Why do women seem to go from liking you to indifference really quickly?

[ret04]

I guess this one is kinda directed at women, but also just people in general. You'll meet a person who's new in your life and the initial impression is that they're kinda into you, like they at least enjoy your company, smile a lot, are very talkative and friendly and playful when you come around... I get this impression like wow, I think this person actually likes me! And then, sometimes in a matter of weeks or days, that magic has evaporated. It's just gone. That same person is like deadpan around you, has nothing much to say to you, is basically looking right through you. You feel like you couldn't matter less to them, anymore.

I don't know why that happens. If the overly friendly thing is all just an act when you meet someone new, do people just think that it's okay to just pretend to be that way for a bit and then just drop the act after a short while? That's kinda insincere. Sometimes I wonder if it's something I'm doing, or maybe I'm just not what they thought I was at first?

I guess I don't like to be made to feel like I'm somehow special in someone's eyes, but actually I'm not. It's just phony. I don't like when people are fake like that. If you're gonna be indifferent and sorta cold to people, just be that way from the start.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think that is why they tell women not to chase after men. A man can chase after a woman and still like her after he gets her. If a woman chases after a man and she gets him, her interest dies down cause she was interested in the superficial and not the natural and behavioural. Women do not chase after people unless there is superficial attraction and superficial attraction does not last for normal and healthy women. They need to like your personality to stick around.

[blueonblack22]

This is because women are more romantically fantasy prone then men are. They get fixated on an image of what they think the guy is (which they obviously initially fixated on). Then when they really get to know him their fantasy can get crushed.

It’s one thing if then women found out the guy was an active criminal, pathological liar, opioid addict, paroled murderer/rapist or had legitimate psychiatric problems (not just personality quirks. But it’s quite another if his personality doesn’t match up to what they expected.

There is a GAG post on here where a woman claimed she lost attraction and respect for her boyfriend when he cried about his mother. She said he know longer saw him as her protector because he cried. I’m not exaggerating nor do I think she is a troll. She really thinks this way and despite it being beyond appalling but again it’s her true self.

Inflated unrealistic expectations of men and impossible standards is a real problem with women nowadays.

[HusamRocks]

U missed ur next move which made them lose interest in u, or it's them sometimes when they go for a different better one than u

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s you. It’s not a woman thing, women don’t magically become indifferent after a few weeks. You’re just that unlikable.

[ret04]

I’m not gonna argue with your criticism. The problem is I don’t know what I do or don’t do that causes this. You can’t fix a problem if you can’t identify it. People seem to like me at first, and then it just turns into whatever.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So ask for specific criticism

[Summeroflove]

It may not even be him or them…. Some things just aren’t meant to be. Both sexes also paint a picture in their head or someone and when it’s not accurate they loose interest

[Summeroflove]

Some just aren’t meant to be.

[Rosexøxø]

Before fully reading in context and just reading the title and viewing the image I’d say:

Most people don’t take rejection well… but I think indifference and really more so distance is better than straightforward aggression. A lot of guys have reacted to rejection with aggression in 50% give or take, in my experiences, while I’ve noted and more so seen from myself, that women respond with indifference, but I would say overall usually most emotionally charged, or emotionally immature people would handle it with a whole tantrum. It’s not exclusive to gender. I just think overall comparing both types of reactions indifference is the lesser evil “ “ and there can be better ways of handling it.

[ret04]

I'm mostly just talking in the context of meeting new people. However you want to frame that reaction as a form of rejection, that's one thing. But the mystery to me often is, why do they act interested in the first place? I'm talking about those who come onto you with an impression like they have a thing for you... but then they're suddenly don't. If you're gonna say that it's "just being friendly", then why is it suddenly gone? There's definitely something about the shiny new face appeal that has them acting a certain way, but it doesn't last.

[foxsquirrell]

I've been through it. From warm and kind to ice cold for no apparent reason. They are not called bitches for nothing. It is there nature. Don't try to find an explanation. It is who they are. Like a scorpion who can't help himself but sting you with his venom if it has the opportunity. Its good now that you know what they can be like, so you can adjust your behavior and your opinion about woman accordingly.

Personally I think this is why you should never take a girl very seriously. Like don't go all in, ever, no matter who she is. Because if she decides to show you how cold she can be while you're all in with your heart and emotions, you've had it!!! And there will be absolutely nothing that you can do about it except to wait and wait and wait for the pain to go away.

[JaneDoe95676187]

They got the ick

[Anonymous]

Short attention spans.