How to stop being so attached and addicted to attention that men gives me?

[imanoverthinker]

so i have a problem that a get attached really fast and i know that it’s bad being therefore i am more likely to get hurt and that quick attachement shows that i am not a very independent person. but how can i stop attach to people who i like so quickly? and furthermore i am also very very delusional and i romanticize about boys that i like. by the way i was NEVER in a relationship or had any physical contact (hugs, kisses,…) with boys.

i also like having eye contact with men

[SnowedIn]

Not all of this is bad. 🙂

It's okay to make eye contact. Really. In fact, you'll need that your whole life -- it's a mark of maturity.

It's also okay to romanticize. Just don't confuse it with real life.

Also, wanting attention is okay. As for addicted to it, yeah, that can be a problem. That's when you enlist the help of a friend who can say to you "hey, goofball, you're getting too attention needy again" and you can throttle back.

As for attached, that's a tough one. But the best advice I can give you is when you feel you're getting attached, ask yourself "why do I feel this way" and "do I actually feel this way or do I want to feel this way.". Those questions will help you slow down.

[imanoverthinker]

thank you very much for all great advices, you kinda expand my horizonts about that situation!:)

[SnowedIn]

You're very welcome. Best wishes.

[jahaims]

It's good you are self aware. You are probably hungry for male attention to compensate for how you feel about yourself. Maybe you have low self esteem so you use attention to ego boost and get hits of serotonin. Could be from a relationship with a parent as well. If your parents can afford it I recommend online therapy. If not stay introspective and keep improving that way so one day you won't need male attention to feel good.

[imanoverthinker]

thank you!:)

[Anonymous]

This is also a self love problem, you are trying to fill a hole inside yourself with external validation.

It is extremely common and people try all sorts of things, money, sex, food, shopping etc

[imanoverthinker]

thank you!

[Anonymous]

You're 15 so it's probably mostly your age. But if you reach your 20's and you still are this way then that's a DEFINITE problem.

[imanoverthinker]

thank you!

[riverrat3]

Please be careful, do not let someone take advantage of you

[imanoverthinker]

nobody will cause i am smart enough so don’t worry:)

[Billlewis]

Why should you stop being interested in the attention you receive from guys?

[imanoverthinker]

cause it’s not healthy