Why do I get obsessed with men so quickly over small interactions?

[Anonymous]

I see this man at my job (we don’t work together) and I just became attracted to him because he noticed me before I noticed him… it wasn't about validation but just the fact that he always smiled, waves and he complimented my shoes…

I feel a bit lonely.. I’m 29… I hadn’t talked to a man in 2-3 years after I had talked to a man that ultimately rejected me when he pursued me first…

I feel depressed and deprived.. never having had a man touch me, love me, desire me…

this guy has done nothing to show he likes me besides wave and compliment my shoes so why am I feeling rejected or sad when I don’t see him…

I have hobbies and I talk to people but I’m tired of doing everything alone

[Anonymous]

What you’re describing is loneliness. His little gestures like the smiling, waving, those have become significant gestures to you since you have not talked to a man in 2/3 years. When you don’t see him it feels like rejection even though he hasn’t actually rejected you. You’re starting to associate his presence w feeling noticed, attractive, etc, etc So when he’s not there those feelings aren’t there so to you it’s rejection. Your attraction may be based more on what to you is ideal. Meaning much of what you’re attracted to is based on what you imagine he would be like vs what is reality.

[Asker]

Yeah he’s kinda of awkward now and looks older in the face

He seemed confident in the beginning

[Mark_Est]

Cause women aren't evolved to be alone. This is modern woman feministic BS, these lifestyles many women have.

[RachyRach]

Sounds like you weren't afforded enough attention when you were growing up

[Anonymous]

Desperation and not thinking straight. Wait until a guy asks you out before getting your hopes too high.

[Anonymous]

I only have had that issue with one girl. I have my own theories, but she refused to let me test them. She has driven me completely mad.

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy

[Iron_Man]

Because you want a boyfriend very bad

[Anonymous]

Desperation and loneliness gives you hope quickly

[The_Wolf_2002]

Because you want sex

[Asker]

Sex and love

[The_Wolf_2002]

Yes sex is just a reflection of love...
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