Hey
(We're on long distance because of my studies, planning to move in together next year)
I think I read too many 'cheating signs' and I don't know what to believe. I trust my partner, we worked through a lot. Even though the problems we faced from a year ago are too 'typical' of what they write on articles, pointing on specific behaviors that relate to cheating. It's typical: your boyfriend has a new schedule that changes a lot (he works at a cafe, waiter and tend to end later); he's critical of you (yes he has been irritable lately and we try to solve it together). He changed his appearance, started to pay attention to it more (after his female coworker suggested him to wear a specific hairstyle, he sticks to it more which made me angry a bit). She's also a good friend of him, but after they started talking that's when his behaviour changed (but she has a boyfriend who's also very close to my boyfriend, they are all coworkers and are close; although, my boyfriend knows this girl better). My boyfriend is very open with me and shares everything that worries him, when i gained weight he struggled to get aroused and we started to work on it, he wants to make me happy. I trust him, he trusts me. But I don't know if in my chest the feeling is right. I feel i had missed out something and am blinding myself. He could have already told me if he cheated when I asked about it a year ago, since we went through lots of trouble successfully, maybe even more difficult ones... We discussed it a lot, but I feel like there is something he's hiding from me. Am I being paranoid? What should I do? I don't want to mention cheating again, since we worked on it but there is something that created a distance. Maybe it's even a physical distance between us that's the problem (though we meet usually, and sexual problems are occuring).
