Serious Question: Why Do Women Quickly Lose Interest in Me? Unraveling The Mystery?

[Josh_K223]

I am just an ordinary Tall, muscular guy with distinctive features like short curly hair, earrings, and tattoos who has gone through some dating trouble recently. Fitness is my lifestyle essentially. I would definitely say I'm a very confident and social guy as well. A LOT of people that I've encountered in my 24 years of life, have told me that I'm very good looking or would simply just stare at me. I have had many girlfriends in the past as well. I don't know if this is strictly an "attractive" guy issue, but I recently started to lose confidence after I would approach girls who would show they were attracted or stare at me multiple times, we'd have a great first conversation, then I would ask for their number or snapchat, they would give it to me, add me back, then act uninterested days later. Its become a pattern nowadays. One situation in particular, me and this one girl at my gym kept making eye contact for like a month straight. One day, we just starting talking and had a good conversation. I even asked if she would be down to get food next week. She then responds with "Yea, I'll give you my number". She literally offered me her number without me having to ask. She even brought up how she worked at this clothing store and said that she wanted to give me a discount on some purchases if I ever come to the store. The issue is that this girl would barely text back and sometimes respond after 1-2 weeks or not at all. I felt the energy and decided to just move on. This girl isn't even one of those girls that looks for attention constantly, she's super humble. Then 2 months later, I see her at the gym with another guy who's not even as attractive as me (Sorry to sound egotistical, but I have to make a point here). I don't even brag about myself, I talk to these ladies in a way where I can understand them and their interests. It doesn't really make sense as this has happened 5 times already. Why is this the case?

[Anonymous]

'I see her at the gym with another guy who's not even as attractive as me (Sorry to sound egotistical, but I have to make a point here).'

Attractiveness is important, but even more important is how well you can build attraction. But if you are an attractive guy, but predictable, nice, measured, dependable, consistent, disciplined and safe, then they will lose interest. The majority of women in this culture do not want to know where they are with you, they want to be unsure and on an emotional roller coaster. The guy you saw her with was probably better at building attraction and keeping her guessing. Also ask yourself what any of the girls you have spent time with, or taken to dinner did to show they were worth the investment...

Most guys are far too easy and do not qualify any women that show interest. They just take who ever shows the most interest. When you know your worth, you cannot do this!

[IrishStewed]

Not all girls dig tattoos, contrary to what guys think. Especially not on the face.

[Avicenna]

Texting is not going to get you excited about someone- spending time with them in person will. Try to get them to go on a date or at least hang out with you.

[KrakenAttackin]

Do you change and start chasing her once you have her number? Once a woman knows she has you locked in they will often lose interest. Make her keep chasing you and don't give her too much attention or positive feedback.

[Anonymous]

I got total douche vibes just from reading the first two sentences.

[Christoff92]

Depending how you present yourself. Are you boring and annoying?