Why do women overlook my kindness but quickly like someone else?

[Anonymous]

I have been in one sided love too many times, and if I tell them, they leave or put me through guilt trip.
The most recent example , I fell in love with my flatmate we both were master students, shared a flat for a year.
used to cook for eachother, do 90% travelling together, and spend most time together.
I fell but she didn't.
On the other hand I went out with this girl,
And she instantly liked me, and now I am in relationship in 2 dates.
How?
Looks matter that much to women?
Really?

[Bianca_Italy]

I like kind men.

And when I say that I like kind men, I mean that I find kindness attractive, not in a ''Oh you'd be useful and easy to take advantage of'' kind of way.

You simply haven't been lucky enough to meet women who appreciate what you can give them.

[Nikki1989]

Stop with this juvenile crap, dude. This is embarrassing.

[slatyb]

So you were normally courteous with your roommate? Do you understand that is minimally acceptable behavior expected of everyone?

[In_Trance]

This is a you problem