I know we say looks shouldn’t matter, and everyone should be able to get who they want and there are no leagues. But some people will only want to date people much better looking than themselves.
I have known men who don’t take care of themselves physically and neglect their appearance, who think they should only date models, while women who are cute but more normal looking are “ugly” to them. Then, when these models sometimes reject them, they tell them not to be so shallow. But they’re being shallow themselves? I overheard one man making fun of his girlfriend for “not being pretty enough for him” and saying he deserves better looking when he’s not even as attractive as her.
Similarly, I know this girl who’s cute but not a model at all, who only wants to date model-looking men and she gets the same thing. These men sleep with her but don’t want to date her because they usually like women who are on their level of attractiveness. This girl throws herself at these men, but harshly rejects normal looking men even if they are good people, funny etc.
why are these types so adamant about dating up and only in looks? Why are they hypocritical? Why do they think they’re ok to be shallow in their dating options, but others can’t be shallow towards them in return? Why don’t they like people who are “more attainable” but still cute and attractive, so to speak if they themselves are on that same level?
What do you think about people who ONLY want to date people much more attractive than they are?
Have you ever heard the story of the ugly duckling Or Cinderella Or you are who you hang with
In life your parents give you a foundation for you to start building on as you are growing up some parents give and teach you confidence and some kids take this and keep building on it.
There are parents who dont even have Confidence in themself
But the kid with the help of there friends growing up by watching and listening take it on and try to become it some learn how to really have it. So just jump in to it and fake it and become arrogant and bold about it
And in all the above there is just one key ingredients and that is looks everybody wants to be with somebody that looks beautiful it's Human Nature we all want something that looks good the best
When we buy cars we buy them because of what they look like when we buy a house if it's our needs and because of what it looks like when we are in the grocery store or buying food let me go to the meat department we buy the meat that looks the best the vegetables to look the best of foods that look the best material objects because we believe in something
You can't do that with the human being I mean you can and people do it all the time but if you notice the end up getting a divorce they end up breaking up they end up being unhappy because instead of getting to know the person all I can see is the outside of that person the looks the beauty
If you see somebody that you like ask yourself why what is it that you feel when you're with that person is it truly because of their beauty or do you feel something within them you feel and energy a bond this is no matter what they look like no matter who they are when you meet somebody that you look I to eye contact you will feel in energy Within it will either pull you in close or it will make you say no thank you
I meet people everyday the moment I touched there hand the moment I feel their energy looking deep into their eyes if I focus on who they are on the inside it will tell me everything about them it will also tell me how beautiful they are every person on the inside that they truly are or it will tell me what kind of person they really are
We are all humans we are born with our parents genes and some people just have beautiful jeans but I can tell you this I have met some of the most beautiful girls
I have met some of the most homeliest girls and when getting to know both of them there are so many beautiful girls beautiful on the outside but they are ugly on the inside to me that's the only I do there is is on the inside I don't care who you are in this world the moment I touch your hand and I feel how beautiful you are on the inside that's all that matters if you're ugly on the inside goodbye see you I don't care how much confidence anybody has it's not going to work
And then the homeliest girls they have no confidence but they are beautiful on the inside you teacher confidence and watch your grow and before you know it she not only has the beauty on the inside but it starts to get noticed on the outside
And this is why we are all unique we are all different we all have different taste in what we like and what we don't like
And this is why people have leagues did I think you so funny because nobody is that of anybody's League you hang out with that person enough and they get to know you they will see the real person on the inside and that's who they fall in love with everybody's the judge but they always try to judge the wrong thing when it's all said and done the outside of our body is just a mask the inside of our body is who we truly are and if you can't see that then you're going to find out the hard way and you're going to end up breaking up anyway so it doesn't even matter
If you know who you are and you truly honest with yourself you can find the right person for you but you have to look deeper to see the real Beauty
There are definitely leagues. Most people just don't want to accept that they're not as attractive as they want to be. Personally, I wouldn't want to date someone much more attractive than myself because then I'd constantly be having self esteem issues and feeling like I'm not good enough. If you don't think league's are real, I'd challenge you to name one supermodel that is dating a broke, overweight guy that still lives with his parents.
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Same, I personally wouldn’t date David Gandy because I’m an 8 and he’s a 10 😂 it isn’t a huge difference but I don’t expect that he’d choose me when he could get better
They just want a trophy partner to show off and brag around, someone who seen as attractive by society standard mostly. There are many people who are like this. I really don’t understand why it is so difficult for them to accept the fact that leagues exist. The truth is attractive/wealthy people tend to go for someone within their level. I think movies and novels are really damaging where it gives false hope and unrealistic expectations to a lot of people. They end up deluding themselves thinking it can happen in real life but all they get is disappointment. I mean I don’t mind who likes who. People like what they like, but they shouldn’t expect a yes if the other person doesn’t feel the same way. It is called hypocrisy which is so common these days. Some even go as far as attacking the opposite gender who rejected them for their look, when they won’t even want to lower their standards!
They might want to get the best they can get, despite their own attractiveness. Or they watch those movies where the nerd gets with the popular guy, or the guy gets the cheerleader. They are just hoping they can luck out I guess. Some people value the relationship much more if their partner is way more attractive than them.
I'd say it just comes down to then the more attractive persons willingness to settle. For someone who isn't just out to use their looks for their own use. Its like the catch 22 of someone being outraged over someone elses quote "trophy wife." What you gonna say if some ugly mans trophy wife turned out to be the one who proposed. XD
It doesn't take much to see even on here that even the hot women at a certain point just give up trying to find someone who is their even or higher. And just choose to settle with someone who will just love them for who they are.
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If they can get the people and they're attracted to them, then I see no issue with it. People like what they like. I'm talking about the hypocritical people who will only date super attractive people and don't care about other qualities like personality, but expect these extremely attractive people to lower their standards for looks.
Well, Duh 🙄. it never works out if the man is better looking or prettier than the woman. You should get out and date more. Nothing has really changed: —make more money than me-support us so I can play Feminist… —And I don’t care how much money you make, if you are hotter than me, HELL NO…you're still a man…and it’s worse today than ever with the regular hoes, girlie men, and traditional gays…and HELL NO with straight men know opening their asses to 🍆 and hipped dildo…NOPE, pretty boy-I even have a lesbian friend whose 35 and never had sex-and I’m sure one of those will find you…and don’t tell me…there ain’t a man alive that wouldn't unclog that barren drain line, HELL NO ‼️ —And that’s a white girl…
The world runs pretty fair in a way, these people end up alone and will end up getting the same energy back, she will end up getting rejected by someone much better looking than her at some point, her seeking these people and not being so attractive herself is about to happen at some point, some people are just blinded by their ego and don't see the reality
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Because it's not really love. Most people say they love a person and generally what they mean is, "I can tolerate you and you add to my social standing". Because the truth is most people will only date you if you think you increase their value in some way.
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This is very true! A lot of people won't even consider someone as an option if they don't make them look good in some way.
I mean if an ugly man won't get to know any girl inles she is taylor swift then good luck to him... If he gets what he wants then good for him... If he dosent, well maybe he lowers his standereds... I ain't gonna lie if i was going to choose between an okay girl and a complete beauty queen i wouldn't hesitate saying that im not a beauty king myself lol
In terms of attractiveness, there are sexual differences that must be taken into account. First, it is obvious that a woman's attractiveness only depends on her beauty. But in man, apart from beauty, there are two other variants, which are dominance and money. I mean, a rich man can be more attractive than a pretty woman.
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I think it depends on the woman. I personally like 50% looks and 50% personality. I don't actually care about money at all. Everyone has different criteria
I would like attractive girl but one within my means I guess. Can you rate my appearance please? Girls, How much do you rate my fat-ass out of 10? ↗ and please don't be mean just for the sake of being mean. Thanks :)
Well i mean I don't know id say im a solid 8 or so. So quite attractive but not like mr model. I am ok with dating girls that are a 10. Reason is its more than looks. Im also wealthy and have other things going for me so im overall a 10 ha. She might look like a 10 but 99% of women dont work on their personality or any other desirable part of themselves besides looks so when you average that in she's almost certainly less than a 10 overall.
If they only date super attractive people that sounds shallow to me
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There has to be some physical attraction but looks are only skin deep. A girl has to have more than looks to be in relationship.
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True! It's not just looks. But a lot of these people I'm talking about ONLY value looks. They would date someone who treats them awfully and isn't nice if they're their desired level of attractiveness.
Looks are subjective though. I have seen plenty of girls that worked at the local Taco Bells that looked better than professional models.
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I think they're subjective up to a point. You can have someone who's like shallow Hal who is obviously going only for people much better looking than him. I've met lots of Hals in real life, who complain that the models they will only date somehow don't want them, while treating their girlfriend who's not a model like she doesn't deserve him.
If they think someone isn't good enough then they shouldn't date them. It is bad/wrong to date them and then continually put them down and make them feel bad.
I know ugly men who date hot women and hot men who can’t get laid to save their lives. The men who date women way more attractive than they are do so because they can.
I've met women who do nothing for their appearance and are very attractive, and ones who spend hours in front of a mirror and aren't. I stand by my initial point, attractiveness is too subjective to have your question make any sense.
Plus stuff like makeup is just pasting on a fake version of themselves, better to be low maintinence and not bother and only date people who you find the natural look of attractive.
You know what I mean.. the not attractive ones. Attractiveness is subjective up to a POINT. If you watch the movie Shallow Hal, that is what I'm talking about. I still stand by my case, sorry.
And makeup is sometimes heavy, but sometimes used to enhance features that are already there. It can't make you into a Victorias secret model if you don't already have the base face and body for it.
women are guilty of this too, even if they’re not good looking they’ll describe this perfect guy they want and i’m always like ya the guy ur describing would want u.
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