How to stop worrying about male attention and validation and focus on myself?

[Anonymous]

I tend to think about guys too much and worry too much about whether I’m attractive enough, approachable enough, etc, etc. I want to talk to guys without making it into a thing and like myself despite how guys may see me. Mostly I won’t to focus on myself and my interests without worrying about being likable. but I also have a huge fear of being lonely and I romanticize everything to make myself feel better which usually just bites me in the ass. At my core I just want to be liked and loved by someone else but I want to learn how to like and love myself.

[jshm2]

If you want to be loved, be more lovable.

Don't try and fake it, if you really are a gem, then you'll get discovered soon enough.

You'd rather wait and get the right one, than try everyone and find nothing.

[Asker]

The thing is I’m not looking to be lovable anymore, I’m looking to be me outside of worrying about guys at all.