Why do women neglect being liked in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Just because the man "loves" doesn't mean he doesn't fucking like you.

I know married women who are single mothers in the marriage,

Women who are only placeholders

Women used and abused all their life.

Sure it's their fault for being naive but A LOT of men want us this way.

Because when I go out and enjoy myself with no rules I get called all types of names

It's no win-win for me.

At least not with the men I've encountered.

Thoughts?

[boggboss]

Its because your trying to be liked by all peoples thats not possible a guy that wants u like that wants you for clearly shady reasons

[Asker]

Well obviously its shady.

[boggboss]

So why do u care if these type of guys care about how u act

[Asker]

I dont care if these loser care about how I act. I think you are understanding everything wrong.

My whole question is stemming from being in a relationship with a man who doesn't like you... he loves you but doesn't like you as a person and not willing to meet your needs

[boggboss]

Which I would then say people are stupid for staying in relationships like that

[Asker]

That's not the right word to use. Stupid.
People are just not informed on how they really should be treated. Many people become stuck. They believe they deserve more but dont know it themselves. Even when they reach out to others.. others are literally just like them themselves and dont even know it.

[boggboss]

I wouldn't say its the wrong word too many people get into relationships with no understanding of self love or respect and end up getting abused by some dickhead because they have no foundation of boundaries people shouldn't get into relationships without certain fundamentals

[Asker]

So that makes a person stupid? You have no compassion and I'm not the person to beat you into it.
People love hard. And care. People do things they shouldn't based on their upbringings, traumas and inexperience to know the truth. Stupid is a word used by lazy people who can't and refuse to believe others have a chance to learn and grow. Just saying stupid to make one shut up because they are too lazy to express themselves. I understand I use it sometimes too but now because in this position I do feel I was being stupid. But I'm realizing how being stuck and unhealthy is breaking me down as a person. How is someone supposed to know when they arnt informed? Stupid is a lazy word. I'd use, inept, un aware... they weren't taught.

[boggboss]

I dont call people stupid to shut them up lol and I know they can change but in most cases the people that are in these situations don't see that they are being stupid and believe their partner will have their best intentions even when shown they don't so yes we can use other words such as inept or unaware but it is equally stupid I can't be compassionate to people that are not willing to help themself

[Asker]

Who says they are not. Yes they are being stupid but arnt. They are hard lovers. It's stupid to think people will change when most will not

[boggboss]

No many people do change in situations like this they end up becoming bitter or understanding the other person is in the wrong and look for a partner that will respect them

[Asker]

I'm both. I resent him...
It's my fault I stayed and having his kid.
I need to leave where he can't make me feel he loves me by breadcruming and just finally leave.
No man will want me

[boggboss]

Well if that's how u feel I'm sorry u never escaped before you mental was broken

[Asker]

Not the first time its happened.
But hopefully no more after this
I'm not broken just tired of putting other needs before my own thanks

[boggboss]

Like funny enough a girl on gag just asked why she can't leave her partner thats constantly cheating on her

[Asker]

It's hard. Its low self esteem. he's probably emotionally abusive. She will learn to get out. Just like I did. Disney fucked up all of us. Not having active parents in our lives. A mother a father. It all counts

[Zayed_]

If I was to get married, I would respect and treat my wife fairly but I don’t want her to fuck around.

plain and simple.

I don’t talk to girls and she shouldn’t talk to guys.

[Asker]

It's called loyalty and commitment but we arnt talking about thay

[Asker]

That***

[LazerBean]

No idea what that's supposed to mean, but I've never had any of those problems.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Then end the marriage. Duh.

[Asker]

there's no marriage. And I will

[ShiftingMonke]

You sound angry, and unhappy.

[Asker]

I'm upset with my decisions and I take full accountability thanks for pointing that out