Why do overweight women seem meaner or more hostile to other women?

[Anonymous]

My whole life, I’ve mainly been bullied by girls who were either very ugly or even more common: fat. Whether a classmate, stranger in the streets, person online, they’re always insulting me and arguing with me. They pick on me when I’m minding my own business even if I don’t know them. I have friends with the same exact experiences. I’ve never been treated terribly by a pretty girl who’s in good shape. Even in public I hear fat women saying disgusting things always in a bad mood being blatantly racist, body shaming other women, cursing someone out etc.

[OneViewpoint]

Because those women are bitter about their own choices in life and jealous of the choices you've made or the looks you were born with. Get used to it. It gets worse when these people hit their 30's, 40's, and 50's.

I had this exact conversation with a 51 year old woman a few weeks ago. She's gorgeous and could easily pass for 30. She said other women call her a bitch behind her back and then went on to proclaim "but I'm not a bitch, I'm a nice person". I explained what I said above. Oddly enough she was blind to what is going on. And she felt lonely. I think I got through to her. YOU aren't the problem. THEY are the problem. And you can't fix all of them.

[Asker]

I see. I’ve had this problem since middle school sadly

[OneViewpoint]

Yeah, there are a lot of bitter, angry people out there. It can manifest as jealousy. Instead of fixing themselves they spend a lifetime wallowing in envy and attacking people who are what they want to be. It happens with guys too. I learned a long time ago to just put those people in the rear view mirror and move on down the road of life.

[Asker]

Yes, I see

[ChicoFromThe305]

Caue they are insecure, and something crazy is that many women also see this type of behavior from women they so call friends, some are just willing to ruin their friendships cause of they jealousy, I've seen many videos of women that match your description ruin an approach for their friend when a man approaches them, by either interrupting, answering for them or just being plain rude and disrespectful, it's why men have come up with a saying for these people and it goes like "it's always the fridge protecting the snacks"

[Anonymous]

They hungry. Best to carry a snickers bar in your purse to give them.

[Asker]

LMAOAOAOAO

[Sirenboobzilla]

Regardless of size, insecure people tend to be mean as fuck

[Asker]

I’m insecure and I don’t go around being rude to random people I don't know 😭 fat women will literally go out their way to be a bitch

[Sirenboobzilla]

Sounds like Baader-Meinhof effect to me

[Asker]

I don't know I legit never have these issues with skinny women and any prob I’ve ever had with skinnier girls r short term and simple fat bitches r generally more evil

[DryGermanGuy]

Baader-Meinhof? The German RAF terrorists? 😳

[Sirenboobzilla]

😆 It's another word for Frequency Illusion; Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon. It's a bias where increased awareness of something makes it seem like it is occurring more often, even though it was always present

[DryGermanGuy]

That's the weirdest context I have ever read those names in. Baader-Meinhof/RAF was the worst terrorist group in modern Germany, killed dozens of people, abducted politicians, wounded hundreds, caused a billion+ in damages.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Oh I know. First time I heard it I had to look it up. As far a frequency illusion, it only came to being because someone in the 90's heard the name ones day, then read it in a newspaper late that same day. Bizarre choice for a term, but kinda funny at the same time.

[DryGermanGuy]

I think I better stick with the older term "frequency illusion". Its meaning is clearer and it doesn't give me weird flashbacks. :-)

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Confirmation bias is even more clear actually lol

[Asker]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I’ve actually tried to keep track of everyone who mistreats me, as I’m a very sensitive person. They’re almost always fat, and if they’re not they’re extremely ugly or built very weirdly

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

This is exactly the problem with confirmation bias, asker, I don't doubt your experience, but I can't doubt either that your experience can easily escape confirmation bias. What's sure is that there are too many factors at play to turn your experience into a law.

[Asker]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I see. I study psychology so I’ve been quick to try to view things differently, objectively counting who is rude to me, and I notice a pattern.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

There is no good answer because your premise is not solid enough. We're going to find people experiencing the opposite, apparently being bullied by pretty girls, and we're going to find people bullied by no specific body types.

[Asker]

It seems most common. Pretty girls are almost NEVER mean. I’ve been around so many girls throughout my life, not once has a pretty girl actually bullied me. At most we can have our differences and let them be. Fat and ugly girls r the ones who have went out of the way to make my life a nightmare. I know others with the same experiences

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Again, I don't doubt your experience, I don't even doubt similar experiences of others. But everyone's experience matters if we want things to be truly meaningful. And we can't collect experiences of all people, it's technically impossible

[Asker]

Yes I see

[jahaims]

Most fat people hate themselves. Being addicted to unhealthy food is the same as being addicted to drugs. You can't love yourself and abuse yourself at the same time.

[Asker]

Yes I see

[AngryCarl3]

According to AI there's a strong link between obesity and mood disorders. Although which is the cause and which the effect, is unclear.

[Asker]

Ah I see

[Masumgunahkar]

Most women are jealous instinctively, Therefore, they may envy things they see in others but do not possess themselves.

[Asker]

But they can easily lose weight it’s not something completely genetic. For example, I get jealous of women with larger chests bc my genes screwed me over there and nothing I do works except surgery

[Masumgunahkar]

The frog tried to swell itself to the size of an ox,,, Jealousy is a sign of weakness; accepting life as it is is the best thing.😃😃

[Asker]

Of course I’m jealous when I’m prevented from having a sex life simply bc my chest which I can’t control. Fat women can workout and stfu about it

[Masumgunahkar]

don't blame yourself in vain Sexuality isn't just about breasts. a sweet smile a warm touch Besides, she'll grow if you become a mother in the future, don't worry.😃

[Asker]

It’s so hard for me to find someone I’ve been stuck at a 32D for so long I don't know what to do

[Masumgunahkar]

Bring a man into your life who, when he looks at you, sees the butterfly, not the cocoon.

[Asker]

I want him to be into my tits and everything not just who I am inside

[Masumgunahkar]

Maybe she'll like small breasts, how do you know?😃Most men prefer small breasts. What is your height and weight?

[Asker]

Girls with big boobs always brag how everyone wants them. I’m 5’6 my chest is 32D my waist is 28 and my hips 41-42

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’ll take “shit that never happened” for 400, Alex

[Iron_Man]

They’ve always been tough I’ve noticed

[Asker]

Yea and they body shame smaller and normal sized women but if we say something back they cry “fat shame” to cancel us

[Iron_Man]

The real over weight women have an attitude and act really tough even to me

[Asker]

Yes they seem to hate everyone

[Iron_Man]

I hope they change

[Asker]

Me too