early in the morning, Gets off work the same time every evening, texts his wife he is coming home and asks what groceries she wants him to buy. The type of guy who is always with the kids on the weekends. He is not out with the boys drinking at the local bar every weekend. Very predictable, consistent stable guy. These types are the least likely to cheat.

If your spouse goes missing on the weekends a lot for long hours or if you work on the weekends while he is at home all day by himself, you are at risk of a cheating spouse.

[Opinion Owner]

In my professional opinion, most Cheaters get away with cheating. Cheating is easy to hide as long as he still cares enough to hide it well

[DishLady]

• The cliche lipstick on the collar.
• Checking the phone way too much.
• Keeping the phone on DND all day.
• Leaving your messages on "read" for days.
• "I'm busy"...

There's more but you get the gist.

[RavVid]

I'll take a slightly different view. Each of a couple should offer transparency that they not cheating.

If a girl/guy is doing activities where they could cheat, it is just as bad as cheating. It should not be done. OK, I'm going to a brothel, only to keep my mate Bill company while he is checking which prostitute to hire.

Should I do that? It is stretching credibility a bit too far with my girlfriend I would.

If a girl doesn't offer transparent evidence of fidelity than it is a dumpable offence. Pure and simple.

I should not be given cause to wonder or doubt. A girlfriend cheated on me when she went shopping with bff and returned without any purchases. I went up to the hilt in one thrust, so it was quite clear she had not just been shopping.

[Finchie40]

When she starts treating you like a convenience instead of a priority , is an obvious sign she is up to no good , or about to be up to no good , , when you catch her in lies and she tries to flip the script , and when she no longer follows boundaries that the both of you agreed upon together , that’s a clear indication , she no longer values you and is more
Than likely up to no good , if you experience any of these signs , kick her to the curb where she belongs

[Sunrising]

There is no cheating in my relationships so I don't look for any signs.

But a friend of a female I was friendly with, told me my female I was friendly with, was seeing someone else, so I suppose that's as obvious sign as it could be of what you call cheating.

She ended our relationship soon after so cheating or not, it didn't matter.

[slatyb]

Right, and if you go skiing with your friends, or to a bowling tournament or whatever you are into, do you cheat?

Cheaters worry about their partner's cheating too. People who would never cheat assume their partner's wouldn't either.

[h20gu27]

If this happens and she tells you her friends boyfriends will be there but she wants to go with just them, kick her ass out right there! Not only is that disrespectful as hell but my pride wouldn't allow that to happen! It's probably been over if she says something like that. Y'all probably have been live in roomates for years already and it's been over.

[Dargil]

If it were an unmarried girlfriend, curtains. She is not wife material. If it was my wife, I made a bad decision. I would prohibit it and if she did not comply, curtains. I would tolerate neither.

[Anonymous]

a lot of girls just like hanging out with there girlfriend's more , its not really a sign of cheating just they want to hang out with them some enjoy that friends group more than we realise

[Anonymous]

This is not true. Most girls who go on girls’ trips don’t cheat on their boyfriends while they’re away.

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous I was a VIP host in Vegas for over a decade, anytime I hosted a group of girls with boyfriends on a "girls trip" I ended up banging at least one of them on the trip.

[Rangers]

It's more when in the video, she mentions her friends are bringing their boyfriends, but the girl doesn't want her boyfriend to come. I should've been more clear that this is where the locks just kinda have to get changed, if that were to really happen.

That's not only a major red flag but essentially her saying she doesn't want to be seen with me. And I won't be with someone who doesn't respect me, and nobody should ever stay with someone that isn't proud to be with them

[nastyb]

@Vegasrunner

Funny how vegasrunner is always used for sex but can't ever get a relationship

[nastyb]

@Rangers

Your girlfriend not wanting u to come along isn't necessarily a sign she doesn't respect you. Because guys usually don't fit in with girls. There is a REASON why Girls befriend other girls While guys befriend other guys. So if you accompany her with that girls night out trip, expect to be left out of the conversation. Or be the third wheel.
You will not fit in with the rest of the group. Having someone who doesn't really fit in the group also makes other people feel a bit uncomfortable. They never cared about you being there in the first place

[Vegasrunner]

@nastyb I think I understand your confusion. I have several relationships as I usually like to keep between 3-5 women at a time, however remember "relationships" are a female goal. My goal is to have sex with as many beautiful women as possible. Your goal is to try tp get s relationship from the best guy possible.

[nastyb]

@Vegasrunner

You know you desperately want female love but can't get it

[Vegasrunner]

@nastyb Thats just another case of thinking like a female. I'm more than happy with getting female sex in fact most guys would be. Love is something women desperately seek.

[Rangers]

Normally, I'd write a bunch of negative things, such as the many red flags you raised with your tone. But I'm not gonna let you make me go back to being negative. So whatever is making you so mad, good luck with that. Me? If I date and girl and she goes out for couples night without me, I'll tell her not to come back

[Opinion Owner]

A girls trip is not couples night. It’s the opposite. It’s time away from the couple with your friends.

[Anonymous]

Someone who likes to cheat often accuses their partner of the same behavior. That's my experience.

[Rangers]

I haven't cheated but it's happened twice and it's a fear I have of being betrayed again because cheating is the ultimate indicator of "I was lying to you, all along", for me.

[CuriousMufuxka]

You gotta keep these bitches on lock! Nah really though. Trust is nice, but if they are fucking around they're only screwing themselves.

[queenofcardio]

It's a tricky situation.

[LiamJHayden]

She's pregnant and you're sterile.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Can be, about half the time.