What does it mean to be lady-like in the 21st century, and is the term outdated?

[Angelbabylips]

I was discussing with a friend after watching an older movie what the definition of "lady-like" was in the past. Certainly this time is more modern and relaxed than times in the past. Is that even a term that people use anymore, and if so what does it mean to be "lady-like" in these times?

[sage2021]

I'm trying to remember what was taught to me about being "Lady-like" and only a few things come to mind.

Walk with poise

Keep your legs crossed when you are sitting down

No cursing

Sit up straight

Dressing nice - feminine

Speak softly

Act like a lady

Look nice and put together

Smell good 👍🏼

These are taken from what I was taught growing up from a very long time ago.

I've heard some men say "I like a LADY in public, and a WOMAN in bed."

[MontBlanc]

Being “lady like” today is about composure, self respect, and emotional intelligence not silence or submission.

The term isn’t outdated.
The old definition is.

[Anonymous]

It's still a term I use. And if that's not OK to some people that's just ducky to me. I have 4 sisters and they're all ladies. But they're also all strong women I don't see being a lady as weakness. It just means you have class and for the feminine power you wield, you wield it responsibly.

[Berethor]

Not many Proper Ladies nowadays but they still exist, you can read about it in the Trope.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Proper_Lady

[Loki97]

The term means what it always has. Being fit, friendly, feminine and submissive. It does still exist but its an unfortunate rarity due to modern feminism (which fights for nothing) promoting masculine women.

[LiamS95]

A "lady like" woman today would be nuch the same as in the past in other words not be a slut or a harlot.

[LiamS95]

Thank yiu for the like.

[jahaims]

It means act feminine and no