She said I’d be a great father but a bad boyfriend—what does that mean?

[Anonymous]

This girl who said that, we had a pretty beautiful date.
We went to the park together, and sat in the good sun.
I played with white flowers, and put them in her hair... we also went and got chocolates and treats.

A bit of flirting, but no kiss etc.,
Cause she moves back when my face is closed to hers.
And then after some cute little caring part she said I will be a good father but not a boyfriend.
It cut me too deep.
I actually like her but getting that from her broke me.
Now I feel hopeless, I have been to get a date from a long time,
But never got one. This date wasn't a date tbh. We are flatmates and I had feelings for her, but to get far from her I started going to bar but never got any dates, no apps nothing.
So at the end I started seeing her as a flatmate as she is...
And yesterday was just goofing with her.
But her comment still hurts.
I know I don't have any experience.
I know I am not good looking. But now this is attacking my own confidence and my own way of looking at myself

[whosnumber_1]

She is immature. End of story. She thinks a good boyfriend is one who is edgy. She is confusing the ultimate purpose of dating, to find a life partner and potential father of her children.

You seem like a thoughtful guy, look for a woman who appreciates a thoughtful partner.

Drop her like a bad habit.

[DonaldDarko]

That says more about her than you. Boyfriend to her means sex partner maybe other things to like booze and dope. She wants a man to carouse and drink or some varient of that. She lumps you in with decent men (fathers) who aren't for the streets.

[Asker]

No she doesn't drink, go out or do anything, she Is a complete introvert who loves to be alone mostly, but from when I have been her flatmate, she states, she has changed a lot.
And I take care of her just a friend many times

[DonaldDarko]

Who knows maybe she's got some idea in her head that a boyfriend is supposed to be more like that. Or she sees you as fatherly and not as a lover. You did say you take care of her. Maybe she's looking for more passion, kind of a teenage love type of thing and you're more naturally self controled.

[Asker]

She hates teenagers, and PDA.
But let it be.
I think it was just to make me realise that no matter what I can't be a boyfriend or in a relationship.

[LC75LC71]

It's a sweet way of being friendzoned. More importantly a great message to focus your attention to actual dating.

[Abbycado]

That makes no sense.

[Asker]

I don't know

[Asker]

What should I say

[Abbycado]

Hmm, I think the only thing I can think of is that she sees you as a friend and not romantic or not her type, yet thinks you’d be a good dad with the right woman. Make sense?

[Asker]

But why make a comment like that which can hurt someone deeply.
Why does she have to add the part with not as a boyfriend.
I have been single all my life,
I have asked out so many women, and never got a single date.
It's simple for some people yes I agree, like saying hi can I buy you a drink and done.
Well
But I have to go talk to her like it's a beautiful evening, what up with their career cause someone else is also talking to them.
I am fucking getting into my late 20's and I haven't even kissed.
Do u know how bad it sounds,
Do u know how embarrassing it is?
It hurts.
I hide all this and try to enjoy life, be confident enough, talking to professors, colleagues and the ones who are friends.

[Asker]

It doesn't make sense

[Abbycado]

Which was my original opinion

[Asker]

Ya. I think now it was just to make me hurt.

[Abbycado]

It’s a shit thing to do. Not worth your time.

[slatyb]

Sell professional counseling.

[In_Trance]

it means you should've asked for clarification

[Anonymous]

She's probably just confused.